Wedding attendees trying to tip the DJ to play songs?

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Papa Deuce

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Last night, I bet I had 5 or 6 people do this. Not once in my life do I recall this ever happening at a wedding.... Is this something new? BTW, I would never take a tip for playing a song at the wedding.

Someone left $5 on my table last night... and someone gave my brother $1.... which he took, not knowing that it goes against my policy....
 
Greets, Papa.

Can't say we've seen this at weddings before. It happened a heck of a lot at the VFW and Moose though.
 
We've had a few offer, but we tell them that we're getting paid (by someone) and if they want to request a song to dance to it, we'll be more than glad to do it for them.
 
Not at a wedding, but I did have someone give me $20 to play a song at a Buccaneer tailgate party. It was his brothers B-day and the whole family was down here for the game. I split the money with my helper after the event.

As for tips at weddings, I don't encourage it and would initially refuse the tip, but if the tipper is persistant (2d or 3d attempt to give me the $$) I will make them happy and take their money.
 
I had it happen 3 times in the last 8 months or so. Most of the time i was able to hand it back to them and tell them that the bride and groom had already paid us and it was there job to just have a great time. Only once did someone do a 20 dollar toss and run. And I was not able to see who it was because they faded back into the full dance floor. My wife laughed at me then stuck the 20 in her pocket lol.
 
Gotta suppose it's one of those regional things. Gotta also state that policies "might" be tossed in the trash too if the amounts were significant.

Sea story time.

Several years back, there was the motor home/motorcycle rally in a campground designed to handle thousands. There was less than a hundred RV's and all millionaires.

On the last night of the three nights contracted to entertain, one southern fella (slightly tipsy but not blasted) came up and asked for a Merle Haggard track figuring no yankee would have it. Playing his song next, he came right back up beaming, happier 'n pig in poop, and slammed a bill in my shirt pocket, then asked for a Willie Nelson track, which I played while he was standing there. Slam. Another bill into my pocket.

Don't know about you, but I try to be cool, somewhat protesting that tipping is not required, but then again, saying to myself internally, it's friggin money Bubba, and I like money, especially if its free.

Many others came up making requests, and, for many, it seemed as though my shirt pocket was a basketball net and folks were practicing for the national slam dunk tourney.

As the night wore on toward its conclusion, curiosity got the best of me. Went to the restroom and checked the contents of the pocket. There were two one hundred dollar bills, two fifty dollar bills, and another hundred sixty bucks in twenties. $460.00 in tips in two hours on a Thursday night.

The moral of this story? When it comes to free money, thou shalt protest meekly once, then if the gracious giver insists, consider it equally as rude to decline their gift as some seem to think it is to accept it.
 
Cap Capello said:
Gotta suppose it's one of those regional things. Gotta also state that policies "might" be tossed in the trash too if the amounts were significant.

Sea story time.

Several years back, there was the motor home/motorcycle rally in a campground designed to handle thousands. There was less than a hundred RV's and all millionaires.

On the last night of the three nights contracted to entertain, one southern fella (slightly tipsy but not blasted) came up and asked for a Merle Haggard track figuring no yankee would have it. Playing his song next, he came right back up beaming, happier 'n pig in poop, and slammed a bill in my shirt pocket, then asked for a Willie Nelson track, which I played while he was standing there. Slam. Another bill into my pocket.

Don't know about you, but I try to be cool, somewhat protesting that tipping is not required, but then again, saying to myself internally, it's friggin money Bubba, and I like money, especially if its free.

Many others came up making requests, and, for many, it seemed as though my shirt pocket was a basketball net and folks were practicing for the national slam dunk tourney.

As the night wore on toward its conclusion, curiosity got the best of me. Went to the restroom and checked the contents of the pocket. There were two one hundred dollar bills, two fifty dollar bills, and another hundred sixty bucks in twenties. $460.00 in tips in two hours on a Thursday night.

The moral of this story? When it comes to free money, thou shalt protest meekly once, then if the gracious giver insists, consider it equally as rude to decline their gift as some seem to think it is to accept it.
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AMEN Brother Cap.
 
