Howdy,
If people are booking just from a site visit, it seems like you need to raise your price. I mean, without even having a discussion about value or personality?
Really?
Dave
ps. I'm really hoping for a civil discussion here.
I don't know why you'd say that. They make the decision exactly because the VALUE is so obviously there! My pricing strategies and philosophies are a lot different than many of my contemporaries, so I suppose we could just agree to disagree on many pricing points and call it a day!
Barring that, my prices are pretty middle-of-the-road for my market ($750/4hr Reception), and I build those prices from the ground up based on nothing but tangibles - i.e., my hard-costs to exist and do business, and my time for every part of the job, including meetings, paperwork, loading, setup, etc. I'm sure most of you do the same.
As for discussing personality, I don't discuss personality. I have a personality, and if they like it on the phone and in email, they set up a consult, and if they think the personalities "click" there, and they see a value in the service offering, they hire. Personality is never "discussed" at all.
While I would of course love to get paid more for what I do (wouldn't anybody who does anything?), I can't just pull a magic and baseless number out of the ether like many dj's too. My rates are what I need from a business stand-point, and reimburse me what I feel, right now, given my level of experience, etc., to be a fair hourly rate for my services before and during the event.
It's not that I UNDERPRICE, so people are willing to buy sight unseen, but rather that for decades, DJ's have been OVER charging based on subjective considerations, hence the need to resort to used-car-salesman-like tactics and fight tooth-and-nail to "justify" their rate to perspective clients. If the value is their in the eyes of the client, it's not a fight.
People see the value in my services, and it's easy to sell them on it. Just like a new big-screen.
If people see a big screen tv (my prices), they will buy it unless they know they can get something (whether the same or lower in quality) sufficiently cheaper elsewhere ("Craigslist DJ"). It's not that the price on the sticker is "too high" and the tv "doesn't seem worth it," it's just that they know they can get it cheaper down the road or on-line. But if you saw essentially the SAME or a similar big screen tv priced SUBSTANTIALLY MORE (the dj who has to actively TRY to convince people of the value of their offerings), the sales-staff is going to have to work that much harder to convince the buyer to shell out and boost the value-perception.
I do my best to SHOW clients what they can expect and receive both before and during their event, and if they like it, they buy. Part of my strategy though is that I do as much of this education and elucidation for the potential customer on my site so they have that understanding of what I bring, my philosophies, what they can expect, etc. before they call me. So it's not a battle for me, nor an arduous sales process to "sway them" over to me.
So I would respond to your comment by saying that if someone has to fight an uphill battle to convince people of the value of their offering, an overwhelming value might not be there... at least for that client. This may be because of the offering itself, or, it could be due to deficiencies in the way the services and offerings are being communicated to the client - thereby determining if they will "see the value."
If every sale is a battle to justify your rate, you're either charging too much (i.e., they don't agree the value is there), or you need to do a better job of conveying said value, or simply need to market to a clientele who won't blink at the rates you are charging.
That's why I insist upon formulating my prices using a simple cost+ model and basing them on tangibles. Such pricing in our industry is bound to end up being middle-of-the-road in any given market.
I think the psychological effect of this on the buyer tends to be a Goldilocks-esque feeling that the pricing is honest, and makes them feel like they are paying a professional fee for a professional service while not getting reamed in the process

Combine this middle-of-the-road pricing with a slam-dunk value perception, and they will buy without "a pitch" needed.