Weddings My first wedding today have a few questions

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I just can't understand why DJs all the time on forums bust the chops of others that come here looking for advice. All this DJ wanted was advice, not to be slammed about not being prepared. We all started somewhere! When I did my first Wedding, I was ****ting bricks and unprepared. Back then I had no forums to ask advice like today. But to tell you the truth by seeing some of the negative replies here, I would of never asked either. All the Seniors here should set an example by lending a hand to the new guys that come in asking advice, Instead of bashing the DJs you should try and educate them without making them feel inferior. There are many ways to educate them without being so rude. All that does is impact the community in a negative way and drives away the new members.

I maybe guilty of it sometimes but I try my very best to assist no matter how stupid the question is. You would expect the same for you.
 
eldjdelcaribe said:
I just can't understand why DJs all the time on forums bust the chops of others that come here looking for advice. All this DJ wanted was advice, not to be slammed about not being prepared. We all started somewhere! When I did my first Wedding, I was ****ting bricks and unprepared. Back then I had no forums to ask advice like today. But to tell you the truth by seeing some of the negative replies here, I would of never asked either. All the Seniors here should set an example by lending a hand to the new guys that come in asking advice, Instead of bashing the DJs you should try and educate them without making them feel inferior. There are many ways to educate them without being so rude. All that does is impact the community in a negative way and drives away the new members.

I maybe guilty of it sometimes but I try my very best to assist no matter how stupid the question is. You would expect the same for you.
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Freddy suks.LOL
 
vpver2 said:
I'm not here to criticize you, but are you ready to play someone's wedding? When you are asking questions like this mere hours before the reception I have to wonder if you are ready to take on the responsibility that comes along with entertaining at a wedding.

When people hire us, they are putting a lot of faith in our ability to do the job. I discuss the intro's in my meeting(s) with client. We go over several different ways of doing the intros. Some people want simple flower girl, ring bearer, bridesmaid, groomsman, maid/matron of honor, best man, bride and groom name intros. Some people like to have fun and will give you little details about the person so you can have some fun with the intro's. Other B&G's will want a more formal approach.

It's up to the B&G what they want, I'm a conduit for getting the message out in an entertaining and professional manner.
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Freddy - I don't see anything in this message that would make any grown man feel inferior....Frankly the CONSTRUCTIVE criticism here is very valid....

Mike provided help yet in a very constructive way pointed out where the OP had gone awry (asking on the day of the reception).

If the OP had said: " I have a wedding in a month"...I would think Mike's response would have been different...

A good educator doesn't give you the answers to the questions; they will give you the tools to find the answers; they will also correct you when you are doing it wrong.
 
My thought

Howdy,

I gave him some concrete direction for a reason....the Bride and Groom were depending on him to perform. I agree that you shouldn't take a job if you don't know what you're doing. If you want to learn, ride along with someone.

Dave
 
I think some of you are being way to hard on this DJ..... Try and remember back to your first event, wedding....

Maybe you thought you were ready, had gone along with another DJ and talked to your B&G.....

Maybe he did to....

But now you are at the event, or you just set up and you get a tad nervous. NONE of you went thought that? You were all so perfect and ready to go there were no butterflies?

So back in my day, I didn't have a choice, I bucked up and did it.... but now we have the option in a lot of places to get a little last minute boast of confidence from fellow DJ's.

Maybe a last second idea. We have the technology. To me, that is what I was reading.

If you take the time to read a post with an open heart instead of a closed mind, maybe your posted response will be different.
 
There are valid points on both sides. Someone asked recently why a wedding planner was giving advice on how to become a DJ. Maybe this thread answers that question. We, as a group, simply don't take our jobs serious enough for others to take us seriously.

Having said that I must say I started the same way on a wing and a prayer, and I sucked. No one ever said "you suck" they say nice things, but I sucked. The tools weren't available when I started that are available today, the internet and chat boards, training DVDs, I didn't know another dj anywhere. Today there are easier and better ways to get training than to do what I did and that is suck 'til I figured it out.
 
