I got the best ideal to have a real retirement party.

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MIXMASTERMACHOM

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I told my best friends sister in-law that I'm retiring January first. I talked to her sister my best friends wife and they both made a lot of sense. Let's have it in a really nice place and not a bar.

His sister in-law works for the same school system I'm retiring from. Her ideal was great. Do it in April or May when the weather breaks and have it at the Galloping Hill in Union, NJ.

We've played there several times before. Very classy place and they have a parking lot. The cost would be $25.00 per person for the food. The price would be $40.00-$45.00 per person. The price would include the gift for the retireree. I was thinking if the price wasn't to high to make it open bar. Reasonable enough that people want to come.

I'm guessing it will be 5 hours if they would allow it. If they say 6 hours that would be great but I doubt they will. I definitely need to do more research but her ideal was truly awsome!

Better then some hole in the wall bar. I was thinking about a bar because I was possibly thinking about finding a bar to play at on weekends and when private events come up do those.

I'll end my part for now with this. After working here perminately for 31 years I deserve a really nice retirement party in a nice catering hall. Stop with treating myself like trash. I'm not! At least we got one thing covered. The DJ's will be us 3. Me and my 2 partners. My plan is to have it from 7 to midnight. The first DJ will play from 7 to 9. Then I play for an hour and the other DJ finish off the party.
 
Mix, if you want to start having dance parties and charge an admission fee, then just do it already.

Stop trying to "sell" this retirement party.

If you want to have a retirement party then just do it. But the cost should be on you, not your invited guest.

Really? You want me to come to YOUR retirement party, and pay a $45 admission fee??? (Gift included???)

Are you out of your small mind????

If I were a friend or co-worker that recieved that invitation, I would tell you to take a flying leap and that would be the end of our friendship.

wow, just wow.
 
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DJCc what are you talking about?! People have retirement parties all the time where you pay to attend the retirement party.

They find a nice hall to have it in. A really nice hall cost some real money. They aren't just going to let you have it there for free.

That's the way more then enough people here have done it. Depending on the place and all you want to have at a retirement party, the cost to attend could be $100.00 per person. On average I've seen the cost to be between $65.00 to $75.00. Now that includes the food, open bar and a gift for the person retiring. That way you don't have to worry about bringing a gift.

Now of course for open bar that cheap that doesn't include top shelf liquor. If you want it to be top shelf that's $100.00 on up. At the price for $45.00 that would be a cash bar.
 
I have hosted a lot of parties for myself as well as friends and family. If I throw a party, I pay for it.

Asking invited guest to pay for your party is the stupidest thing I have ever heard of.
 
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DJCC you still don't get it. My friends want to plan this retirement party for me. It's not me doing it myself.

It's going to be in a nice catering hall and not a VFW post. My friends aren't going to cook the food. The venue takes care of that.

I do understand your issue. It's that it just so happens I'm a DJ having a retirement party. Have you ever done or been to a retirement party. They book a DJ to do the party. It just so happens I have a DJ company, so there is no need to look for a DJ to do the party.

Just simply google the place and you'll get an idea of the kind of place it is. People have fancy wedding receptions in this venue. Not to mention other fancy events. This is one of those places where 99% of the people that come there come dressed to impress.

The place is Gallopinghillinn.com
 
DJCC you still don't get it. My friends want to plan this retirement party for me. It's not me doing it myself.

It's going to be in a nice catering hall and not a VFW post. My friends aren't going to cook the food. The venue takes care of that.

I do understand your issue. It's that it just so happens I'm a DJ having a retirement party. Have you ever done or been to a retirement party. They book a DJ to do the party. It just so happens I have a DJ company, so there is no need to look for a DJ to do the party.

Just simply google the place and you'll get an idea of the kind of place it is. People have fancy wedding receptions in this venue. Not to mention other fancy events. This is one of those places where 99% of the people that come there come dressed to impress.

The place is Gallopinghillinn.com

I don't give a rats behind if its the VFW, (of which I am a card carrying member ;)) or the grand ballroom at The White House.

I don't give a rats behind if its you, or someone else planning the party. It's a retirement party, not some dance that requires an admission fee. These are your friends and family that are invited, noit some dip off the street looking to pick up some skank.

