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For all you know, you may actually have them speaking negatively bc of all your rules. I know around here vendors in the industry bash venues that keep things in house. Those venues tend to not last long as outside vendors do such a good job of scaring people about the low quality vendors the venues provide for a low price.

You are not right about this, but I don’t think you want to accept this perspective as you always say I’m the exception to everything. I’m just an average guy… I’m nothing special in this industry.

Why would you say I have a bunch of rules? I don't. I offer all-inclusive packages and I offer DIY. 95% of my prospects choose the all-inclusive options. As for rules, I have 4;

1) If you're going to have alcohol, you have to hire a licensed bar-tender who is there the entire event (absolutely no self-serve).
2) No glass bottles that get handed to guests.
3) No plastic flowers or confetti thrown outside.
4) Don't burn the place down (always gets a chuckle).

The quality of my vendors is very high, as reflected in my online reviews. I'm delivering a high quality event at an affordable price. As for me being put out of business due to possible bad word of mouth, highly unlikely. My place is fully paid for and I have minimal overhead. If my packaging isn't correct and needs tweaking then I'll change it.
 
Why would you say I have a bunch of rules? I don't. I offer all-inclusive packages and I offer DIY. 95% of my prospects choose the all-inclusive options. As for rules, I have 4;

1) If you're going to have alcohol, you have to hire a licensed bar-tender who is there the entire event (absolutely no self-serve).
2) No glass bottles that get handed to guests.
3) No plastic flowers or confetti thrown outside.
4) Don't burn the place down (always gets a chuckle).

The quality of my vendors is very high, as reflected in my online reviews. I'm delivering a high quality event at an affordable price. As for me being put out of business due to possible bad word of mouth, highly unlikely. My place is fully paid for and I have minimal overhead. If my packaging isn't correct and needs tweaking then I'll change it.
Didn't you forget one more rule? No using drugs at your venue. Great rule the way I see it. Now you keep mentioning affordable. I don't like you saying that because what might be affordable to one person, may not be for another person. I suggest just give your prices and let the potential client decide if they can afford your venue or not.
 
So is that for all packages?

I did away with the 3-package offering and went to a single all-inclusive at $8,500. I also setup 2 add-ons; Photography for $2500 and Planner for $2500. Oh yeah, I did go ahead and put back the option of single-day, DIY for $2,950. On the drug use, of course drugs are not allowed and it's addressed within my Booking Agreement contract. Illegal drug use is an event-ending offense. I don't see it as productive to include that in the in person discussions.

As for using the word "affordable", you need to get over that. It's not offensive and one of the most-used words in sales.
 
I did away with the 3-package offering and went to a single all-inclusive at $8,500. I also setup 2 add-ons; Photography for $2500 and Planner for $2500. Oh yeah, I did go ahead and put back the option of single-day, DIY for $2,950. On the drug use, of course drugs are not allowed and it's addressed within my Booking Agreement contract. Illegal drug use is an event-ending offense. I don't see it as productive to include that in the in person discussions.

As for using the word "affordable", you need to get over that. It's not offensive and one of the most-used words in sales.
My issue with saying affordable is this. You have a lot of things you can offer in these packages. Some may question why is the price so cheap with all what you offer.

Also there's a thing called W.W.W. You have a website and that website can reach further than the area you're in. So just don't limit your business to a certain area. Someone out of your area may decide they want to have their wedding there. You never know. If they feel it's attractive enough they may decide to have their wedding in your venue even if it's a bit away.
 
Why would you say I have a bunch of rules? I don't. I offer all-inclusive packages and I offer DIY. 95% of my prospects choose the all-inclusive options. As for rules, I have 4;

1) If you're going to have alcohol, you have to hire a licensed bar-tender who is there the entire event (absolutely no self-serve).
2) No glass bottles that get handed to guests.
3) No plastic flowers or confetti thrown outside.
4) Don't burn the place down (always gets a chuckle).

