Weddings Bouquet toss music...I'm not comfortable playing this
- Thread starter Bill Kexel
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Confucius say: Stating that one needs to have moral conviction to say something, implies the person they are speaking to does not.
Thong song is one of my least liked song but if the bride asked for it I would make my point and then provide it if it was a must. I do not judge others nor label them different strokes for different folks and if I made the choice to serve only folks who think as I do I might lose one or two cause my realm is vast.
DjDennis
RIP- My Dad (2011), Sister (2013) and Mum (2017)
Sorry Bill but your there for them and not you
what she wants si what she gets - you know you cant give your opinion or they will be saying bad about you later on
this is why we have to keep quiet when it comes to choices , if they want you to play a song then you play it
sorry but I dont see anything wrong with it!
what she wants si what she gets - you know you cant give your opinion or they will be saying bad about you later on
this is why we have to keep quiet when it comes to choices , if they want you to play a song then you play it
sorry but I dont see anything wrong with it!
I respectfully disagree.
When I meet with potential clients I explain what my job is & hopefully they are hiring me for my advise, experience & ability to entertain them & all their guests on a level that pleases everyone (not focusing on just one type of music, age group, Etc. or playing or doing things that would blantently offend someone, or follow playlists. when it comes to music I try to play a mix of genres & what fits that event.
Otherwise THEY DON"T NEED ME. I flat out tell them they can save a lot of money & rent some audio gear & hook up an MP3 player with their personal choices.
Playing a song that may be funny to 5 or 10 of her closest friends, may offend the other 150 guests. Guests leave that event saying "Can you believe what that DJ said/played??...remind me not to hire him!"
98% of my future gigs come from people that have seen me at a prior event.
I plan to play this song, but I'll make a comment about it being the bride's choice.
I am amazed how many DJs out there are nothing but 2 legged jukeboxes.
"Play "Blow me" for the father-daughter dance? ....Okay, No problem!
Some self proclaimed "DJs" are even cheaper than renting gear.
Bill,
I think I know your answer but I'd be interested in the answers from the DJ Jukeboxes...
What's more rewarding, a) providing a meaningful service to a limited and unique clientele at substantially higher than average rates or, b) providing an average service to 3 to 4 times as many average clients at substantially lower but average rates.
I understand Bill's doubts about the song. While the bride thinks it's funny (And it might be to some of her friends) another part of her single friends might take it as a slap in the face, specially if they're having relationship problems or can't find somebody appropriate for them.So she may have 45 friends coming in and she'll probably be left with 10 when all is over.
Which is simply one of the important reasons I would politely refuse to facilitate the activity.
Any announcement made to mitigate or assign the blame will not eliminate the associative responsibility, especially to individuals that are mature enough to recognize the impact.
SVO,
You apparently have given thought to and evaluated consequences.
I am no longer shocked, although I am still saddened, at the growing number of adults, measured by age not maturity, that ignore or dismiss consequences to serve their selfish desires.
Rox,
Consequences are something that are always there and need to be evaluated before proceeding. There is always a time and a place for everything.
Consequences are something that are always there and need to be evaluated before proceeding. There is always a time and a place for everything.
A.
But even if I'm doing a gig for someone at a discounted rate, I will still try & give it my all (and use my better judgement on things) because the guests don't know what you are being paid.
I want them to remember what a great job the DJ did at the event & when the time comes for them to need a DJ they will say "What was the name of the DJ that did Amber & Tony's wedding, He was very professional & fun, we had a great time there."
Personally I think it's pretty pretentious to think that they would think of you at all after the next day and that's a mabye. They aren't going to remember the song any more than they will remember your announcement on playing it. Even at a 98% referral rate it comes from 2% of the folks that see you
All in all it's pretty simple either you take the gig and play the song or refuse the gig.
DjDennis
RIP- My Dad (2011), Sister (2013) and Mum (2017)
I dunno, I have heard people (as guests) tell me about things the DJ did at events & that they would not hire them because of that.
Let's say you are a lady who is single, but engaged. You are uncomfortable coming out on the dancefloor for the bouquet toss anyway, and then the music comes on ...."Ahhh look at all the lonely people!!!!
If I thought it was his idea, do you think I would hire this jackass DJ for my wedding?
It's just a thought.
DjDennis
RIP- My Dad (2011), Sister (2013) and Mum (2017)
yes I would hire that dj!
i just think we are not there to tell them all its wrong on what they should or shouldnt play!!
- you tell the guests that its up to the bride that wanted it played
we are not the morality police...
or even to be politicly correct, we are also there to do as we are hire to do..... a dj and play music
if the bride wants to go naked then thats her problem, not OURS!
as I have said bill, you do it your way, I do it mine
we others that have no hassles at letting the guests see how its the brides choice
they want to say anything get them to tell the bride not the Dj...
thats it, done, finished
have a nice day
i just think we are not there to tell them all its wrong on what they should or shouldnt play!!
- you tell the guests that its up to the bride that wanted it played
we are not the morality police...
or even to be politicly correct, we are also there to do as we are hire to do..... a dj and play music
if the bride wants to go naked then thats her problem, not OURS!
as I have said bill, you do it your way, I do it mine
we others that have no hassles at letting the guests see how its the brides choice
they want to say anything get them to tell the bride not the Dj...
thats it, done, finished
have a nice day
I agree Bill it's tacky but again if that is what they want either give it to them or pass on the gig all together. The odds are pretty good no one will even notice and even better that they will not remember your disclaimer announcement. At the end of the day if it comes through your speakers you are responsible for it
I have played Who's Alice at a wedding on different occasions by request of the Bride or Groom. Generally I will tell them it might be offensive to someone but if they really want it I'll put it on late at night when all the kids and old ladies have gone home. If they were to want it early I would pass on the gig. Not every client is my client
Mabye you should try taking a quote in context sometime Rox you would discover you are nowhere near as funny as you think you are.
And yes Simple is my aim I don't spend hours plannning how I can make the simple things complicated I know my job and do it with great success
I know I'm humorless Jeff, that's why, when I'm trying to make a funny or clarify my inetent, I cue readers with those funny smileys...:yomoon:yorofl:
Kudos! Knowing one's target is an important component of success. (Notice the absence of smileys here)
Personally, I thinks it's foolish, but certainly indicative, to behave and/or perform as though your actions will be discounted and effectively discarded immediately upon completion. (...and here)