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sawdust123

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Back in the day when doing weddings, I carried all sorts of stuff that I categorized as "just in case." This included:
  • Garter
  • Something blue
  • Generic toasts
  • Fake bouquet
  • Mini sewing kit
  • Shoe polish
  • Several OTC meds
  • Toiletries
  • Basic toolkit
  • My entire cable collection
  • Etc
Most of this stuff was never needed and over time I stopped carrying most of it. However, I still kept this stuff stored in their plastic bins. A few weeks ago I decided I needed that space for other gear. The purge will be ongoing for a while. It feels good to reclaim the space and improve organization.
 
rick, I think you better check that. here's what I found.

(a) On August 29, 2019, and thereafter, the only requirement for a marriage in this state shall be for parties who are otherwise legally authorized to be married to enter into a marriage as provided in this section. However, the judge of probate shall continue to collect the recording fee provided for in subdivision (32) of subsection (b) of Section 12-19-90 for each marriage recorded with the judge of probate. Furthermore, at the time the marriage is recorded, the judge of probate shall also collect the fee provided for in Section 30-6-11, to be distributed as provided in that section.

(b) The marriage document required to be executed by the parties shall contain information to identify the parties as set forth in Section 22-9A-6, as well as the following minimum information:

(1) The full legal names of both of the parties.

(2) A notarized affidavit from each party declaring all of the following:

a. The affiant is not currently married.

b.1. The affiant is at least 18 years of age; or

2. The affiant is at least 16 and under 18 years of age and has the consent of a parent or guardian.

c. The affiant is legally competent to enter into a marriage.

d. The parties are not related by blood or adoption such that the marriage would violate Section 13A-13-3.

e. The affiant is entering into the marriage voluntarily and of his or her own free will and not under duress or undue influence.

(3) The signatures of the parties.

(c) A marriage conforming to the requirements of this section shall be valid on the date the marriage is executed by both parties, provided the affidavits, forms, and data are recorded in the office of the judge of probate within 30 days of the date of the last party's signature in accordance with Section 22-9A-17.

(d) A civil and independent or religious ceremony of marriage, celebration of marriage, solemnization of marriage, or any other officiation, or administration of the vows of marriage may be conducted or engaged in by the parties by an officiant or other presiding person to be selected by the persons entering into the marriage. The state shall have no requirement for any ceremony or proceeding and whether or not a ceremony or proceeding is performed or not performed shall have no legal effect on the validity of the marriage.

(e) The affidavits, forms, and data shall be filed in the office of the judge of probate and shall constitute a legal record of the marriage of the parties. A copy of the form provided by the Office of Vital Statistics shall be transmitted by the office of the judge of probate to the Office of Vital Statistics and made a part of its record.

(f) This section shall not affect any other legal aspects of marriage in this state, including, but not limited to, divorce, spousal support, child custody, or child support.

(g) All requirements to obtain a marriage license by the State of Alabama are abolished and repealed. The requirement of a ceremony of marriage to solemnize the marriage is abolished.

(h) The Alabama Law Institute, a division of the Legislative Services Agency, in collaboration with the Department of Public Health, shall prepare a form to meet the minimum requirements of Act 2019-340.

(Act 2019-340, §2.)
 
Weird but cool

When I first moved back down here I thought it was weird. They did it when gay weddings were legalized and the more I think about it, I think they handled it the right way. Removing ordination from the equation took out the whole "trying to force Christian ministers into doing something they didn't believe in" thing. Now, a notary witnesses the signatures, agreeing to be married, it gets filed with probate, end of story.
 
rick, I think you better check that. here's what I found.

(a) On August 29, 2019, and thereafter, the only requirement for a marriage in this state shall be for parties who are otherwise legally authorized to be married to enter into a marriage as provided in this section. However, the judge of probate shall continue to collect the recording fee provided for in subdivision (32) of subsection (b) of Section 12-19-90 for each marriage recorded with the judge of probate. Furthermore, at the time the marriage is recorded, the judge of probate shall also collect the fee provided for in Section 30-6-11, to be distributed as provided in that section.

(b) The marriage document required to be executed by the parties shall contain information to identify the parties as set forth in Section 22-9A-6, as well as the following minimum information:

(1) The full legal names of both of the parties.

(2) A notarized affidavit from each party declaring all of the following:

a. The affiant is not currently married.

b.1. The affiant is at least 18 years of age; or

2. The affiant is at least 16 and under 18 years of age and has the consent of a parent or guardian.

c. The affiant is legally competent to enter into a marriage.

d. The parties are not related by blood or adoption such that the marriage would violate Section 13A-13-3.

e. The affiant is entering into the marriage voluntarily and of his or her own free will and not under duress or undue influence.