The quality of my vendors is very high, as reflected in my online reviews. I'm delivering a high quality event at an affordable price. As for me being put out of business due to possible bad word of mouth, highly unlikely. My place is fully paid for and I have minimal overhead. If my packaging isn't correct and needs tweaking then I'll change it.
Sorry in advance, as some of the things said via text dont necessarily reflect how I'm meant for them to be read. I'll try this again

- What I meant by talk negatively, will likely be similar to what happens here in NJ with venues similar to this that try to push everything in house or discourage outside vendors (for example, some charge a fee to have an outside vendor, some don't allow it, some treat em worse, some only allow the in house options). This talk includes vendor to vendor convos or convos from vendor to family/friends/perspective clients and comments like "why would anyone want to book there when they don't let you bring in your own people", "don't go there, all the in house vendors are all low end and cheap so the owner can make profit", "they're so restrictive, I would never want to work in a place like that", "every event they do is the same thing on repeat, why would a bride want the same thing as everyone else", "if you want me to be your photog/video/dj/caterer then you can't book that venue from what I hear".

As time passes these spread more and more and eventually, like every game of telephone get construed into other far from true comments. But either way, by limiting outside vendors, you're in a way giving them the ability to control that narrative, as these people in the end are likely never going to contact you for you to argue your point like you're able to do with me.

You're also limiting the amount of reach you have by minimizing the number of trusted vendors in your area that have access to your venue. Think about it, everytime I go to a venue, I likely do about 10 instagram posts between stories and reels to my 4000 followers, as well as youtube, as well as tiktok. And it's not just to my followers, my content also come sup as suggested content to those that don't follow me. And I'm just one dj... the more diverse vendors you have coming in, the more THEY'RE exposing your venue for you. And let's be real, your instagram and social media game is non existent (you haven't posted since last summer). And hardly any guests are tagging your geolocation to generate content that way (only 4 people tagged your location in 2024, different than your account). That type of exposure in itself is priceless in 2025.

Remember... word of mouth only works when you have lots of people talking about you. Who better to talk about you than industry leaders. If your venue comes up in someones search, statistically speaking they're likely saying, oh I never heard of them... rather than "oh I see everyone post this place" or "oh I heard this place is really good from my friend that's worked there". And you definitely don't want them to be saying "oh I heard from some people that it wasn't anything special" or "everything is so basic there and the people they make you use are cheap" especially if it's someone looking for an elevated experience and they want a glam photo booth instead of a basic one, or they have a really talented dj cause they want club vibes on the dancefloor, but you force yours in the price (at least from an outsiders perspective), so they don't bother to ever call you. And while you may say I don't want that client anyways, you're also losing the narrative game at that point too by them not even giving your venue a chance and maintaining that negative thought.

- I'm VERY weary of online reviews. All they do is confirm that something is worth THAT particular price point. A $900 dj here gets 5 star reviews and in many cases, bc of the volume of work, they have more 5 star reviews than a higher quality company. For example, a dj that is half my price has like 500 reviews that are 5 star... I have like 70... but I'm literally double the price. Does that mean the $1400 dj is better than me. Likely not. It just means he's providing the $1400 level of service thats expected at that price point and im providing the $3000 level worth of service that's expected from my clients. Mcd's can get 5 stars, but so can a burger joint that charges $30 for a burger... doesn't mean mcds burgers are the same quality. A better way to frame it... if those vendors charged triple and provided the same quality of work... would they still be getting 5 stars?

- No one suggested YOU'RE going out of business. I was simply pointing out how these situations can affect a businesses' success/growth, and how here it has closed down numerous locations that tried to have a lot of control over things.

In the end, like all businesses, it is yours to run as you wish. There is a lot of power in social media right now and word of mouth, and if you're not gonna get a marketing company to do it for you and provide the positive exposure for you, then encourage having other high quality vendors there that can do it for you sort of speak.
 
My issue with saying affordable is this. You have a lot of things you can offer in these packages. Some may question why is the price so cheap with all what you offer.

Also there's a thing called W.W.W. You have a website and that website can reach further than the area you're in. So just don't limit your business to a certain area. Someone out of your area may decide they want to have their wedding there. You never know. If they feel it's attractive enough they may decide to have their wedding in your venue even if it's a bit away.
Unlike a dj that can travel, his venue is where it is. He can only attract clients of say 1hr away, unless he's offering something of value that no one else is. Also, just because you have a website, that doesn't mean it's reaching out for you. You have to do the work for your place the be exposed to others. A website is useless on it's own if you can't get people to find your website.
 
Selling a venue means getting people into the place too see and experience it.

, , , and you do have rules - a doozie is: Only weddings. If the sales plan is to meet with one client at a time about a single wedding event, while you experiment with decorations, DJ novelty, or how you present the price - this is going to take a really long time. You're likely to be doing more building maintenance than entertaining.

