I think.........
Here is the scenario:
Kasey (bride) & Matt (Groom): A really great couple that I am really looking forward to working with next weekend May 17th. The three of us have already mapped out the format with a couple of minor revisions by Kasey just yesterday. There is a clause on page two of my contract that stipulates that the Bride, Groom and DJ have total creative control over all proceedings and that any and all changes must be approved by the bride.
I have received a couple of emails from Kaseys Mom concerning a surprise duet being sung to the couple by a friend of the Mom's for the couple to dance to. I don't like surprises, and will do anything and everything in my power to keep them from disrupting the flow of events that the Bride has already mapped out. The last thing I want is for the B&G to be embarrassed by this "surprise" or for those involved to be "embarrassed" by any negative turn of events - such as a crying bride that wasn't prepared for this type of thing - and when I say "crying", I mean the type of crying that sends the bride to the bathroom, locking herself in a stall and not coming out for an hour.
Allow me to copy and paste here the email I received today from Kasey's mom:
Hello Greg,
Hope all is well with you! Only 1½ weeks to go! Time is flying! Yikes!
I have had some different thoughts about our little “surprise duet” for Kasey and Matt. After talking to Matt’s parents as well as Kasey’s Matron of Honor and several others, I want to go with the original plan for the song “Miracle To Me” to be played for the couple's first dance. Upon hearing this song, my first idea was to have this sung as they dance their “First Dance”. One of the reasons for this is Kasey has made many references to not liking everyone looking at them while they are dancing. (Don’t mention this – she would die if she knew I told you that.) So if there is a duet being sung while they are having their “first dance”, perhaps some people will look at the singers!!!!! Therefore that means the playing of their chosen “First Dance” Song by Big and Rich will have to come later. If you have an idea as to when, let me know. I was thinking you could play it while they are mingling and actually say “this is the song Kasey and Matt chose as their “First Dance” song so maybe they would like to dance together to it now.” (I am sure you can make it sound better than I did.) Another idea is to play it as the last song of the night. Either way, whenever you play it, you can mention that it was the couple's chosen "first dance" song.
Here is my idea – After the introductions, please say “The choosing of this next song called "Miracle to Me" for the couple's "First Dance" is a surprise for Kasey and Matt as a gift from their parents. It will be sung by their friends, Cheryl and Randy Wallace. “
Also, I am emailing you the demo and the actual song. I thought you might want to hear the words since you will be giving the introduction. If you still need me to mail you a "Safe CD Demo" let me know. I can drop it in mail tomorrow.
Please email me the order of Reception that you, Kasey and Matt decided on with this change. I look forward to hearing from you!
Terri Maxcy
Mother of Bride
Please let me know you received this email - last time it never went through. Technology!!!
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Now you guys tell me if this doesn't sound like Mom wanting to take complete control of the proceedings? I honestly have never dealt with this kind of scenario.
So, in my attempt to douse a fire before it even starts, here was my response to Terri:
Terri -
Kasey has made it clear to me that the Big n Rich tune is what she wants played as their First Dance. I haven't said anything at all about the surprise as per your wishes, but I am very concerned about springing a surprise on her and Matt that they haven't approved. Trust me when I say this - in my experience, Brides absolutely do not want anything different from what they have set as their special music or anything that differs from the format that they have already approved.
Kasey has already made the changes that she and Matt want from the original draft we drew up during our meeting. She has been in constant contact with me over the last couple of days as to what she wants, and I am dutifully and legally contractually bound to do just that. Kasey is the only person that is allowed to make changes to her format, so I am going to have to defer you to her.
Please understand that I am not at all trying to be difficult with this suggestion, it's just that I am very concerned that it isn't what Kasey and Matt want. And that is what this day is about - Kasey and Matt.
I would ask that you talk this over with her instead of surprising her with it - only because I would be very concerned about the consequences that would ensue, such as a crying bride. That's the last thing I want to happen. Can you see my point that I am trying to make?
My main concern is to make the two of them happy in the most professional way possible.
I look forward to your reply.
--
Greg McLeese
Owner/Operator
KICKIT PRODUCTIONS
MOBILE ENTERTAINMENT
http://www.kickit-productions.com
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Thoughts?
