Groom wants it to the point of begging you and in your face to do it but the bride, the one who contracted you, is equally against doing it and says under no cercumstances are we doing the Dollar Dance... WWYD?
Dollar Dance....
- Thread starter jokerswild
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We have had a couple like this before, we suggested that the groom does the dance only. By the wedding date the bride was also ok with doing the dance also and they both took part.
-Damon
-Damon
In this case I had not even met with the bride face to face prior to the reception and had never even spoke to the groom before the reception.... plus she didn't want him to know why she didn't want to do it.
The reason the bride didn't want to do it was because she didn't really know any of the grooms side of the family and certainly didn't want to dance with none of them.....
I think she was creeped out by them.
I think she was creeped out by them.
When Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.
So true... and actually my/our avatar is a photo of us taken at that event.
We always describe this dance to the bride and groom as a great way to thank the guest for their attendance. We play faster songs like If I had a million dollars.
-Damon
Doesn't that fly in the face of what the dollar dance is for?
It's a chance for the B&G to get a few bucks so they can afford McDonalds after the reception and more over it's a chance for each guest to dance and chat with them on a more personal level even if for only about 15-30 seconds...
There is actually a Dollar Dance Polka that is like 14 minutes long... but I usually just play a batch of slow songs until the dollar dance'ees get tired of it or it gets stale.
K
Kirby Ball
Guest
Like others we announce it as a way that the guests can come up and offer their personal congratulations to the Bride and/or Groom, the money is mentioned as a secondary reason.
We try to use a couple of slow songs to start off, then use mid-tempo songs as we go along and end the dance with at least one or two upbeat numbers.
We try to use a couple of slow songs to start off, then use mid-tempo songs as we go along and end the dance with at least one or two upbeat numbers.
Let them hash it out & get back with you.
This one of the reasons why I sit down & meet with the bride & groom beforehand.
Dealing with this nonsense during the event is unprofessional & can break the flow and send the happiness into a downward spiral. (doing something that puts you in the middle & you know one of them will be upset)
I lay it out at our meeting that I DO NOT & WILL NOT be put into this type of position.
It's up to them to decide.
On another note...take that 14 min. dollar dance polka & throw it in the garbage.
This one of the reasons why I sit down & meet with the bride & groom beforehand.
Dealing with this nonsense during the event is unprofessional & can break the flow and send the happiness into a downward spiral. (doing something that puts you in the middle & you know one of them will be upset)
I lay it out at our meeting that I DO NOT & WILL NOT be put into this type of position.
It's up to them to decide.
On another note...take that 14 min. dollar dance polka & throw it in the garbage.
Here's how I sell it to the (reluctant) spouse:
its a HONEYMOON Dance (not Dollar or Money dance).......I won't use the word for $$$.
"Folks, the Honeymoon dance is where you PAY your respects to the Newlyweds, with emphasis on the word PAY. Girls line up to dance with the Groom, and Guys line up to dance with the Bride....etc."
This usually makes BOTH SPOUSES comfortable with the $$$ Dance.
NOTE:
There will always be some IDIOT who comes up during one of my Honeymoon Dances, and asks "When are we having the MONEY DANCE?" (While people are lined up on the dance floor, pinning $$$ on the B/G.....DOH!)
its a HONEYMOON Dance (not Dollar or Money dance).......I won't use the word for $$$.
"Folks, the Honeymoon dance is where you PAY your respects to the Newlyweds, with emphasis on the word PAY. Girls line up to dance with the Groom, and Guys line up to dance with the Bride....etc."
This usually makes BOTH SPOUSES comfortable with the $$$ Dance.
NOTE:
There will always be some IDIOT who comes up during one of my Honeymoon Dances, and asks "When are we having the MONEY DANCE?" (While people are lined up on the dance floor, pinning $$$ on the B/G.....DOH!)
G
Guest
Guest
Listen to the Bride! I had a grand total of one dollar dance during my San Francisco Bay Area mobile DJ period and to be honest it was bloody embarrassing - like begging for money. Awful thing to do.
The Greeks do it as a tradition but from what I saw in Calif it was way too tacky....
In the Fairmont Hotel Ballroom in San Jose too $ dance = for peasants aka Zorba
The Greeks do it as a tradition but from what I saw in Calif it was way too tacky....
In the Fairmont Hotel Ballroom in San Jose too $ dance = for peasants aka Zorba
I don't even bring it up, nor list it anywhere on my planning info.
If it is brought up, I ask if they'd like to hear my honest opinion on the thought of them. If they say sure, I very politely remind them that their guests have given up an afternoon/evening and probably have spent at a minimum of $25 or more on a gift to come and celebrate with them on their special day. Asking for an additional few bucks seems very tacky and in my experience many people seem to thin out shortly after I've ever done them.
Since taking this approach, I think I've only done 1 since and that's been several years back.
If it is brought up, I ask if they'd like to hear my honest opinion on the thought of them. If they say sure, I very politely remind them that their guests have given up an afternoon/evening and probably have spent at a minimum of $25 or more on a gift to come and celebrate with them on their special day. Asking for an additional few bucks seems very tacky and in my experience many people seem to thin out shortly after I've ever done them.
Since taking this approach, I think I've only done 1 since and that's been several years back.
Here on the island, it's tradition to do it during the first dance... the tradition is for the B&G to dance and people come up and stick money somewhere on the B&G, (yes I said somewhere, anywhere is a better word) then the other one pulls it out with their teeth and drop it on the floor or sometimes into a basket.
Even if the B&G don't want it during the first dance, and I announce that fact, some old tutu "grandma" is going to come up and do it anyway.....
Not everything is done the same everywhere....
Even if the B&G don't want it during the first dance, and I announce that fact, some old tutu "grandma" is going to come up and do it anyway.....
Not everything is done the same everywhere....
I totally agree with the hash it out before the event... but this event was on such short notice that everything and I mean everything was done via email with only one phone call.... she did put on the planner that there was to be no dollar dance... it was the groom that brought it up at the event....
Since the only contact I had was with the bride I had no idea the groom wanted it... but again at the event she reiterated the fact that she didn't want the dollar dance and then again later in the evening is when she told me the reason why.
Ideally I would have already talked with both the groom and the bride.... the groom was out of town training with the Navy for his eminent deployment to Iraq so he was not contactable prior to the event even if I had contact info for him.
I would have laughed at him and told him to go talk to his wife about it. If he asks why then I would tell him.They can figure it out and if they agree then its a go.