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NOHTING happens after 930/end of events. NOTHING.
The same 10 people dance all night and one still shot of people dancing looks like a still shot of anyone else dancing.

I've always pushed wedding albums on brides - at one time every bride got one, no choice. It's now down to 80% get an album, And they get to choose 70 pictures.

Guess how many dancing pics they choose? 3 of the first dance, 1 or 2 of each parent. DONE.
I've never not once had a bride choose a general dance shot - the floor, grandma on teh floor, the bridal party - nothing,ever.
And I get shots of all that, slow dances, line, fast, ymca/chicken where a still shot does look a little different.

tell me those are not the pictures brides want, value, desire.

I've worked as a second shooter for some photogs that sell their service as 'bell to bell' and often work in shifts to make that happen - 9 am at the brides house till midnite at the hall. And they charge accordingly. Brides that spend $800 get what they pay for - just like with $300 dj/s.

I offer to stay - and in a decade had 2 choose to pay for it, had 2 pay for me start early "i want pictures of the hair being done" type thing.
And if the DJ can't stay on schedule I'll stay later. Sometimes it's the bride - been a few weddings where they show up late (90 minutes late a receptions is the record i've seen, and about 40 minutes to walking down the aisle). traffic or weather or waiting on grandma to get to the church an d such sometimes delays things.

But there are DJs that have no schedule, no clue, big ego's, etc. "I"m gonna do the first dance, 1/2 hour open dancing, then the garter" and they do 90 minutes of open dancing...and then the money dance for 45 more..THEN they get to the garter and bouqet at about 10 or 1030...

I've had a couple fo times the bride wants to keep to a tight budget and says 'i can only pay you to 8' and i explain about the events and she says 'no problem, don't stay for them'. Does she regret it that night? Perhaps.

it's always easy to throw the guy that aint there under the bus.

Not to worry, we hear our complaints about photographers too. Specifically when they say they are done at 8:30 and want to get everything done in 20 minutes. Or, they leave as soon as the dancing get started. I will NEVER EVER recommend a photographer like that. I hardly ever see quality pictures of the dancing portion of the night. They always say, "my time is up". Granted, I understand it's been a long day... TOO BAD!

So, I bet you have heard quite a few noise complaints... I assure you that when the bride comes up and says "can you believe my photographer left and the fun is just getting started", as much as I want to say that you (the bride) booked them, I just smile and agree.

The ONLY photographers I recommend are the ones that stay until they get the ENTIRE night for the bride & groom. Just another reason the bride & groom appreciate my advice.

It's no wonder so many dj's are bringing their cameras and taking pictures for the bride & grooms. It's funny that photographers complain that everyone with a digital camera is "stealing their weddings". Here's a thought... BE THERE TILL THE END! So, you're tired on Sunday. We all are!
 
So YOUR that dj!
I check in with the DJ when I get there and intro myself and ask about the evening's agenda. the GOOD dj's will be sure to find me and let me know that the cake cutting is coming up, etc.
the BAD dj's will just announce it as "the bride and groom are cutting the cake now" and indeed they are...

Vendor cooperation is best for everyone. A BAD dj won't get referrals from me. GOOD ones are the top of my list. My list has 4 djs on it. $300 to $2000ish. All are good (in every way, just not heads up).

YUUPPPP. all the weddings I do there is something special I do for the bride and groom and not once was the photog there
 
Nothing happens? EVERYTHING happens!

What about the sparkler send off? What about when they lift the bride up on a chair and carry her around? What about when the bride's mom gets on the table and starts dancing? What about when the 300 guests surround the bride & groom for their last dance?

You see, you don't see it because YOU LEAVE! (General statement, not YOU personally)

I assure you that in 27 YEARS of doing this, MANY brides have complained that their photographer leaves too early and they wish they would get pictures at the end.

And, 99.9% of the time, it has NOTHING to do with the "dj being able to stay on schedule". When the photographer shows up late with the bride & groom, not much we can do about that. Besides, it's NOT OUR SCHEDULE. It's the bride & grooms. If the BRIDE wants to do the bouquet and garter later, then that is what we do.

Chris, as I read your posts, they scare me quite a bit. Sometimes it is less about GETTING PAID and more about getting the job done the right way. If the bride wants to go another half hour... I do it. Not to get paid, to make them happy. What is the TRUE cost of staying an extra half hour and making your bride happy? To me, its something I would not think twice about doing.

wow... just wow. The FIRST thing I do with the photographer (EVERY ONE OF THEM) is go over the bride & grooms itinerary. If they say that we need to get things done by 8:30, I tell them, that is between you and the bride. I do EXACTLY what they want me to do, according to their schedule, not mine. If you have to leave... see ya and don't be mad when the bride is upset.

Oh, and on a final note. Just because YOUR brides don't pick dance shots, doesn't mean they don't get them. Almost every week, photographers email me dancing pictures and pictures of the circle we had formed around the bride & groom. They may not put those in the album but at least they have a choice to.
 
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