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Wow. Where to begin. First, I'd like to examine the concept of bridezilla/groomzilla. I believe that description is reserved for those brides and/or grooms who have unrealistic expectations (that may change on a whim - and insist that the "vendors" change with them, on those whims) and/or who overestimate their own opinions, regardless of any possible detriment to their own event, or the enjoyment of their guests. While I don't know if you meet all of the criteria, I find it telling that the title of this thread suggests that this thread applies to ALL D.J.s, eight pages later, only to watch D.J. after D.J. declare themselves not ones that would want to work for you. While there is much to be learned here, clearly your saga is NOT for all D.J.s
You say you want to get to know the real passion behind the person, but you start with a question that screams "give me a schpeil": "What makes you different from other D.J.s in your area?" I don't know the passion behind most of the other D.J.s in my area, nor do I spend all day trying to figure out what they do. I focus on MY business, but you want me to comparison shop my business against "others" (vaguely) FOR you? Very dangerous ground here: if I don't answer at all, I'm off the list. If I badmouth the competition, I'm off the list. If I give an inadequate answer, I'm off the list. What's left with which to answer except something really vague?
Equipment is more important than experience? One of the things experience brings is knowledge about equipment, and how to use it properly. The equipment does nothing by itself - it has to be hooked up and run properly. If equipment is more important than experience, I agree with Steve from Canada that renting equipment may be an option for you.
As others have, I'd also stumble if a bride asked me about equipment in detail, simply because... in 27 years, it's never happened to me!
Just as I don't believe Ducky and J Mac are typical wedding clients (because they're also in this business), Rob you're not, either. "Reeking of GWYW" isn't something that I have ever heard from a prospective client, and I'd be very surprised if it ever happens. I understand the turnoff, but I also understand that it means essentially nothing outside of D.J. boards. IF this person (or persons) actually DO the duties of a wedding coordinator as well (and you want/need that service), if the coordination services were done by another vendor, how much more would they cost? If the answer is above $900, you're SAVING money with the higher-priced "entertainment".
Why?
You start a topic, and then when it's not getting the reactions you wanted, you storm off?
I'm sorry that yet another thread one of you has started has apparently not gone the way you apparently intended, but you're asking us to learn. Isn't it also fair that the same be asked of you? You should be able to take it as well as you dish it out.
I hope you change your mind, as I'd love to see your music lists, at some point.
Wow. Where to begin. First, I'd like to examine the concept of bridezilla/groomzilla. I believe that description is reserved for those brides and/or grooms who have unrealistic expectations (that may change on a whim - and insist that the "vendors" change with them, on those whims) and/or who overestimate their own opinions, regardless of any possible detriment to their own event, or the enjoyment of their guests. While I don't know if you meet all of the criteria, I find it telling that the title of this thread suggests that this thread applies to ALL D.J.s, eight pages later, only to watch D.J. after D.J. declare themselves not ones that would want to work for you. While there is much to be learned here, clearly your saga is NOT for all D.J.s
You say you want to get to know the real passion behind the person, but you start with a question that screams "give me a schpeil": "What makes you different from other D.J.s in your area?" I don't know the passion behind most of the other D.J.s in my area, nor do I spend all day trying to figure out what they do. I focus on MY business, but you want me to comparison shop my business against "others" (vaguely) FOR you? Very dangerous ground here: if I don't answer at all, I'm off the list. If I badmouth the competition, I'm off the list. If I give an inadequate answer, I'm off the list. What's left with which to answer except something really vague?
Equipment is more important than experience? One of the things experience brings is knowledge about equipment, and how to use it properly. The equipment does nothing by itself - it has to be hooked up and run properly. If equipment is more important than experience, I agree with Steve from Canada that renting equipment may be an option for you.
As others have, I'd also stumble if a bride asked me about equipment in detail, simply because... in 27 years, it's never happened to me!
Just as I don't believe Ducky and J Mac are typical wedding clients (because they're also in this business), Rob you're not, either. "Reeking of GWYW" isn't something that I have ever heard from a prospective client, and I'd be very surprised if it ever happens. I understand the turnoff, but I also understand that it means essentially nothing outside of D.J. boards. IF this person (or persons) actually DO the duties of a wedding coordinator as well (and you want/need that service), if the coordination services were done by another vendor, how much more would they cost? If the answer is above $900, you're SAVING money with the higher-priced "entertainment".
As for your comment about hiring a jukebox DJ or renting a laptop...
BLASPHEMY!!
I'm offended that you would even suggest that.
Why?
You start a topic, and then when it's not getting the reactions you wanted, you storm off?
I'm sorry that yet another thread one of you has started has apparently not gone the way you apparently intended, but you're asking us to learn. Isn't it also fair that the same be asked of you? You should be able to take it as well as you dish it out.
I hope you change your mind, as I'd love to see your music lists, at some point.
You should see it. It's where I pull my thumb out from behind my zipper! I love to hear the little kiddies scream when I do that one.