YOU are trying to make money, at the expense of YOUR friends and family, for YOUR company under the falsehood of it being a "retirement party".

IMHO, its tacky and distasteful.

And Yes, I have DJ'd retirement parties, I have one in January as a matter of fact. And yes I have been an invited guest at a couple. If I was asked to pay an admission fee.....FU would be my answer.

And while we are at it, I find your portrayal of American Legions and VFW halls as being the bottom of the barrel of venues because they are cheaper then the country club. The halls at these organizations are, for a minimal cost, for the use of it's members and invited guest. These organizations are for those that have stepped up and fought for our country and freedoms, such as charging to come to your retirement party. Show a little R.E.S.P.E.C.T.
 
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Mix .. Just say no.

If YOU throw the party for YOU then it should be FREE.
If someone else throws a. Party for YOU then they should be able to do what they want and you shouldn't be in the loop until the day of.

I agree with what's been said .. It seems you are reusing this retirement issue to have a party to benefit you ( actually many parties). Not cool.
 
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Here we go DJCC. Others that I know have had a retirement party where a gratuity is going to the person retiring. You've got to be kidding me! You've never heard of it costing to come to a retirement party? What planet have you been living on Zatocs?

I've paid money to have the privilege to come to someone's retirement party. One was the principle where I first started working as a perminate employee. She retired may God be please with her souls and I had to pay.

My comment about the VFW was meant that their plan was to have it in a place that certainly isn't cheap. You won't go there expecting to $450.00 to have your event there. I know such halls are there just to cover their exspenses and not making a big profit.

Why you pay what you do is to pay for the exspenses of having the event. Have you ever given a party and spent 5k of your own money and people get to come in for free? You're just that nice a guy?

Remember we're not talking about a wedding reception here. Lastly I never knew that when they say the gift is included in the price to come to the retirement that meant the person gets that gift in cash. And you said you're doing a retirement party in January. Are you charging those people to do the retirement party or are you being a nice guy and doing it for free?
 
DJCc what are you talking about?! People have retirement parties all the time where you pay to attend the retirement party.

They find a nice hall to have it in. A really nice hall cost some real money. They aren't just going to let you have it there for free.

That's the way more then enough people here have done it. Depending on the place and all you want to have at a retirement party, the cost to attend could be $100.00 per person. On average I've seen the cost to be between $65.00 to $75.00. Now that includes the food, open bar and a gift for the person retiring. That way you don't have to worry about bringing a gift.

Now of course for open bar that cheap that doesn't include top shelf liquor. If you want it to be top shelf that's $100.00 on up. At the price for $45.00 that would be a cash bar.

My $0.02 - rent the hall and schedule the party - sit back and wait for your guests to sign up - and roll on as scheduled.

Here we go DJCC. Others that I know have had a retirement party where a gratuity is going to the person retiring. You've got to be kidding me! You've never heard of it costing to come to a retirement party? What planet have you been living on Zatocs?

I've paid money to have the privilege to come to someone's retirement party. One was the principle where I first started working as a perminate employee. She retired may God be please with her souls and I had to pay.

My comment about the VFW was meant that their plan was to have it in a place that certainly isn't cheap. You won't go there expecting to $450.00 to have your event there. I know such halls are there just to cover their exspenses and not making a big profit.

Why you pay what you do is to pay for the exspenses of having the event. Have you ever given a party and spent 5k of your own money and people get to come in for free? You're just that nice a guy?

Remember we're not talking about a wedding reception here. Lastly I never knew that when they say the gift is included in the price to come to the retirement that meant the person gets that gift in cash. And you said you're doing a retirement party in January. Are you charging those people to do the retirement party or are you being a nice guy and doing it for free?

I think you're missing the important part here Mix. If it's a retirement party for YOU, then YOU should have nothing to do with the planning of it, to include the cost - if any. In fact, you should not even know if there's a DJ nor who it is. On the day of the retirement, if the DJ allows you to play, then so be it. If YOU are planning the retirement party, then YOU should not be charging for it.

This is kind of like planning your own birthday party / wedding / other and then charging YOUR friends to attend.
 
