Ok guys and gals I have a wedding coming up in 3 weeks. I see a huge potential for lag and drag at this wedding. Here is something she wrote word for word on my online planner.
Reception starts at 3:00, there will be a coctail hour until 4:00. Then the wedding party will arrive and we want to walk into the Peanuts Theme song. Then we will walk around and say hi to people for about 45 min, then dinner will be called for at 4:45. Dinner will be served at 5:00. We want to maybe do the toasts as dinner is finishing up, I'm sure the best man will start, then the maid of honor, the my dad, then Brian's dad, then all my friends will want to say something and maybe my mom will say something. I don't want this to last forever, but I do want to let people talk if they really want to.
Then we will do the special dances starting with bride and groom first dance, then father daughter dance, then mother son.
Then we will cut the cake to "How Sweet It Is" by Marvin Gaye. Then we can do the bouquet toss and the garter toss. Then move into the money dance. I want the money dance to last awhile, enough time to get some money for the honeymoon! View attachment smile.gif Then bring everyone on the dance floor. Then it will turn into a dance party with an open bar the whole night!
I guess the big thing to let you know is that Brian and I have to leave no later than 8:15 pm to catch the plane to the honeymooon. We are really leaving that night for our honeymoon!
So I guess a little of this plan I have is up for movement, but I think I like it for the most part. I just want to make sure we get all the stuff in by the time Brian and I have to leave.
I think after we leave some people might stick around, but you would know better than me about that! My wedding planner said from her experiance after we cut the cake it gives people the "ok" to leave. So I wanted the move the cake cuting to a little later and do the special dances first.
Now here is what I would like to send but have not yet. Also please ignore all spelling and bad grammar my wife will be correcting it all if I send it.
Hi Denae,
In the next couple of days I would like to call you and talk with about the flow of your event. I have a few concerns that I really wanted you to be aware of. It's not that big of a deal but given the size of your wedding (250 People) and the total time frame of things. As a professional I felt that I should at least let you know what I see. Now since I do not know your family or friends many things depend on that. Now understand that this is your day and people should realize that.
I also do not want to make you feel rushed nor see a lag on your reception. During the dinner time and leading up to your open dancing this time is usually filled with (Photographs, Goodbyes, Bathroom, Conversations with long lost family and friends etc etc.) With a very large wedding especially when dinner is being served (this takes quite a while even with a very fast company).
This is usually when the professional wedding goer some young and some old. Will feel that a nudge is in order to get things going. Many people do not understand a flow of events or the bride and grooms wishes being served. For me on my end I simply want you to have a great time and enjoy your reception with out people pushing you. Now understand I'm not trying to change anything about your reception or anything that you want to do.
I'm simply writing this to you as your Master of Ceremony's and DJ so that you can know what to expect. I don't like to see my brides stressed on there day because of guests or family members pushing them when they should really just be enjoying the reception. With an open bar comes the very true phrase (A sober mans thoughts are a drunk mans actions ). Down below I have added to your time line to show you the reality of what the time will more that likely actually look like. Remember we do this about every week or every other week during wedding season.
1. Reception starts at 3:00
2. There will be a cocktail hour until 4:00.
3. Then the wedding party will arrive and we want to walk into the Peanuts Theme song. Then we will walk around and say hi to people for about 45 min, then dinner will be called for at 4:45. Dinner will be served at 5:00.
4. (MC/DJ Adding here) Dinner will take 1/2 to 1 hour to be served (lets say 45 minutes to be right in the middle.) I would say at this time tell your caterers right after dinner to start pouring for the toasts many will try and clear plates at this time. I understand why they do it but it will slow you down. If you are toasting with what ever folks have on the table you can have the caterers tell me when they are done serving and we can do the toast then.
Time right then will be about 6:15 including toasts (Times not totally accurate I don't use time lines any more only flow of events time lines are mainly for having people or dinner set at a certain time. At receptions they get messed up quickly because of all the above). As you can see your guests are 3 hours into your reception. This is when the professional wedding goers will feel that your event needs a push and when they will start pushing the bride and groom to get things moving.
And the event dances have not even started. Lets add 1 more hour for them including cake cutting and money dance. So right there your looking about 4 hours or 7:15 again these are just experienced guesstamations. Now understand that throwing some open dancing in there simply puts you farther behind on your event dances and then you just end up clearing a floor and people become very unhappy.
To be honest the only place you could cut time from if you wish to do all the things that you desire would be the 45 minutes that your using to walk the room before dinner. I have most of my brides and grooms walk the room after dinner because they are the first to be served and the first done and even then you must not get held up at tables and believe me people will try and hold you up. The only way to do this would be having your dinner a little earlier.
Again this email is not to stress you though it might cause you some but that is not my intent. My intent is to see you have a great day with no stress and have a great time with your family and friends telling you what a great time they had. If of course you know all this then no problemo.
