Compliments shouldn't be the thermometer you use. They are a check point - but you want to be selling rather than simply pleasing. I also think making your self the DJ handicaps you in any larger event. People want their venue manager to be managing - not performing. Being a lone wolf presents a risk most people will recognize early on in the booking process. If your are cueing up the parent dances who's dealing with the plumbing issue in a restroom? The caterer that is short handed. or the multitude of other things that could at any time require the attention of a manager rather than a DJ? Where's your backup for all of these roles?
Taso's correct - we're trying to get you to focus on the venue alone and realize that all these other things are just menu items. You being the DJ is a point of divergence - the venue booking should be made without such condition. There are easy enough ways to set a maximum sound level for visiting entertainers.
If you want to nit-pick terms then I'll say "feedback". I'm not getting my ego stroked. I'm observing what pushes their buttons, which leads me to the booking. Look, I understand you guys wanting me to disassociate myself from anything but being an owner. That ain't gonna happen, at least not yet. What I'm doing is working and the events are being executed very well. I'm not changing that formula at this point in time.