Mahalo and I think I got you figured out pretty good, sounds to me.
Personally I truly don't think someone HAS to work 250 events a year to survive. It is their choice to do so and I know personally you don't have to do that many to survive. But each DJ, as I have said many times, is free to decide what is right for them.
I've been full time for 25 years, no Mon - Friday job and my wife, who I love, is a bellydancer and except for the festival she puts on, really doesn't make near what I make.
I do less than 100 events a year, but again, that is my choice as is my style of living. As I have also said sucess is not messured by dollars.
I don't know how much you charge, I don't think I have ever read that, but let's say you average $900.00 a gig that comes to $225,000.00 a year.
It does sound like what you are doing, is working for you, BUT I do not agree that it is the ONLY right way. It is just what works for you. I make less than 1/2 of what you make. But it works for me.
I'm sorry to hear that you have had such bad experiences networking. To me that is one of the best ways to enjoy what we do. I enjoy hanging with DJs, not all, but most.
And it does shock me to hear that you can go to a convention and not learn or pick up anything useful, but that just goes to prove my point about how you see yourself.
And yes you do share here in your own way, I personally like thought provoking posts, the WWYD kind of thing. It is interesting to read what others would do and it is a way to learn or get an idea on how to maybe better handle the situation if it ever comes my way.
It is just sad that you feel you can't share those with people in your own area.
I really have no idea why I'm on a Cesar kick today,,, just popped in.
If you ever come to Maui look me up, the Mai Tais are on me....

well they aren't
ON me, but I'll buy. LOL,,, I mean, it's not like I want to to lick them off me or anything.... I mean some people may like that, but it's not for me..... not that there is anything wrong with someone who is like that.......