Word-of-mouth only happens when people have an experience worth remembering and something to talk about. Advertising doesn't do that because the rate of connection is so far lower than the rate of potential exposure. You don't even know if weddings are your highest and best customer. You've simply forced that singularity as a rule.
 
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Selling a venue means getting people into the place too see and experience it.

, , , and you do have rules - a doozie is: Only weddings. If the sales plan is to meet with one client at a time about a single wedding event, while you experiment with decorations, DJ novelty, or how you present the price - this is going to take a really long time. You're likely to be doing more building maintenance than entertaining.

Word-of-mouth only happens when people have an experience worth remembering and something to talk about. Advertising doesn't do that because the rate of connection is so far lower than the rate of potential exposure. You don't even know if weddings are your highest and best customer. You've simply forced that singularity as a rule.
To be fair to Rick he has decided to stick with weddings and that's what he sees as the most profitable. He's had other events in his venue and they didn't pay anywhere near what a wedding will pay. So He's doing what he feels will make the most profit for him with his venue.
 
1) What I meant by talk negatively, will likely be similar to what happens here in NJ with venues similar to this that try to push everything in house or discourage outside vendors (for example, some charge a fee to have an outside vendor, some don't allow it, some treat em worse, some only allow the in house options). This talk includes vendor to vendor convos or convos from vendor to family/friends/perspective clients and comments like "why would anyone want to book there when they don't let you bring in your own people", "don't go there, all the in house vendors are all low end and cheap so the owner can make profit", "they're so restrictive, I would never want to work in a place like that", "every event they do is the same thing on repeat, why would a bride want the same thing as everyone else", "if you want me to be your photog/video/dj/caterer then you can't book that venue from what I hear".



2) You're also limiting the amount of reach you have by minimizing the number of trusted vendors in your area that have access to your venue.

3) I'm VERY weary of online reviews. All they do is confirm that something is worth THAT particular price point.

4) No one suggested YOU'RE going out of business. I was simply pointing out how these situations can affect a businesses' success/growth, and how here it has closed down numerous locations that tried to have a lot of control over things.

5) In the end, like all businesses, it is yours to run as you wish. There is a lot of power in social media right now and word of mouth, and if you're not gonna get a marketing company to do it for you and provide the positive exposure for you, then encourage having other high quality vendors there that can do it for you sort of speak.

1) Yes, I had to deal with venues who required their chosen vendors to do a "buy out" when you wanted to use someone else. I don't do that, and I don't discourage clients from DIY, if that's what they want. I offer the DIY option but the simple truth of it is that my prospects are choosing the all-inclusive option. I keep hearing, time and again, that they like that I handle it all and it's why they're going with me.

2) I agree with your point but from a business perspective, I have to go with the option(s) that make the most money. At present, that's the all-inclusive option. It's true, I'm losing the networking and word of mouth from vendors but I can't give up bookings for what MIGHT bring in more prospects.

3) I also feel like reviews have kinda run their course however, the past 2-3 bookings have specifically mentioned my reviews as part of their reasoning for booking with me. The last booking was a referral from a bride (the groom works with her) from 2 years ago. That's pure word of mouth and I'll take it.

4) You did infer that I'd likely follow suit with some other venues in your area and I take exception to that. Keep in mind that I basically lost everything (from the divorce) to move back to Alabama to operate a venue. This venue basically cost me a 33 year marriage, along with all my assets. I've got everything on the line and I'm being extremely careful to make sure I'm in a position of financial strength (i.e. no mortgage) going forward. I think I'm meeting that goal. I'm going to be retiring from the day job in 2-5 years. This venue will likely become my full-time living.

5) You're exactly correct and I admit, I've done a crappy job on social media. I do believe that adding the Planner option to my packaging is going to end up being a great move. It's going to give my clients a higher level experience, not to mention the planners I'm associating with are already hitting social media hard. There's momentum building, I just have to keep applying energy to make it go faster.

I want you to know how much I appreciate your input. Even if we don't see completely eye-to-eye, I value your opinion and the great acumen you share.
 
To be fair to Rick he has decided to stick with weddings and that's what he sees as the most profitable. He's had other events in his venue and they didn't pay anywhere near what a wedding will pay. So He's doing what he feels will make the most profit for him with his venue.