Papa Deuce : Semantics. Pure emotional semantics. Yet, there is a level of agreement on the part where some slimebag is attempting to blow up your performance.

"Eh, buddy, play Innagadadavida."

"Sorry, can't do that."

"Give ya $10 to play it."

"Sorry, can't do that."

"Give ya $50 to play it next."

"Sorry, can't do that."

"Give ya $100 to play it before the end of the night."

"Album or single version?"
 
DJ JohnThe1 said:
AMEN Brother Cap.
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Words to the wise: There is no need to quote an entire lengthy -- albeit worthy -- post just to add three words. That's wasting bandwidth.
 
OK Cap... if it works for you I won't pass judgment. But for "me" it feels wrong to accept money at a WEDDING... Now at many other events, fine and dandy.
 
Bryan: I totally agree because I personally believe that U.S. Americans are unable to do so because, uhhh, some uh people out there in our nation uh don’t have maps and uh, I believe that our, I, education like such as uh, South Africa, and uh, the Iraq, everywhere like such as, and I believe that they should, uhhh, our education over here in the US should help the US, uh, er, should help South Africa, it should help the Iraq and the Asian countries so we will be able to build up our future, for our ch...ah, um, er, ah, well you get the point.
 
Ain't it funny how one little difference of opinion on one miniscule little detail that happens, what, once a year, gets immediate blown out of proportion and instantly tossed into the pool of absurdity.

Has anyone yet mentioned anything about a tip jar?

Dave, why not two? Put them on top of the radiators and have a $5 bill free throw contest? The one with the most successful shots gets half the jar's contents at the end of the reception. Anything that misses is yours.
 
Cap Capello said:
Ain't it funny how one little difference of opinion on one miniscule little detail that happens, what, once a year, gets immediate blown out of proportion and instantly tossed into the pool of absurdity.

Has anyone yet mentioned anything about a tip jar?

Dave, why not two? Put them on top of the radiators and have a $5 bill free throw contest? The one with the most successful shots gets half the jar's contents at the end of the reception. Anything that misses is yours.
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To funny Cap I do hope you know that my previous coments was for shi#s and giggles. I do like tips if I get them. I guess I do try kinda hard not to take them from guest but I do kinda really want them I'm just not sure what my bride and groom would say if they saw me do it at there event which they paid for thats all. I'm really not overly familiar with generous people or having people having me play one song which I like to do just to see there happy faces and then take there money. It will have to be something that I will have to get used to but I'm definitley not against it. I do kinda like your joke about the jars on the radiator thats one expensive ring toss :sqlaugh: I guess when online you can't see my some what witty goofy personality. )
 
But for "me" it feels wrong to accept money at a WEDDING...
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Why? The bride and groom are doing it... :sqlaugh:


I personally have no pride whatsoever, and will take anything anybody gives me (usually it's just a bunch of sh_t though) :)

If something is given in exchange for a service above and beyond the norm, I consider it a barter, and not a tip/bribe.

For example: You want a feature in my software, that's not in the plan. There is no limit to features, only the size of your wallet.

You call me, I give you a price in beer. You then call Marko's Oasis, and have that amount of beer delivered to my house (they know me well, ask for Kevin).

Life is simple :)
 
Well..... one time at band camp.... oops, at a wedding... I was also asked to play songs, accompanied with $5.00s and $10.00s.... This happened to be a couple from South Africa. I latter was told that back home it is customary for the wedding DJs to be paid primarily from tips from the guests...

I thanked them for the offer, and refused to accept, telling the guests that I have already been paid by the Bride and groom...

It may be that this couple or family at Papa’s wedding were from South Africa.
 
Cap Capello said:
... Dave, why not two? Put them on top of the radiators and have a $5 bill free throw contest? The one with the most successful shots gets half the jar's contents at the end of the reception. Anything that misses is yours.
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I could buy this if the dough was going to the B&G for a honeymoon slush fund. :D
 
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