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OK, I've been going back over my script and the questions I've asked. Why, aren't you getting out of the business, you might ask and the answer is yes I am but I still want to give you the benefit of experience.
So, in rethinking, here's the way I'd go today...
1. Is this your first marriage?
Yes, this is a personal question and you may want to tell the prospect that some may seem personal but this is the best way for you to find out what they want. Asking this question is very helpful to you because it sets the stage for follow up and lets you know their experience. If it is their first wedding chances are they have never planned a wedding before. If it is not then they have done this before.
2. Have you ever planned a wedding before?
Now, if the answer to one is that this is their second marriage then the answer here is probably yes; however, they may have had a wedding coordinator the first time.
If the answer is yes then you may want to get more details; for example,
- Were they the wedding coordinator?
- How many weddings?
- How long ago?
3. How many weddings have they attended as a guest?
If they have experience planning weddings then you may not want to ask this but if this is their first marriage and they have never planned a wedding before then this is a must know. If they've never even been to a wedding this may be a red flag because their inexperience may cause you some strife; I've been down that road and you want to pay close attention to other answers.
4. How familiar are you with the wedding flow of events in the area?
Now, the answer to the first three questions are going to guide you with this question. A first marriage with no planning experience that has not attended a wedding will not know at all. Others may be familiar to various degrees. Also, they may have also just moved into the area so the question is valid for all brides.
This would be an a good spot to present a list of the typical flow.
5. What are the demographics of your guests? Age, ethnicity, location, and maybe even wealth.
This will give you a good idea of what the crowd interaction might be and what types of music they might like.
6. When you think about the music for your reception should it be: a) what your guests want, b) what you want, c) a combination?
a) and c) would make for a decent reception. a) indicates a high degree of care about their guests and c) indicates a good amount of care. If they answer b) then you might want to follow up with:
- What are your music tastes? Pay close attention as these may highly conflict with the demographics.
- What are the music tastes of your guests? If they don't know ask if you are allowed to take requests. If you are not then this may be a disaster in the making. In that case tell them that you will be making the following announce ment, "Ladies and gentlemen, [bride] and [groom] have come up with a playlist that they know that you will enjoy. We will not be taking any requests this evening." If they balk at that then you may wish to consider not accepting their event.
OK, add to this list and give some reasoning and options as I have.
Thanks.
So, in rethinking, here's the way I'd go today...
1. Is this your first marriage?
Yes, this is a personal question and you may want to tell the prospect that some may seem personal but this is the best way for you to find out what they want. Asking this question is very helpful to you because it sets the stage for follow up and lets you know their experience. If it is their first wedding chances are they have never planned a wedding before. If it is not then they have done this before.
2. Have you ever planned a wedding before?
Now, if the answer to one is that this is their second marriage then the answer here is probably yes; however, they may have had a wedding coordinator the first time.
If the answer is yes then you may want to get more details; for example,
- Were they the wedding coordinator?
- How many weddings?
- How long ago?
3. How many weddings have they attended as a guest?
If they have experience planning weddings then you may not want to ask this but if this is their first marriage and they have never planned a wedding before then this is a must know. If they've never even been to a wedding this may be a red flag because their inexperience may cause you some strife; I've been down that road and you want to pay close attention to other answers.
4. How familiar are you with the wedding flow of events in the area?
Now, the answer to the first three questions are going to guide you with this question. A first marriage with no planning experience that has not attended a wedding will not know at all. Others may be familiar to various degrees. Also, they may have also just moved into the area so the question is valid for all brides.
This would be an a good spot to present a list of the typical flow.
5. What are the demographics of your guests? Age, ethnicity, location, and maybe even wealth.
This will give you a good idea of what the crowd interaction might be and what types of music they might like.
6. When you think about the music for your reception should it be: a) what your guests want, b) what you want, c) a combination?
a) and c) would make for a decent reception. a) indicates a high degree of care about their guests and c) indicates a good amount of care. If they answer b) then you might want to follow up with:
- What are your music tastes? Pay close attention as these may highly conflict with the demographics.
- What are the music tastes of your guests? If they don't know ask if you are allowed to take requests. If you are not then this may be a disaster in the making. In that case tell them that you will be making the following announce ment, "Ladies and gentlemen, [bride] and [groom] have come up with a playlist that they know that you will enjoy. We will not be taking any requests this evening." If they balk at that then you may wish to consider not accepting their event.
OK, add to this list and give some reasoning and options as I have.
Thanks.

