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No drink, no eat, no bathroom???

Ok, I added in the no bathroom..Uh, hell no. On average, I drink 2-3 pitchers of water per reception. I also may have 4-5 glasses of diet coke, or pepsi, for the caffeine.

At the end of the end, and depending on the wedding party, I may have 1 Sam Adams or a beverage..And if acceptable to the venue..If not, no biggie, always cold Sam's At da house!

If I'm not allowed to partake in food, I need to know before hand..After so many hours of on my feet and working, my blood sugar gets really low and I could become very irate :) I'm not going to *pig out*, but put something down my tummy..

My 2 cents.
 
I think you did very well handling this Bridezilla.
That's ridiculous on her part. She doesn't need a dj...
Wait...did you meet her fiancee? What did he think of this demand?????

I had one bride who said she refused to feed me. The food they were getting was very expensive...blah blah blah.
I told her that's fine. I understand.
You should have seen this food. NOBODY at that reception expected this:

Exotic seafood. The only normal thing on that buffet table was crackers.

Most of it was thrown out. Lotta guests left looking for a McDonalds or something with NORMAL food. Then some came back to party(not all of them either). The bride was livid when she found out.

I had Subway.
 
Well... exotic seafood is all well and fine for guests who are accustomed to it. Evidently, this bride didn't have the presence of mind to ask her guests what they'd prefer for dinner, lol. :)

Some people don't care for seafood. Shirl won't touch it. Me, I can pig out on it. But that's how it is sometimes. But to spend all that dough on a main course that the guests didn't like... what a waste.
 
Meanwhile at this same wedding...the bride insisted that I DO NOT play country music. Over half of her family is from the Nashville area. Take a wild guess what music they wanted to hear. *ACK*

I've had brides range from "okay...do what you do" to "Do it my way or I'll sue you."

My fav yet is the mother of the bride who insisted on The Bunny Hop.
So after harassing me for an hour I finally played it. Irked the groom. The bride wasn't happy, but those 5 people on the dancefloor...wow...they were into it.
Meanwhile, the other 95 people who left the dancefloor ticked off at me...*ACK*
 
One thing I learned a long time ago is you cant please everyone.......


Like John Denver said Somedays are Diamonds....
 
Bunny Hop, Chicken Dance.... we'll rarely play these unless specified by the client. Played the Bunny Hop at a wedding some years ago to a full floor. I was surprised ~ they all got into it.

That was a time when I wish I had an extended remix. Maybe it could be called the Energizer Bunny Hop. :D
 
* Update *

I got a call from the groom on this one and, against the conscience, followed up on it. I think the words, "You may not want to hear from us or call us back, but, please do," got to me.

The groom told me that they interviewed with three other companies and all walked out on them because his fiancee's demand of no food or drink. One even stuck them with a Pinerra Bread bill, LOL.

The bottom line is that he had a talk with her about how unreasinable that was. They wanted to schedule another interview. I told him that I was concerned that this was just the tip of the iceberg and put in no uncertain terms that I felt that she was a bridezilla and I spelled out what I meant by that.

At the end of that explanation, I heard, "Now wait a minute. I'm not that bad." OK, now I'm pissed that she was on the phone and did not let me know but I set that aside. I then explained to the both of them that this is just what my experience shows and while I've had my share of delaings with bridezillas in the past, in the end it just raises too many tensions to be able to fully deliver a quality performance.

She then told me that I am a brutally honest person and that is what she wants and then I asked if she could, for one day, take direction from a DJ. I also explained, brutally, that I got the feeling that DJs and their staff were below her. This last statement made her say, "Well, after all, I have money and an education."

OK, I went off on her on this but she took it. I told her that I would have been her MC and I am a Federal employee that holds a BS on Physics, a BS in Compuer Science, an MS in Information Technology, an MA in Theology, and a PhD in Information technology and, while I probably don't have the money she has, my wife and I do live a comfortable life and I really didn't need her insignificant wedding to maintain all of that.

OK, now her fiancee is laughing and she asks me if I'm done. I said I was and she said, and I'll remeber this word for word for the rest of my life, "It figures that I'd run into a DJ with a better eduction than mine." This caught me off guard and I joined her fiancee in laughter.

When I stopped I asked where we stand. She told me that she didn't think we needed another interview but she wanted to know if I would coordinate it for her. I explained what we do and she told me that she wanted full coordination. I explained that we don't do that but there was one lady we have worked with in the past that is excellent. SHE ACTUALLY GOT THE NUMBER FROM ME AND CONFEREENCED HER IN!

The long and short of it is that my friend the coordinator is doing the consultation for her and my company is her mobile entertainmnet company.

Now the kicker, she asked if $2,000 A PIECE would be enough. Damn, I'm worth more than I thought. I'd better raise my rates, LOL. She followed up before either of us could chime in, and told us both that she understood that our prices were probably lower but this is what she wants to pay and if it is not enough, she'll meet it. I didn't argue.

Contract sent with her price on it, faxed back with signature, paymnet in full via PayPal, and receipt with signed contract sent back. She started working in the planning system as soon as she got the links.

I checked tye planning system this morning. The wedding isn't till August 20th of next year and she's already got most of the forms filled out. I'm actually starting to like her.
 
Honesty the best policy. All I can say is......:sqlaugh::sqlaugh::sqlaugh::sqlaugh::sqlaugh::sqlaugh::sqwink:
 
I can't wait to read your report the Monday after her wedding. :sqwink:
 
I definitely want to hear about this wedding!!! Pictures too!!!!

Well, in the long run, this has turned out well for you. Beyond well.
And I am soooo glad that SOMEBODY said something to her.

Meanwhile, my education is just BS...LOL!
 
Good for you, Tom. All them degrees finally came into use. ;)

I hope it works out well for you. A lot can happen in a year.
 
GoodKnightDJ said:
This last statement made her say, "Well, after all, I have money and an education."
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This is why you are so much better at PR than me or many here. At this point I would have told her that if she thought she was so ****ing smart play her own wedding
 
Dan McKay said:
It looks like you made the right call by telling this bride-to-be to go pound sand, but perhaps there's a bigger question...I would never bring this up to a prospect at a meeting unprompted! Certainly if the prospect brings it up you can address it. But why create a possible point of contention if you don't have to?

I don't think a prospect has brought up the topic of drinking/smoking with me ever. Eating, yes. But usually only to ask if I wanted a plate made for me or if I get something at the buffet.

If I had have employees who smoked, I would let them know before I hired them that they could not leave the event, period. They're free to smoke before or after the event, but during the reception they have to abstain. They can wear a nicotine patch or just pretend they're on a long airplane flight.

I'm curious for other DJ's who smoke...how do you deal with your habit during events?
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Good question. I smoke prior too the event, I also sneak out for no more than 3 minutes during dinner and once the party really begins, I forget about cigs I'm just too into what I am doing.
 
I am also brutally honest and if brides or grooms dont like that then they know where to go also

I have had more coming back to do repeat jobs than I can handle but I always help where I can for every show I do (if I get a weekend off - like tonight I love it)
 
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