I have a client that had her father pass away a while back. Her mother remarried and the stepfather raised her and became a second dad. He died a couple of years ago. The one thing the bride really was looking forward to was the Father/Daughter dance and now she can't. This has really bummed her out and her maid-of-honor is trying to come up with something special for this. She has suggested using the new father-in-law or her brother. any suggestions?
Dad/Daughter Dance w/o a dad. How?
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The suggestions you listed sound great, maybe mention if there is any other significant male figure in her life she would want to dance with. Otherwise I would use the father-in-law
Again welcome and I hope you enjoy your stay here.
The suggestions you listed sound great, maybe mention if there is any other significant male figure in her life she would want to dance with. Otherwise I would use the father-in-law
Again welcome and I hope you enjoy your stay here.
K
Kirby Ball
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Welcome to ODJT!
I agree with Bounce.
We have had one Bride whose father had passed and she danced with her favorite Uncle.
We also had a Bride whose father just had back surgery and was unable to dance, so she danced with her Brother.
Both Brides had us make appropriate announcements in each case.
Kirby
I agree with Bounce.
We have had one Bride whose father had passed and she danced with her favorite Uncle.
We also had a Bride whose father just had back surgery and was unable to dance, so she danced with her Brother.
Both Brides had us make appropriate announcements in each case.
Kirby
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So it can be a great way to have tribute for Dad playing something that was special to them both. A close male family member could be the stand in though never filling the shoes.
Welcome to ourdjtalk hope you enjoy the ATTENTIVENESS (sorry private joke).
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Nobody can take Dad's place, but a nice announcement along the lines of, "Betty would like to dedicate this next very special song to her Dad Billy. She loves you and you are always in her heart. Uncle Chuck will now share a dance in rememberance of Billy"
Then play Highway To Hell.... or whatever song she picks...
Then play Highway To Hell.... or whatever song she picks...
Another possible idea is to have pictures of the father for the guests to see. Ive had a event like this and the brother stepped in. You could also use the grandfather.
Fo My Wedding, My Wife's Father Passed 4 Months Prior, She had a Dance with her Brother (Who Also Walked her down the Isle)
While everybody has contributed great ideas (minus the HIGHWAY TO HELL
), I like Carolyn's the best. But that's because I never even came close to contemplating anything similar, and so I deem it as "UNIQUE", regardless of the "growing trend".ya i don't get it
Just don't do what I did at a wedding in September. Apparently the bride's dad decided to not participate in the dance a couple days before. The bride told the groom that she was going to dance with her son from a previous marriage, about 13 years old I'd say, and told him to get with me on the change. Low and behold, Mr. Groom forgets to tell me about it, and it comes time for the dance, and here I am paying attention to my mixer and not the dancefloor, and yep, you guessed it. There is the bride and her son standing in the middle of the floor listening to "Daddy's Little Girl."
She looked at me, and I looked at the groom who wanted to crawl under the booth worse than I did. She made him take the mic and explain to everyone that he was a forgetful moron, and it was not my fault, and the party resumed.
Lesson learned.
She looked at me, and I looked at the groom who wanted to crawl under the booth worse than I did. She made him take the mic and explain to everyone that he was a forgetful moron, and it was not my fault, and the party resumed.
Lesson learned.
For just this reason I always double check everything and then check again the day of the event. I have caught a couple changes in the past that saved alot of embarrasment.
At my second daughter's wedding we planned to NOT have a F/D dance. We did not want to do it just to do it cause it is always done. We did not want to force it. But instead I created a great video production of us together through the years. I used the song "The Most Beautiful Girl In the World" by Prince. Everyone was still at the dinner table and we played it as I sat next to her and we just had a great time with that. It was better than any F/D dance I could have planned. We had everyone involved. You know how a lot of F/D dances are; people talking business on the sides, staff and kids running around etc. This was magic.
I suggest to have her have someone make an A/V presentation and dedicate it to the dad's. Do it right before dinner ends.
I suggest to have her have someone make an A/V presentation and dedicate it to the dad's. Do it right before dinner ends.
K
Kirby Ball
Guest
I want to thank everyone for the great ideas. I am sorry i didn't get back sooner but between registering for school, work and family not a lot of time to play on the 'puter. You all have been a great help and I will pass the ideas to the Maid-of-Honor and let her decide the best way. Again thanks.