Here we go DJCC. Others that I know have had a retirement party where a gratuity is going to the person retiring. You've got to be kidding me! You've never heard of it costing to come to a retirement party? What planet have you been living on Zatocs? Nope, I'm from earth, where we don't charge our invited guest to come to our party.

I've paid money to have the privilege to come to someone's retirement party. One was the principle where I first started working as a perminate employee. She retired may God be please with her souls and I had to pay.

My comment about the VFW was meant that their plan was to have it in a place that certainly isn't cheap. You won't go there expecting to $450.00 to have your event there. I know such halls are there just to cover their exspenses and not making a big profit.

Why you pay what you do is to pay for the exspenses of having the event. Have you ever given a party and spent 5k of your own money and people get to come in for free? You're just that nice a guy? Yes and no. I have thrown many parties in my lifetime. Never have I charged my guest to attend. No party, except for my wedding and my daughters wedding, has cost $5k.

Remember we're not talking about a wedding reception here. Lastly I never knew that when they say the gift is included in the price to come to the retirement that meant the person gets that gift in cash. And you said you're doing a retirement party in January. Are you charging those people to do the retirement party or are you being a nice guy and doing it for free? Yes, I am charging them. The wife of the gentelman retiring HIRED me, because I'm in the DJ BUSINESS, is planning and paying for the party. I am NOT an invited guest, I'm a vendor.[/QUOTE]

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Your talking apples and oranges. This is not a party where someone hired you to DJ the pary, IT'S YOUR PARTY!

Anyone else ever heard of charging guest to attend a party?

Fact is your not getting that many gigs and your looking to make money from your friends and family by having multiple retirement parties. Shameful.
 
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If somebody invited me to a party and wanted me to pay for it I would recommend they start rotating.
 
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Mix, I've never heard of paying to attend any kind of party. The only time you pay to attend a party is if it's a charitable event with proceeds going to a family in need or local/regional charity. If you invite someone to a party it's because you want them to take part in your celebration. If your planning it, your footing the bill period. Even if a party is thrown at a nightclub usually the cover is waived when your on the guest list.

Bring a gift? Yes. Money in a card for a wedding, communion, confirmation, or graduation? Yes. This isn't obligated though just a nice gesture.

When my uncle retired from being a NYC school custodian (30+ yrs) his wife and children threw him an awesome retirement party at a firehouse hall out on LI. No one paid a dime to get in. Did they bring gifts or put money in a card? Yes but it was completely optional.

Drop the idea of charging a cover for your retirement party before you lose what friends you have.
 
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This is my favorite part:

I was thinking if the price wasn't to high to make it open bar.

Mix, aren't you in a 12-step program? And aren't many of your friends in a 12-step program? I seem to remember you talking about a non-alcoholic club that you were DJing in recently. Why on earth would you have an open bar?

After working here perminately for 31 years I deserve a really nice retirement party in a nice catering hall. Stop with treating myself like trash. I'm not!

Dude, I deserve a new BMW, but I own a Toyota minivan. And when I left Sallie Mae last year after 11 years of fun, I got a cake and a card signed by my co-workers. Learn the art of modesty. Your 15 minutes of retirement fame are already wearing out, and you're not even retired yet.

This whole thread reminds me of that Brady Bunch episode when Peter pushes a girl out of harm's way in a toy store, is labeled a hero, wins $50 and throws himself a party to celebrate his heroics. Nobody shows up, because they're tired of his big ego. Mix, your actions have all the makings of a Peter Brady party.
 
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He wont answer it Dan - he has his blinders on and only replies to questions he wants to answer

he never listens to ANYONE only himself!!
 
MixMasterMachoMachoTheRetirementPartyMan!

if your so called peeps really gave a sh!t, you would not be throwing yourself a party. You would be the guest of honor at your event with all of the expenses covered by the host. If you choose to throw this party, you are responsible for the expenses, not your guest.

You also said up above that you have a DJ company.... Thanks for the laugh.

DJCC has it correct..
 
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I've never heard of charging guests to attend any kind of party, and i've been involved with just about every kind possible over the last 10 years. From house parties to college parties Birthday parties to retirement parties , i've never seen the guests charged admission?? I wouldn't attend a party where someone wanted me to pay admission, I recommend saving for the event and if you want to have the party, the cost is on you.
 
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