@ DJCC You quoted in response to Mix's Post I don't have this problem. But then again I don't walk into a new venue and start making demands. Many times here people think that is what I do. They are wrong! It is an exaggeration of what I say and do. I negotiate for what I want by making the right suggestions and asking the right questions. I am not intimidated by the Venues nor am I fearful of being blacklisted. I do know for a fact that some are so scared to be blacklisted that they are afraid to "rock the boat". If they are so timid or coward to ask for what they want then that is their problem.
A site visit also helps to set the stage for a smooth load in setup and peaceful cooperation between the DJ and Staff. How many times I can see the look of respect in the Venue/Banquet Manager's eyes when I show up for a Site visit to work out gear and speaker placement. Often they would tell me, "This is unusual because only a few DJs or bands do what you are doing but that is good it helps us so we know what to expect" So when I post that I always get what I want as far as setup space, I did not get it by being arrogant. It is called the art of selling which is negotiation. Just want to clarify.
Canute, since I've been on this forum, there has not been a whole lot of talk about being blacklisted, much less fear of being blacklisted - so my question to you is where / who are these people that you claim "I do know for a fact that some are so scared to be blacklisted that they are afraid to "rock the boat"." Because you stated "I do know for a fact" means you have proof / evidence of some kind. Please share what proof / evidence you have with the class.
I agree with "If they are so timid or coward to ask for what they want then that is their problem." - but if this is their problem, then we should not waste our time berating them for not doing it. Most of the people on here, have been on here long enough and read enough posts to know how we approach situations - either they will adapt it wholly, pieces of it or none of it. Either way, it is their choice. Maybe they have a better way of doing things. I do know that cramming stuff down their throats as 'the right way' and 'facts', that are unproven, will only chase people away from here - and from any advice you may have to offer - valuable or not. What kind of (and how valuable of a) community do you have if you're the only one there? Is it any different if there are lots of people there but no one is participating?
Look at how few threads we see about shows anymore - and before you even start, it has little to do with someone wanting a pat on their back. It has everything to do with people sharing their experience - but why on earth would you continue to post your shows when it only ever ends in conflict because it doesn't meet what someone else thinks they would have done, or would not have dealt with, etc, etc (the key word here is 'thinks' - unless you were there, you can only guess what you would have done). This is also not about sugar coating. This is all about cameraderie.
Did you come here to establish and enforce rules, or to become part of, contribute, learn from, participate in, etc, etc this valuable little piece of the web that we call the ODJT?
You come off as being arrogant at the facilities you deal with because of the same way your postings come across - accusatory and you know better than us (and the facilities). Regardless of what you might think, people do not like know it all's. I think Danno said it best - if you actually talk to people in real life as you do on here, plenty of us would have told you to get lost already. I'm certain that you would have problems relating to and dealing with people, let alone negotiating.
I'm in total agreeance (and always have been) that you should offer solutions to your setup. I also know that depending on the circumstance / situation / facility, you may not be given the setup you ask for - regardless of how you negotiate or how peaceful you want to be. Some facilities will not allow you (nor anyone else) to change their layout - nor put things where you want to put them (for whatever reason that they may have) - and if you feel inclined to move things on your own, I'm pretty sure that in most places, this will guarantee you a one way ticket to the blacklist department.
In addition, I believe many here do have the negotiation skills, the guts and the glory to ask for what they want - so please do not assume any experienced professional here does not / is not doing that. Also, please do not assume people here are intimidated by venues. Assuming does nobody any good, especially when you can't back it up.
When you hang pictures in a home, do you tell them where it will be hung? Before you answer yes, is this 100% of the time?
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