Correct. Non-weddings, in my opinion, have very limited revenue potential. Birthdays, retirement, corporate functions basically don't want to pay over $500, which isn't worth my time to pursue. Yes, having those events would get more eyeballs in the building but frankly the aggravation, cleanup and repairs are not worth it. I'd rather the building sit empty that to have those kinds of events burning my energy up.
 
1) Yes, I had to deal with venues who required their chosen vendors to do a "buy out" when you wanted to use someone else. I don't do that, and I don't discourage clients from DIY, if that's what they want. I offer the DIY option but the simple truth of it is that my prospects are choosing the all-inclusive option. I keep hearing, time and again, that they like that I handle it all and it's why they're going with me.

2) I agree with your point but from a business perspective, I have to go with the option(s) that make the most money. At present, that's the all-inclusive option. It's true, I'm losing the networking and word of mouth from vendors but I can't give up bookings for what MIGHT bring in more prospects.

3) I also feel like reviews have kinda run their course however, the past 2-3 bookings have specifically mentioned my reviews as part of their reasoning for booking with me. The last booking was a referral from a bride (the groom works with her) from 2 years ago. That's pure word of mouth and I'll take it.

4) You did infer that I'd likely follow suit with some other venues in your area and I take exception to that. Keep in mind that I basically lost everything (from the divorce) to move back to Alabama to operate a venue. This venue basically cost me a 33 year marriage, along with all my assets. I've got everything on the line and I'm being extremely careful to make sure I'm in a position of financial strength (i.e. no mortgage) going forward. I think I'm meeting that goal. I'm going to be retiring from the day job in 2-5 years. This venue will likely become my full-time living.

5) You're exactly correct and I admit, I've done a crappy job on social media. I do believe that adding the Planner option to my packaging is going to end up being a great move. It's going to give my clients a higher level experience, not to mention the planners I'm associating with are already hitting social media hard. There's momentum building, I just have to keep applying energy to make it go faster.

I want you to know how much I appreciate your input. Even if we don't see completely eye-to-eye, I value your opinion and the great acumen you share.
1) I know what you do, but the person that never calls you and hears false info will never know the truth. Again, it becomes a game of telephone when you have others talking about you and you can't combat it

For example I found out 3yrs after the fact that I had lost out on a contract that had 5 events a year bc they saw me doing so many weddings, that they thought I wouldn't do their event anymore... the reality though was someone said that bc they wanted to bring their dj in, but no one bothered to call me to found out or for me to correct it. 3 years later a new person called me because the dj they were using was terrible. I was shocked to hear that they thought I wouldn't do their event bc that was not true and wished someone would call me all these years. While I was a little annoyed at the time, truth is in the long run it was ok bc I didn't need those events and had more than enough inquiries to fill in the date, but it did create a false narrative which I didn't like.

2) This is the part that I don't get perhaps, as this is fundamental business 101. You're telling me by including the dj, photo booth, and sparklers, at $8500 costs you more money than charging $8500 without it? People are attracted to your base price and the location... they're not booking because of the dj being included or photo booth, etc. Yes you're hearing they love it, but it's not the fundamental reason they're booking you. You're a venue, they're coming to you first for the fundamentals, not because you included the dj. Do you not think that you could get $8500 without the other stuff? I used to include lights, uplighting, cocktail hour etc. in my price. I wanted to charge more, but was afraid of raising my starting price. What did I do... stripped down the base to just the necessities (sound for the reception only). What happened... nothing, other than make more money. Why? Bc the people that wanted the other services got em and I made more money, and the people that didn't care for them didn't add them, but I still got paid my minimum and now brought out less equipment.

This ties back in with 1 & 2. You're only seeing the people that do contact you and their feeding into your perception of stuff needs to be included. How about the people you're not hearing from? Now, if you told me you have more than enough bookings and can't handle anymore, then I'd say you don't need to change a thing. But it seems you're often suggesting that you'd like more business or that you have dry points or are not closing well, so a different perspective is in a way warranted, especially if this is to be your full time thing in 2-5 years.

3) Reviews only justify that what you're doing for that price point and what you're offering works. They're good to have, but no one contacts you because they saw a review. They first hear about you or find you elsewhere (in this case a friend of the groom) and then check your reviews to make sure its not smoke and mirrors. Again everything is tied it in what we do. There will be some that hear about you, read your reviews, and will call you, but then there are others that will do the same but because you're not socially active they won't call you.