Your DJ Dave
Reception starts at 3:00, there will be a coctail hour until 4:00. Then the wedding party will arrive and we want to walk into the Peanuts Theme song. Then we will walk around and say hi to people for about 45 min, then dinner will be called for at 4:45. Dinner will be served at 5:00. We want to maybe do the toasts as dinner is finishing up, I'm sure the best man will start, then the maid of honor, the my dad, then Brian's dad, then all my friends will want to say something and maybe my mom will say something. I don't want this to last forever, but I do want to let people talk if they really want to.
Then we will do the special dances starting with bride and groom first dance, then father daughter dance, then mother son.
Then we will cut the cake to "How Sweet It Is" by Marvin Gaye. Then we can do the bouquet toss and the garter toss. Then move into the money dance. I want the money dance to last awhile, enough time to get some money for the honeymoon! View attachment smile.gif Then bring everyone on the dance floor. Then it will turn into a dance party with an open bar the whole night!
I guess the big thing to let you know is that Brian and I have to leave no later than 8:15 pm to catch the plane to the honeymooon. We are really leaving that night for our honeymoon!
So I guess a little of this plan I have is up for movement, but I think I like it for the most part. I just want to make sure we get all the stuff in by the time Brian and I have to leave.
I think after we leave some people might stick around, but you would know better than me about that! My wedding planner said from her experiance after we cut the cake it gives people the "ok" to leave. So I wanted the move the cake cuting to a little later and do the special dances first.
Now here is what I would like to send but have not yet. Also please ignore all spelling and bad grammar my wife will be correcting it all if I send it.
Hi Denae,
In the next couple of days I would like to call you and talk with about the flow of your event. I have a few concerns that I really wanted you to be aware of. It's not that big of a deal but given the size of your wedding (250 People) and the total time frame of things. As a professional I felt that I should at least let you know what I see. Now since I do not know your family or friends many things depend on that. Now understand that this is your day and people should realize that.
I also do not want to make you feel rushed nor see a lag on your reception. During the dinner time and leading up to your open dancing this time is usually filled with (Photographs, Goodbyes, Bathroom, Conversations with long lost family and friends etc etc.) With a very large wedding especially when dinner is being served (this takes quite a while even with a very fast company).
This is usually when the professional wedding goer some young and some old. Will feel that a nudge is in order to get things going. Many people do not understand a flow of events or the bride and grooms wishes being served. For me on my end I simply want you to have a great time and enjoy your reception with out people pushing you. Now understand I'm not trying to change anything about your reception or anything that you want to do.
I'm simply writing this to you as your Master of Ceremony's and DJ so that you can know what to expect. I don't like to see my brides stressed on there day because of guests or family members pushing them when they should really just be enjoying the reception. With an open bar comes the very true phrase (A sober mans thoughts are a drunk mans actions ). Down below I have added to your time line to show you the reality of what the time will more that likely actually look like. Remember we do this about every week or every other week during wedding season.
1. Reception starts at 3:00
2. There will be a cocktail hour until 4:00.
3. Then the wedding party will arrive and we want to walk into the Peanuts Theme song. Then we will walk around and say hi to people for about 45 min, then dinner will be called for at 4:45. Dinner will be served at 5:00.
4. (MC/DJ Adding here) Dinner will take 1/2 to 1 hour to be served (lets say 45 minutes to be right in the middle.) I would say at this time tell your caterers right after dinner to start pouring for the toasts many will try and clear plates at this time. I understand why they do it but it will slow you down. If you are toasting with what ever folks have on the table you can have the caterers tell me when they are done serving and we can do the toast then.
Time right then will be about 6:15 including toasts (Times not totally accurate I don't use time lines any more only flow of events time lines are mainly for having people or dinner set at a certain time. At receptions they get messed up quickly because of all the above). As you can see your guests are 3 hours into your reception. This is when the professional wedding goers will feel that your event needs a push and when they will start pushing the bride and groom to get things moving.
And the event dances have not even started. Lets add 1 more hour for them including cake cutting and money dance. So right there your looking about 4 hours or 7:15 again these are just experienced guesstamations. Now understand that throwing some open dancing in there simply puts you farther behind on your event dances and then you just end up clearing a floor and people become very unhappy.
To be honest the only place you could cut time from if you wish to do all the things that you desire would be the 45 minutes that your using to walk the room before dinner. I have most of my brides and grooms walk the room after dinner because they are the first to be served and the first done and even then you must not get held up at tables and believe me people will try and hold you up. The only way to do this would be having your dinner a little earlier.
Again this email is not to stress you though it might cause you some but that is not my intent. My intent is to see you have a great day with no stress and have a great time with your family and friends telling you what a great time they had. If of course you know all this then no problemo.
Your DJ Dave