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6:45 AM? Sorry honey, not gonna do it. If you can find another DJ that is willing to do this then, please, feel free to find one and I'll gladly refund the contract signing fee.
I did an interview a few days ago. One of the questions I asked usually is:
The bride and groom answered A with no flexibility. I then asked what their music tastes were and it was all rap, hip hop, and top 40. My next set of questions was:
When they told me that most of their guests were over 40 I then asked if the songs they were planning to pick would be ones that they felt that they and all of their guests would want to get out on the dance floor for. The bride said that she didn't care about her guests and that this was her wedding and the guests had better get out on the dance floor no matter what and that it was my job to make them.
I then said that we were not the mobile entertainment company for them because we do not force people to dance if they don't want to because it does not make for an enjoyable event for them. Our job is to entertain; it is not to force people to do something they don't want to do.
I thanked them for their consideration, packed up, and left.
I did an interview a few days ago. One of the questions I asked usually is:
The bride and groom answered A with no flexibility. I then asked what their music tastes were and it was all rap, hip hop, and top 40. My next set of questions was:
When they told me that most of their guests were over 40 I then asked if the songs they were planning to pick would be ones that they felt that they and all of their guests would want to get out on the dance floor for. The bride said that she didn't care about her guests and that this was her wedding and the guests had better get out on the dance floor no matter what and that it was my job to make them.
I then said that we were not the mobile entertainment company for them because we do not force people to dance if they don't want to because it does not make for an enjoyable event for them. Our job is to entertain; it is not to force people to do something they don't want to do.
I thanked them for their consideration, packed up, and left.
Tom...you made the right call!
And, did I mention this is a great thread.
The bride you just described...is an archetype of the spoiled Bridezilla.
What is even worse....is when MOB is paying, but the B/G want rap/crap.
I tend to avoid jobs where you must "Serve Two Masters" (the MOB & the bride).
And, did I mention this is a great thread.
The bride you just described...is an archetype of the spoiled Bridezilla.
What is even worse....is when MOB is paying, but the B/G want rap/crap.
I tend to avoid jobs where you must "Serve Two Masters" (the MOB & the bride).
Boy, that's gonna go over like a fart in church. What's she gonna do if the guests start leaving early... lock the venue doors shut?
If I'm reading this right, she intends to dictate her personal selections and if the guests don't dance, it's your fault. I don't blame ya for sending this one on down the road.
:wtf:is the matter with some people?
see in a way this kind of bugs me. Guests haqve to realize that the Bride and Groom didnt plan the day for each and every guest. Sometime just sometime perhaps the guest should let down their personal comfort and celebrate with the Bride and groom.
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I look at it as give and take on both sides. The B&G shouldn't expect the their tastes to be the same as their guests and they should be catered to some. What I hear from most B&G's is that they want everybody to have a good time and that means they want them to dance and we all know that not everybody dances to the same beat (right Ron Auger
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I look at it as give and take on both sides. The B&G shouldn't expect the their tastes to be the same as their guests and they should be catered to some. What I hear from most B&G's is that they want everybody to have a good time and that means they want them to dance and we all know that not everybody dances to the same beat (right Ron Auger
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I agree Tom it is common sense but I always set my clients up with the You want your guests who traveled a distance brought a gift and who are here to celebrate with you to have a good time! RIGHT? IT puts the choice in their court and honestly 99.999% will immediately reply with a resounding response! OF COURSE!!!
Probably not, but thinking about events that go badly reminded me of one about 17 years ago.
It was a holiday party for employees from a local restaurant and bar chain. It was not put on by the employer - they organized it themselves off site at another venue.
15 Minutes into the party the guy in charge pays me in cash. 10 minutes later he returns to tell me the party is over. A fight started in the parking lot, one guy left unconcious in an ambulance, and the police shut down the party.
I think I was paid $500 for that 30 minutes of music. Probably one of my best hourly rates.
At what point do I give up on bridezillas? I try NEVER to....but.....
Having been blessed to not have that many of them in all these years, I was wholly unprepared for the one I took the deposit for last March for an October wedding. Forty emails, four meetings, and a very rushed wedding reception later (the schedule, prepared by the bride and TO BE FOLLOWED TO THE MINUTE...lol, allowed 20 minutes for 300+ guests to get through the buffet line AND eat), I thought I had handled her well, and not given up at all. Imagine my surprise when I found I had been savaged in an online review. THAT'S when I gave up on the bridezilla.