Here is the scenario:
Kasey (bride) & Matt (Groom): A really great couple that I am really looking forward to working with next weekend May 17th. The three of us have already mapped out the format with a couple of minor revisions by Kasey just yesterday. There is a clause on page two of my contract that stipulates that the Bride, Groom and DJ have total creative control over all proceedings and that any and all changes must be approved by the bride.
I have received a couple of emails from Kaseys Mom concerning a surprise duet being sung to the couple by a friend of the Mom's for the couple to dance to. I don't like surprises, and will do anything and everything in my power to keep them from disrupting the flow of events that the Bride has already mapped out. The last thing I want is for the B&G to be embarrassed by this "surprise" or for those involved to be "embarrassed" by any negative turn of events - such as a crying bride that wasn't prepared for this type of thing - and when I say "crying", I mean the type of crying that sends the bride to the bathroom, locking herself in a stall and not coming out for an hour.
Allow me to copy and paste here the email I received today from Kasey's mom:
Hello Greg,
Hope all is well with you! Only 1½ weeks to go! Time is flying! Yikes!
I have had some different thoughts about our little “surprise duet” for Kasey and Matt. After talking to Matt’s parents as well as Kasey’s Matron of Honor and several others, I want to go with the original plan for the song “Miracle To Me” to be played for the couple's first dance. Upon hearing this song, my first idea was to have this sung as they dance their “First Dance”. One of the reasons for this is Kasey has made many references to not liking everyone looking at them while they are dancing. (Don’t mention this – she would die if she knew I told you that.) So if there is a duet being sung while they are having their “first dance”, perhaps some people will look at the singers!!!!! Therefore that means the playing of their chosen “First Dance” Song by Big and Rich will have to come later. If you have an idea as to when, let me know. I was thinking you could play it while they are mingling and actually say “this is the song Kasey and Matt chose as their “First Dance” song so maybe they would like to dance together to it now.” (I am sure you can make it sound better than I did.) Another idea is to play it as the last song of the night. Either way, whenever you play it, you can mention that it was the couple's chosen "first dance" song.
Here is my idea – After the introductions, please say “The choosing of this next song called "Miracle to Me" for the couple's "First Dance" is a surprise for Kasey and Matt as a gift from their parents. It will be sung by their friends, Cheryl and Randy Wallace. “
Also, I am emailing you the demo and the actual song. I thought you might want to hear the words since you will be giving the introduction. If you still need me to mail you a "Safe CD Demo" let me know. I can drop it in mail tomorrow.
Please email me the order of Reception that you, Kasey and Matt decided on with this change. I look forward to hearing from you!
Terri Maxcy
Mother of Bride
Please let me know you received this email - last time it never went through. Technology!!!
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Now you guys tell me if this doesn't sound like Mom wanting to take complete control of the proceedings? I honestly have never dealt with this kind of scenario.
So, in my attempt to douse a fire before it even starts, here was my response to Terri:
Terri -
Kasey has made it clear to me that the Big n Rich tune is what she wants played as their First Dance. I haven't said anything at all about the surprise as per your wishes, but I am very concerned about springing a surprise on her and Matt that they haven't approved. Trust me when I say this - in my experience, Brides absolutely do not want anything different from what they have set as their special music or anything that differs from the format that they have already approved.
Kasey has already made the changes that she and Matt want from the original draft we drew up during our meeting. She has been in constant contact with me over the last couple of days as to what she wants, and I am dutifully and legally contractually bound to do just that. Kasey is the only person that is allowed to make changes to her format, so I am going to have to defer you to her.
Please understand that I am not at all trying to be difficult with this suggestion, it's just that I am very concerned that it isn't what Kasey and Matt want. And that is what this day is about - Kasey and Matt.
I would ask that you talk this over with her instead of surprising her with it - only because I would be very concerned about the consequences that would ensue, such as a crying bride. That's the last thing I want to happen. Can you see my point that I am trying to make?
My main concern is to make the two of them happy in the most professional way possible.
I look forward to your reply.
--
Greg McLeese
Owner/Operator
KICKIT PRODUCTIONS
MOBILE ENTERTAINMENT
http://www.kickit-productions.com
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Thoughts?