Cr33pin said:
hey vpver2............ i killed it, the wedding was off the hook it was hard for me to get out of there when i was done cause of the bride an groom an family huggin me an taking pics an thanking me, telling me how awesome i did

to the people with positive things to say, thank you. an the youtube idea worked well to. i knew the gerneal idea of introductions i was asking if anyone had an tips or tricks they used

LIFE IS GOOD :D thanks again
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Well, there you go folks. Another proud graduate of YouTube University. :sqrolleyes:

I'm heading there now to learn how to rebuild my transmission.






J/K: Glad it worked out for you. :sqwink:



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CMWAT said:
there has to be a first,he just needs a bit of help to get him going
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I agree...at some point there has to be a "first time". Preferably when the bride and grooms expectations of your service are at their lowest.

CMWAT said:
soon he will be a pro at what he does
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That takes time, training and practice.

CMWAT said:
most people has a bit of nervousness in them for the first time.
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I have butterflies in my stomach every time I go out and open a mic. In my opinion if you don't it shows you don't care. When I don't care is when I'll leave this business.

CMWAT said:
i do hope everything went well for you bud.
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Agreed.
 
One thing that all should learn is:


- never try and learn on the day of a Job
- learn how to Dj well before the event
so you can learn better and not be offended if someone comes in on a dj board and gives you grief that your NOT prepared in the first place...


now having said that if I was to ask on the day of the wedding (as you have)
then I wouldnt have taken the job in the first place



and as for introducing the Bride and groom and bridal party

ALWAYS ask them so if they decide they want it done differently then you wont be in the doghouse for saying it all wrong

have a nice day
 
i know how to DJ an i did great at my first wedding they wouldnt have traded me for DJ Jazzy Jeff

got a lil nervous the day of an made this post an stupid people on here tryin to give me grief an they can kiss my ass

once again thanks for the people who did give advice an were helpful
 
jabo said:
There are valid points on both sides. Someone asked recently why a wedding planner was giving advice on how to become a DJ. Maybe this thread answers that question. We, as a group, simply don't take our jobs serious enough for others to take us seriously.
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And alot take it waaayyyy too seriously

Honestly it's not brain surgery, no one is going to die if you mispronounce Jackomanovich. I believe in being prepared, and I'm sure Spin was, he just asked some advice on the intro.

At 9:30 tonight I recieved the list of names hand written on a hotel scratch pad five minutes before intros. I guess I should have refused to intro them because I didn't have it typed in triplicate 3 weeks in advance?
 
Jeff Romard said:
...At 9:30 tonight I recieved the list of names hand written on a hotel scratch pad five minutes before intros. I guess I should have refused to intro them because I didn't have it typed in triplicate 3 weeks in advance?
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This has happened to us often. Last time, I was reading the names off a shoebox lid while the folks assembled outside.

I've read from planner forms that had so many last-minute corrections and scratched out names, it was a challenge to know who was what and in which order.

Getting a list of names in advance is all well and fine. I'm just saying... it can turn out to be a waste of time. Come the wedding day, Uncle Arthur is out sick. Aunt Tilly had a death in the family. The flower girl's family didn't show etc. The last thing you want to do is announce someone who isn't there.

Wedding intros can be a last-minute deal. :)
 
Fred Wright said:
Getting a list of names in advance is all well and fine. I'm just saying... it can turn out to be a waste of time. Come the wedding day, Uncle Arthur is out sick. Aunt Tilly had a death in the family. The flower girl's family didn't show etc. The last thing you want to do is announce someone who isn't there.

Wedding intros can be a last-minute deal. :)
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Did one in July where the groom in planning wanted a special song fo his grandmother. They forgot to tell me that night that Grandma Mae wasn't there.

Not a bad as the song I sent out to the dead guy one night though
 
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