4) Again never implied that YOU go out of business, but that this concept is not often received well and that has actually caused all inclusive venues of this sort in NJ to go out of business. I've mentioend that in the past in other threads of yours as well.

You have minimal overhead, but lets look at it from a different perspective. If you had say a $4k or $5k a month mortgage or rent to operate this facility (which is what I'd imagine would cost someone to start from scratch, get a business loan, buy the land and take out a loan to put all the infrastructure and equipemnt in place)... would you still be able to sustain it and be profitable?

5) The planner alone to her how ever many followers alone will not do enough. It's exponential, where the more vendors and people that post about you, the higher chance of exposure you'll receive. The avg person needs 7 touches or 7 moments of exposure to remember a brand. Idk if this person alone can carry a brand and provide enough sustained exposure to Birmingham and its surrounding towns. The biggest vendors for exposure are the ones that are there the entire day... photogs, planners, dj's, videographers, photo booth companies and caterers. All the one's with exception of video that you push strongly in house.

I just wanna see you thrive lol, no hard feelings however you take this, and there are some things that I'm not against that you do such as weddings only. Around here there are tons of those and they end up becoming the most sought after. As long as you convey that message well then you can really do well in the wedding only space.

SIDE NOTE: You created single day option for $2950. Doesn't that literally go against everything you've been saying to me? Like I can literally book the $3000 package and bring in everything I want... hire a day of coordinator for $500 to set up everything for me in terms of decor, bring in my dj for $1500 who will include a photo booth (assume idc about sparklers), and pay $2000 for food for 50 (say $40pp). I didn't need the night before or the next day since I'm paying someone to set up and breakdown that day. All in it cost me $7000 and if I want the extra day for rehearsal its $8000... got everything I want and saved $500-$1000. Meanwhile you only got paid 2950 or $3950 for the weekend... instead of $8500. I don't see the logic of this option without restrictions.
 
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1) I know what you do, but the person that never calls you and hears false info will never know the truth. Again, it becomes a game of telephone when you have others talking about you and you can't combat it

For example I found out 3yrs after the fact that I had lost out on a contract that had 5 events a year bc they saw me doing so many weddings, that they thought I wouldn't do their event anymore... the reality though was someone said that bc they wanted to bring their dj in, but no one bothered to call me to found out or for me to correct it. 3 years later a new person called me because the dj they were using was terrible. I was shocked to hear that they thought I wouldn't do their event bc that was not true and wished someone would call me all these years. While I was a little annoyed at the time, truth is in the long run it was ok bc I didn't need those events and had more than enough inquiries to fill in the date, but it did create a false narrative which I didn't like.

2) This is the part that I don't get perhaps, as this is fundamental business 101. You're telling me by including the dj, photo booth, and sparklers, at $8500 costs you more money than charging $8500 without it? People are attracted to your base price and the location... they're not booking because of the dj being included or photo booth, etc. Yes you're hearing they love it, but it's not the fundamental reason they're booking you. You're a venue, they're coming to you first for the fundamentals, not because you included the dj. Do you not think that you could get $8500 without the other stuff? I used to include lights, uplighting, cocktail hour etc. in my price. I wanted to charge more, but was afraid of raising my starting price. What did I do... stripped down the base to just the necessities (sound for the reception only). What happened... nothing, other than make more money. Why? Bc the people that wanted the other services got em and I made more money, and the people that didn't care for them didn't add them, but I still got paid my minimum and now brought out less equipment.

This ties back in with 1 & 2. You're only seeing the people that do contact you and their feeding into your perception of stuff needs to be included. How about the people you're not hearing from? Now, if you told me you have more than enough bookings and can't handle anymore, then I'd say you don't need to change a thing. But it seems you're often suggesting that you'd like more business or that you have dry points or are not closing well, so a different perspective is in a way warranted, especially if this is to be your full time thing in 2-5 years.

3) Reviews only justify that what you're doing for that price point and what you're offering works. They're good to have, but no one contacts you because they saw a review. They first hear about you or find you elsewhere (in this case a friend of the groom) and then check your reviews to make sure its not smoke and mirrors. Again everything is tied it in what we do. There will be some that hear about you, read your reviews, and will call you, but then there are others that will do the same but because you're not socially active they won't call you.

4) Again never implied that YOU go out of business, but that this concept is not often received well and that has actually caused all inclusive venues of this sort in NJ to go out of business. I've mentioend that in the past in other threads of yours as well.

