Weddings Introducing Divorced Parents

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Patrick

Patrick

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In tomorrow's wedding, all the parents are divorced and remarried. I would be interested to know how you guys do the introductions for these types of weddings. Normally I will say something like "now the mother of the bride (name) escorted by (name of new husband).....father of the bride (name) escorting (name of new wife)".

What do you guys and gals do?
 
Patrick, just like most things we do, we keep it honest. If they do want titles we'll normally roll with one of these two:

Father of the Bride John Doe and NewJane Doe or Father of the Bride John Doe and Step-mother of the Bride NewJane Doe.

We tend to find when things get complicated with step parents, most of our clients just choose not to introduce them.
 
This is more common that many would think. I'd say 1/2 if not more of my weddings involve divorced/remarried parents.
Common protocol is:

The mother of the bride_____ escorted by ______
The father of the bride____ &______

The mother of the the groom____ escorted by _____
The father of the groom_____ & ______

Ask your bride & groom how they would like them to be introduced. (stepmother, etc.)
 
I don't write that stuff. I leave it up to the bride & groom to provide me with the introductions. I also insist on them spelling the names phonetically where needed.

Just let them decide and read the copy.
 
Hank Davidson said:
I also insist on them spelling the names phonetically where needed.
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I never let anyone but me write out phonetical spellings. I've been told before, "wow, that's not how I would spell it."
 
Randy A said:
I don't take a chance...I ask the Bride & Groom to provide the details 'exactly' how they wish them to be introduced. Then, there is no goof on my part.
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Gotta go with Brother Randy on this one.... We'll give them the different scenarios, but it is their call as they would know their Family Dynamics better than we would.
 
DJ J Mac said:
I never let anyone but me write out phonetical spellings. I've been told before, "wow, that's not how I would spell it."
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Same here, we go over the names with the clients and I do the misspellings .... ;)
 
DJ J Mac said:
I never let anyone but me write out phonetical spellings. I've been told before, "wow, that's not how I would spell it."
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I have no problem with them doing the phonetic spelling. I'm still going to double check each one with the person and make my adjustments.
 
Hank Davidson said:
I don't write that stuff. I leave it up to the bride & groom to provide me with the introductions. I also insist on them spelling the names phonetically where needed.

Just let them decide and read the copy.
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I do let them decide. As with most things, I'll offer suggestions when dealing with divorced parents, then let them decide.
 
you folks in the midwest just do it the best. I wish I lived out there. Good Show Brother Randy!!:tribiggrin:
 
Hank Davidson said:
I don't write that stuff. I leave it up to the bride & groom to provide me with the introductions. I also insist on them spelling the names phonetically where needed.

Just let them decide and read the copy.
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Wow!....I'm going to respectfully disagree with you on this.

This is what separates the average human jukebox DJ from the professional DJ/Emcee.

A professional DJ will take the time to OFFER various ways for them to be introduced, and then let them decide the order. A typical bride & groom may not know. It is the DJ/Emcee's job to guide them.

It is your job as the professional DJ/Emcees job to write out the names phonetically, not the customer's job.

You as the Emcee will look like/come off as the inexperienced, unprepared bozo if names are misprounounced.

I personally, sit down & ask them to prounounce the names & I write them out phonetically so that I can properly understand (what I wrote)

Your performance will be captured on many video cameras & there is no do-overs. This is typically the start of the DJs public performance (the introductions) and if you screw it up, you have now set the tone for the evening & you have just cooked your goose because everyone will view you as THE DOOFUS.

If it gets screwed up, you have no one to blame but yourself.
 
"Father of the bride" is a nice title, but it should never be spoken on a microphone.

All of the guests, including the dates of people who were invited, should at the very least know the bride and groom's names.

Therefore, the introduction should be "[bride]'s father, [name], ...."

Even people who are clueless should be able to connect the dots when they hear a feminine name along with "father" that it's the Father of the Bride.

Note too that with divorced parents, some MCs have a tendency to introduce them together. Hello! They're divorced. They're not together. The're not going to be seated at the same table. Don't introduce them together - unless the bride gives you instructions to do so.

FYI: By "together" I don't mean as a couple, but as two couples making the entrance at the same time.
 
Dave Miller said:
"Father of the bride" is a nice title, but it should never be spoken on a microphone.

All of the guests, including the dates of people who were invited, should at the very least know the bride and groom's names.

Therefore, the introduction should be "[bride]'s father, [name], ...."

Even people who are clueless should be able to connect the dots when they hear a feminine name along with "father" that it's the Father of the Bride.
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Just a quick question Dave. So does this mean that titles such as groomsmen, bridesmaid, maid of honor, best man, flower girl, ring bearer, junior bridesmaid, etc should never be spoken over the mic either?
 
Randy are you reading your bible much today? Pointing fingers or assuming or judging another even if you havent a clue about what your accusations are (much like idle assumption or spreading defaming rumors) are typically not promoted in that book you claim salvation from. I gave praise to your reply go ahead make a smart assed reply in return it doesnt hurt me. Fire away sir.
 
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