Vows during First Dance

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awalker19

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So I have been wanting to mix some of the couples vows into their first dance song for awhile. I finally had a good opportunity to try it. The couple had their ceremony a couple weeks ago in Aruba and it was professionally recorded. During their reception here, they asked me to play the wedding video to start the reception. So I had their vows a couple days in advance. I simply popped their first dance song into Adobi Audition, found a couple good spots to loop and overlaid small portions of their vows.

They loved it. From the review they left "...I absolutely loved how they had bits and pieces of our wedding vows mixed in with out first dance song. It was a very nice surprise."

Now to see if I can do it when we have the ceremony the same day as the reception. There should be enough time during dinner to make the edits now that I have a practiced a bit. Or, I could always do it for the last dance if time runs out.

Anyone else doing this?
 
So I have been wanting to mix some of the couples vows into their first dance song for awhile. I finally had a good opportunity to try it. The couple had their ceremony a couple weeks ago in Aruba and it was professionally recorded. During their reception here, they asked me to play the wedding video to start the reception. So I had their vows a couple days in advance. I simply popped their first dance song into Adobi Audition, found a couple good spots to loop and overlaid small portions of their vows.

They loved it. From the review they left "...I absolutely loved how they had bits and pieces of our wedding vows mixed in with out first dance song. It was a very nice surprise."

Now to see if I can do it when we have the ceremony the same day as the reception. There should be enough time during dinner to make the edits now that I have a practiced a bit. Or, I could always do it for the last dance if time runs out.

Anyone else doing this?

No, but it's an interesting idea. I think it's HUGELY risky to just do it without prior knowledge or approval from the client. Some of these girls get very touchy about their first dance song.
 
I wouldn't bother with editing unless someone requested something very specific. If I had access to record the vows I would simply store a sample and mix it live if it seemed right. I wouldn't commit myself to a pre-edited mix.

I prefer to see exactly what is happening on the floor and in the room before I let something like that loose. Better to have my finger on the control and [take]/[not take] than be stuck with something I can't remove.
 
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I think it is a great idea.
But I agree with Rick and Bob that it requires a touch of caution.
Asking them would ruin the surprise...
but that's not as bad as completely ruining their first dance.
 
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I think it is a great idea.
But I agree with Rick and Bob that it requires a touch of caution.
Asking them would ruin the surprise...
but that's not as bad as completely ruining their first dance.

Most importantly you don't want to throw someone off. Some couples have rehearsed their dance or taken specific lessons. Even if you don't loop or remix the track - the distraction of the VOX may mess them up. Another thing to consider is the emotion - you don't want to bring a couple to tears in their dance - as can happen with the parent dances. You have to be ready to help people along or through those moments with a ready plan B.
 
I'm by far not the first to do this. I think I originally heard the idea from Randy Bartlett. It gets talked about all the time in his "1% solution" facebook group. You definitely need to know your couple before you do it. I have couples I wouldn't do it for just because of what I know of them and I have couples that I know would love it. Also, if a couple has a special dance or something special during their first dance, I would already know that and not do it.

There are several ways you can do it too. For example, you could go to the groom and suggest he prerecord a message to the bride and slip it into the first dance or last dance. Ultimately, the bride is the one who appreciates it more. So you can get "permission" from the groom and its still a surprise to the bride. Some guys slip in parts of the toasts or ceremony in the last dance as well.
Its all about making the couples day unique. When I did it, I had several people come up and say that they had never seen that before and how much they liked it. As talked about in other threads, repeat business comes from building relationships and being remembered. That reception will now stick out in peoples mind because they saw something different.

But it all starts with knowing your couple and them trusting you. When I got married, we had one vendor who was much more personal than the rest. He would joke that we would eventually call him an Uncle. That was 10 years ago and I still remember him well and have used him for other things. This is the relationship I try to have with my couples. They will randomly call me and ask me questions about what their other vendors are doing and my opinion on it. I encourage them to do this. I tell them things like if they are listening to the radio and they hear a song that gives them good memories, to text it to me. This way I can work it into the playlist somewhere. And I do get random texts with songs. This is my method though and how I am building my company. I also only do a limited number of weddings a year too. So I can be picky about the couples I book.