You have minimal overhead, but lets look at it from a different perspective. If you had say a $4k or $5k a month mortgage or rent to operate this facility (which is what I'd imagine would cost someone to start from scratch, get a business loan, buy the land and take out a loan to put all the infrastructure and equipemnt in place)... would you still be able to sustain it and be profitable?

5) The planner alone to her how ever many followers alone will not do enough. It's exponential, where the more vendors and people that post about you, the higher chance of exposure you'll receive. The avg person needs 7 touches or 7 moments of exposure to remember a brand. Idk if this person alone can carry a brand and provide enough sustained exposure to Birmingham and its surrounding towns. The biggest vendors for exposure are the ones that are there the entire day... photogs, planners, dj's, videographers, photo booth companies and caterers. All the one's with exception of video that you push strongly in house.

I just wanna see you thrive lol, no hard feelings however you take this, and there are some things that I'm not against that you do such as weddings only. Around here there are tons of those and they end up becoming the most sought after. As long as you convey that message well then you can really do well in the wedding only space.

SIDE NOTE: You created single day option for $2950. Doesn't that literally go against everything you've been saying to me? Like I can literally book the $3000 package and bring in everything I want... hire a day of coordinator for $500 to set up everything for me in terms of decor, bring in my dj for $1500 who will include a photo booth (assume idc about sparklers), and pay $2000 for food for 50 (say $40pp). I didn't need the night before or the next day since I'm paying someone to set up and breakdown that day. All in it cost me $7000 and if I want the extra day for rehearsal its $8000... got everything I want and saved $500-$1000. Meanwhile you only got paid 2950 or $3950 for the weekend... instead of $8500. I don't see the logic of this option without restrictions.

#1 - Sure there might be plenty I never hear about but, it's my belief that if that were happening I WOULD hear about it from some direction.

#2 - My premise is that by throwing in everything, and putting it at a single price is precisely why prospects are coming. Sure I could leave them off but in this area a venue-only option is $2k-$3k. In Birmingham, it's substantially more. My extras are what's driving a lot of my tours.

#3 - Won't argue with you. All I'm reporting is that here lately I've had several bookings who specifically cited reviews as to why they took a look at my place. As for the lack of social media, guilty as charged. It's one of the things I'm trying to fix.

#4 - Frankly, if I had $4k-$5k overhead per month, I wouldn't be in this game. I can understand how so many jump in then jump out. I have friends in Nashville that own a historic mansion venue and I don't see how they do it. She's only getting about $6k for an event and they can only seat 100, outside, under a tent. Their mortgage is somewhere in the $10k-$13k per month range.

#5 - I understand what you're saying. There certainly is value in a good referral network. However, to try and address that would mean a complete re-work of my entire strategy. That will NOT be happening. I'm committed to the direction I've taken. While it's not producing as much revenue as I think is possible, that just means to keep tweaking things and working on my social media presence.

On the side note, you guys did get me to re-think the basic, venue-only rental so I've put it back in play. I don't think it goes against an all-inclusive option, it just widens the cast a bit. You guys basically have said I narrowed my options too much and I'm agreeing with you. I sincerely appreciate your continued input. I know you guys are just wanting to see me succeed. Me too.
 
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Please let me suggest something for your website. Those are some great photos. I suggest you adding videos to the website of people having a great time at your venue. It doesn't have to be a ton of them. Just enough to show people having a good time at your venue. I don't see people saying no to you taking video footage of their event and you putting it on your website or social media pages. If a bride says no, then keep asking till you get a bride to say yes.
 
So my neighbor down the street from me calls me out of the blue the other day. I have not talked to him since 2020. Been almost 5 years. Anyway, his wife and him got married. They are doing the whole celebration part on Sunday April 13th. I am heading out on spring vacation next Sunday so I can't DJ it, but he asked me if he can rent a blue tooth speaker and a microphone. I said Sure, and it will be no charge. He built a ramp for the side of our house many years ago to help out with leading water away from the wall when it rains. We have a tiny crack in our foundation below the ground somewhere, and water gets into our basement when the ground gets real saturated after a heavy down pour. He built us a ramp and tarp on it at no charge and it helped tremendously. Plumbers told me it would cost around $4,500 to $5,500 to identify the issue and get it fixed and that was like 15 years ago.