(3) The signatures of the parties.

(c) A marriage conforming to the requirements of this section shall be valid on the date the marriage is executed by both parties, provided the affidavits, forms, and data are recorded in the office of the judge of probate within 30 days of the date of the last party's signature in accordance with Section 22-9A-17.

(d) A civil and independent or religious ceremony of marriage, celebration of marriage, solemnization of marriage, or any other officiation, or administration of the vows of marriage may be conducted or engaged in by the parties by an officiant or other presiding person to be selected by the persons entering into the marriage. The state shall have no requirement for any ceremony or proceeding and whether or not a ceremony or proceeding is performed or not performed shall have no legal effect on the validity of the marriage.

(e) The affidavits, forms, and data shall be filed in the office of the judge of probate and shall constitute a legal record of the marriage of the parties. A copy of the form provided by the Office of Vital Statistics shall be transmitted by the office of the judge of probate to the Office of Vital Statistics and made a part of its record.

(f) This section shall not affect any other legal aspects of marriage in this state, including, but not limited to, divorce, spousal support, child custody, or child support.

(g) All requirements to obtain a marriage license by the State of Alabama are abolished and repealed. The requirement of a ceremony of marriage to solemnize the marriage is abolished.

(h) The Alabama Law Institute, a division of the Legislative Services Agency, in collaboration with the Department of Public Health, shall prepare a form to meet the minimum requirements of Act 2019-340.

(Act 2019-340, §2.)

The parties still have to meet the qualifications to get married. The only difference now is it's no longer the ordained minister who is bearing witness. It's a (non-religious) notary public.
 
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They don't check to see if the bride & groom are related before they marry down there in Alabama?
 
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They don't check to see if the bride & groom are related before they marry down there in Alabama?

I don't know. I would assume it's the Dept of Health's responsibility, likely after the application has been filed. I'm assuming it's the same in TN, which is where I was originally married.
 
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Alabama allows first cousin Marriages, and I thought it was one of only a few states that do, but get this I was WRONG! LOL These states allow it too!Even California, D.C. and my state of Maryland and even Virginia! I am quite surprised with this! The Stereo type on this over the years has not been true! People made fun of West Virginia for this through out my life time, and it's against the law in West Virginia! WOW.

Alabama, Alaska, California, Colorado, Connecticut, District of Columbia, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Maryland, Massachusetts, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Vermont, and Virginia.
 
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Not suprised at all that new jersey made the list that first cousins can marry.
 
Most of this stuff was never needed and over time I stopped carrying most of it. However, I still kept this stuff stored in their plastic bins. A few weeks ago I decided I needed that space for other gear. The purge will be ongoing for a while. It feels good to reclaim the space and improve organization.

If that were me, I'd throw out all the stuff I never used...
and then miraculously need it the next gig.
 
  • Garter
  • Something blue
  • Generic toasts
  • Fake bouquet
  • Mini sewing kit
  • Shoe polish
  • Several OTC meds
  • Toiletries
  • Basic toolkit
  • My entire cable collection

I used to have a similar box of tricks. Big one that I always thought maybe one day I could use was white chalk. Great for covering up marks on a white wedding dress.
 
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  • Garter
  • Something blue
  • Generic toasts
  • Fake bouquet
  • Shoe polish
  • Toiletries
  • My entire cable collection
I would not have carried any of the above save for my FOH kit already having all the cables or audio accessories I could need, and the tools to address issues with whatever gear I was using.

Most of the above items are easily accommodated by the guests or staff on hand, For example, a toss bouquet can easily be assembled from other flowers, and most wedding venues have staff to accommodate the bridal needs and similar issues. '

I certainly don't see the need for "generic toasts" because this is not an appropriate role for the DJ, even by proxy.

  • Mini sewing kit
  • OTC meds

These two, yes my FOH kits include Ibuprofen/Tylenol/Naproxen should headaches be an issue, and a mini-sewing kit, primarily to guard my own formalwear or lost button. I think the sewing kit and and pain relievers are the only two things I've ever needed to share with a bride or her Maid of Honor.

Otherwise, it's typically a power cord, charger, or some other piece of tech to assist one of the other vendors who's lost or forgotten something. One of the benefits of doing rentals and production is that you learn pretty quick what is needed in any given situation and what is dead weight. It's from that which we can be other people's savior without needlessly over-producing our own logistics.