My only redemption came in the knowledge that although she had good things to say about both my services and that of other vendors, no one--including the ones she was 'truly happy' with-- got a better than mid-range review, or score. I've since written it off as a bridezilla, and moved on.
I've learned my lesson, and wouldn't hesitate to suggest alternatives to my services, if confronted with this kind of client again. I pride myself on my work, and if I can't deliver to everyone's satisfaction, I feel the client would be better served with someone else as a provider.
Just my .02.
Having been blessed to not have that many of them in all these years, I was wholly unprepared for the one I took the deposit for last March for an October wedding. Forty emails, four meetings, and a very rushed wedding reception later (the schedule, prepared by the bride and TO BE FOLLOWED TO THE MINUTE...lol, allowed 20 minutes for 300+ guests to get through the buffet line AND eat), I thought I had handled her well, and not given up at all. Imagine my surprise when I found I had been savaged in an online review. THAT'S when I gave up on the bridezilla.
My only redemption came in the knowledge that although she had good things to say about both my services and that of other vendors, no one--including the ones she was 'truly happy' with-- got a better than mid-range review, or score. I've since written it off as a bridezilla, and moved on.
I've learned my lesson, and wouldn't hesitate to suggest alternatives to my services, if confronted with this kind of client again. I pride myself on my work, and if I can't deliver to everyone's satisfaction, I feel the client would be better served with someone else as a provider.
Just my .02.
Wow......this shows why everyone is afraid of the UGC's for WOM....the risk of getting less than a 5-star review.
Safety in numbers.......when you already have 30+ reviews online, one less-than-stellar score isn't going to hurt your overall numbers (provided their comments are good).
When I got the 4-star review at Merchant Circle: I was DEVASTATED because the event (a last-minute Senior Prom) was so successful and the comments were positive. Even the review itself was glowing with positives. Yet I was still only 4 stars when she scored me. But daughter Allie was able to make me feel better by saying "Dad, none of the DJs at our school dances would get more than 2 stars...that was a pretty good score coming from a HS student!"
as to the ones Tiny mentioned, I could only find this VERY POSITIVE mention on The Snot:
as to the "unfavorable" one, that is on a site with the initials W.W.
(funny, of all the UGCs everyone talks about.......this is the ONLY one I've been procrastinating about joining).
On the good side....Tiny, I could not find the WW reviews in any Google Search for "Tiny Tunes Des Moines IA" and similar searches for "Tiny Tunes DJ Review".
WW doesn't seem to register AT ALL with the Goog-ster in your area (Des Moines, IA). Maybe it comes up on Page 3 or Page 4......too far back to have any effect on brides.
I found the Snot review on Page 1, non-sponsored.
Had to deal with one bride that was nice but would not take advice on anything eg. where to put dance floor, wanted only heavy metal after 10:00 etc. Needless to say her requests cleared the floor and everyone went home early (love to say I told you so). Could only cover my ass/rep by anouncing that the metal songs where requested by the bride.
My wife and I usually split the duties if it's a "Bridezilla". I work with them more on the phone before the wedding...my wife then takes over at the event. So far we've had 2 really bad ones but stuck it out. We've actually had referral work through them.
When do I give up? I DID! Stopped taking ANY weddings as of then, though I still have some commitments to fill. Shifted my focus to corporate, no income loss, no annoying B&G, and no looking back......
I once had a bride who seemed fine, until the planning meeting. We normally try to do the planning meeting about 3 months before the wedding this way they have plenty of time to make changes, resulting in fewer "last minute" changes. This bride waited till a week and a half before the wedding. Up till this point she had been requesting normal music and activities. Then she tells us that she wants NOTHING but Haitian music. I have 3 CDs of Haitian music and offered to play them, of course she hated those songs and wanted me to go buy about 30 CDs of Haitian music. We promptly returned her deposit and sent her on her way.
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I have one that is turning bridezilla. Her wedding is May 5 and we had the finalization over the weekend. Since then the first dance song has gone full circle five times, the father/daughter has been cut and reinstated three times, and now I am getting conflicting things from her, her fiancee and her mom. She's also sent me three order changes on the montage and has changed the song several times.
I am calling her tomorrow night. I am going to ask her to just calm down and draw a line in the sand after which nothing changes. That line will be Sunday. I am also telling her that she is the single point of contact and her fiancee and mom are to work through her.
I am calling her tomorrow night. I am going to ask her to just calm down and draw a line in the sand after which nothing changes. That line will be Sunday. I am also telling her that she is the single point of contact and her fiancee and mom are to work through her.