Anyway, I told him no charge on the speaker. We got to talking, and I did try to sell my brother as a DJ option for him, and even with a hefty discount he said he doesn't have the money and can't afford it. This man works with the railroad, a good union job. He works OT often and his regular wage is like $32/hr. He has a good paying job for our area. I don't know what his wife does. Anyway, He told me the venue cost $1,000 to rent. Open basic bar for 60 people is about $1,100. It is a VFW hall. One of the lowest cost options in the area. He has a friend doing all the catering for the food. The food was a few thousand dollars but that is with no staff and no linens or silverware etc being provided. That is simply the caterer dropping the food off and they have to serve it themselves. He tells me he can't afford $600 for a DJ.

Someone with a good paying job in my area is hosting an affordable event for 60 guests and can't afford $600 for a DJ in 2025. Let that sink in.
 
So my neighbor down the street from me calls me out of the blue the other day. I have not talked to him since 2020. Been almost 5 years. Anyway, his wife and him got married. They are doing the whole celebration part on Sunday April 13th. I am heading out on spring vacation next Sunday so I can't DJ it, but he asked me if he can rent a blue tooth speaker and a microphone. I said Sure, and it will be no charge. He built a ramp for the side of our house many years ago to help out with leading water away from the wall when it rains. We have a tiny crack in our foundation below the ground somewhere, and water gets into our basement when the ground gets real saturated after a heavy down pour. He built us a ramp and tarp on it at no charge and it helped tremendously. Plumbers told me it would cost around $4,500 to $5,500 to identify the issue and get it fixed and that was like 15 years ago.

Anyway, I told him no charge on the speaker. We got to talking, and I did try to sell my brother as a DJ option for him, and even with a hefty discount he said he doesn't have the money and can't afford it. This man works with the railroad, a good union job. He works OT often and his regular wage is like $32/hr. He has a good paying job for our area. I don't know what his wife does. Anyway, He told me the venue cost $1,000 to rent. Open basic bar for 60 people is about $1,100. It is a VFW hall. One of the lowest cost options in the area. He has a friend doing all the catering for the food. The food was a few thousand dollars but that is with no staff and no linens or silverware etc being provided. That is simply the caterer dropping the food off and they have to serve it themselves. He tells me he can't afford $600 for a DJ.

Someone with a good paying job in my area is hosting an affordable event for 60 guests and can't afford $600 for a DJ in 2025. Let that sink in.
Just cause you make good money doesn’t mean you know how to save money. You didn’t know his debts or decisions from long ago that affect him now. You also don’t know what the wife makes bc that makes a huge difference. In addition 60k a year is no longer considered good money by most economic standards… nowadays you need closer to 90k as an individual to be comfortable assuming you have to pay for housing, a car, health insurance, and investing.
 
So my neighbor down the street from me calls me out of the blue the other day. I have not talked to him since 2020. Been almost 5 years. Anyway, his wife and him got married. They are doing the whole celebration part on Sunday April 13th. I am heading out on spring vacation next Sunday so I can't DJ it, but he asked me if he can rent a blue tooth speaker and a microphone. I said Sure, and it will be no charge. He built a ramp for the side of our house many years ago to help out with leading water away from the wall when it rains. We have a tiny crack in our foundation below the ground somewhere, and water gets into our basement when the ground gets real saturated after a heavy down pour. He built us a ramp and tarp on it at no charge and it helped tremendously. Plumbers told me it would cost around $4,500 to $5,500 to identify the issue and get it fixed and that was like 15 years ago.

Anyway, I told him no charge on the speaker. We got to talking, and I did try to sell my brother as a DJ option for him, and even with a hefty discount he said he doesn't have the money and can't afford it. This man works with the railroad, a good union job. He works OT often and his regular wage is like $32/hr. He has a good paying job for our area. I don't know what his wife does. Anyway, He told me the venue cost $1,000 to rent. Open basic bar for 60 people is about $1,100. It is a VFW hall. One of the lowest cost options in the area. He has a friend doing all the catering for the food. The food was a few thousand dollars but that is with no staff and no linens or silverware etc being provided. That is simply the caterer dropping the food off and they have to serve it themselves. He tells me he can't afford $600 for a DJ.

Someone with a good paying job in my area is hosting an affordable event for 60 guests and can't afford $600 for a DJ in 2025. Let that sink in.
What's to sink in. You mentioned qll the variables. Yet you don't know his personal financial situation. As you said he has a good paying job and that's great. You never mentioned him having money like Bill Gates. When his daughter got married it cost him 2 million dollars. He's a billionaire. So for him that was a drop in the bucket.

The old saying is don't judge a book by its cover. It sounds like he should easily be able to afford $600 for your brother as the DJ for that event. After spending all the money he has spent all ready, he may not have the money to spend.
 
Just cause you make good money doesn’t mean you know how to save money. You didn’t know his debts or decisions from long ago that affect him now. You also don’t know what the wife makes bc that makes a huge difference. In addition 60k a year is no longer considered good money by most economic standards… nowadays you need closer to 90k as an individual to be comfortable assuming you have to pay for housing, a car, health insurance, and investing.
He works a lot of OT. Well, I remember back in 2020 he was. He was telling me he was getting 2X pay if they have to call him in on his day off and they were short on staff at the time. I don't know how much OT he works these days, but he was probably earning that 90K a year or close to it in 2020 with all the OT he was working. $46/hr+ in OT is good pay.

I don't know his current finances. That is correct, but I know his mortgage was less than $850 a month. He bought his house from his mom, and took a mortgage out on it. She moved north of the area.

Literally nobody (to my knowledge) is earning 90K a year in my extended family that I can think of. I guess we are poor leaning Americans. I know people that pull above that. Just not related to any. At my work which employs over 350 people continously, the GM, AGM, OPS managers, Maintenance Manager, and HR Manager pull 90K or more. Maybe 14 people out of 375 or so or 3.5% or so.
 
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He works a lot of OT. Well, I remember back in 2020 he was. He was telling me he was getting 2X pay if they have to call him in on his day off and they were short on staff at the time. I don't know how much OT he works these days, but he was probably earning that 90K a year or close to it in 2020 with all the OT he was working. $46/hr+ in OT is good pay.

I don't know his current finances. That is correct, but I know his mortgage was less than $850 a month. He bought his house from his mom, and took a mortgage out on it. She moved north of the area.

Literally nobody (to my knowledge) is earning 90K a year in my extended family that I can think of. I guess we are poor leaning Americans. I know people that pull above that. Just not related to any. At my work which employs over 350 people continously, the GM, AGM, OPS managers, Maintenance Manager, and HR Manager pull 90K or more. Maybe 14 people out of 375 or so or 3.5% or so.
You're still assuming because he makes what you consider a good salary that he should easily be able to afford to have your brother be the DJ for this event for $600. Just because a person makes a good salary like 90k doesn't mean they are good managers of money.

You didn't tell any details about the event as such as how many hours is the event and so on. If he picked a venue costing 1k to have an event in that venue. That tells me he has a certain amount of money he plans on spending and it doesn't include spending $600 for a DJ.
 
He works a lot of OT. Well, I remember back in 2020 he was. He was telling me he was getting 2X pay if they have to call him in on his day off and they were short on staff at the time. I don't know how much OT he works these days, but he was probably earning that 90K a year or close to it in 2020 with all the OT he was working. $46/hr+ in OT is good pay.

I don't know his current finances. That is correct, but I know his mortgage was less than $850 a month. He bought his house from his mom, and took a mortgage out on it. She moved north of the area.

Literally nobody (to my knowledge) is earning 90K a year in my extended family that I can think of. I guess we are poor leaning Americans. I know people that pull above that. Just not related to any. At my work which employs over 350 people continously, the GM, AGM, OPS managers, Maintenance Manager, and HR Manager pull 90K or more. Maybe 14 people out of 375 or so or 3.5% or so.
Again, You dont know if he took a loan out against the house, the cars, the insurance, etc. Any personal habits etc. It's just hard to gauge. He may be financially smart and saving half his paycheck for retirement.

With that said, assuming the avg rent for a small unit is around $2000 AFTER utilities and renters insurance (assuming a one bedroom one bath etc), a typical car payment with insurance and gas at around $1000/month… that’s 36k right there… with a 90k income after 20% federal and state taxes, you’re left with 70k and then have around $3k a month to live on, which sounds ok, but what about health insurance, hopefully a retirement savings, going out, eating out, buying stuff for yourself or gifts, groceries etc. Not left with too much. Now that was with 90k, imagine doing that with less.

And while you said no family member makes that much, when you have dual income it’s easier.