Weddings And, while I'm venting...

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Tom when I have a situation of the video guy I remind them that I recommended them to the bride so if you want any more work best to keep quiet
(I have the bride always back me so they know I was not joking)
I always ask before I do a show/wedding so I know who is there (most here I know because I also do videography and photography as well when I get paid for it (as long as its more than djing yes)

anyway Tom also when it comes to say the Bouquet and Garter on the night I stop it all and ask the bride what she would like to happen first... no stress and she can decide

works out over the last 3x years I do less and less of them (they wanna keep them)

so here we do things a LOT differently

even cutting the cake can be as they walk in
or after the main meal before speeches
or after speeches !
or before speeches to be served as the cake for deserts

it changes here all the time (but as long as I am notified first)
or they may miss out on the song they wanted if I maybe setting the room for dancing or speeches etc

anyway today nothing is traditional hasnt been here for over 20+ years
 
Kirby Ball said:
Apron Dance? Care to elaborate?

Thanks
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Also known as the dollar dance, honeymoon dance, or DJ tip dance.:sqlaugh:

It was a Polish tradition that has been Americanized.

In the Polish tradition, the groom is dragged out of the room by the groomsmen and folks pay a dollar or more to dance with the bride. A line is formed and each person in line, one at a time, throws a dollar into an apron worn by the maid/matron of honor or the mother of the bride, takes one whirl around the dance floor with the bride, and then the next person steps in. The person that just departed may get back in line as many times as he/she wants. The object is to keep the bride whirling around the dance floor and constantly changing partners. Eventually the groom breaks free, throws his wallet into the apron, and carries his bride off.

In the Americanized version the people pay to dance with both the bride and the groom. Two lines are formed; one for the bride and one for the groom. The bride and groom dance with each person for a few seconds and then partners are changed. The Americanized version is boring.
 
I never put myself above (or below) the other vendors when it comes to a pecking order. we're all getting paid to do our job, we all gotta play the same game...so it's just better to make nice.
telling another vendor that you aren't gonna change your agenda seems a bit selfish to me. much like us, they have a way of doing things that works for them. so why not discuss it and find a happy medium.
had a wedding this past Saturday where we had to change the game plan four or five times for various reasons. didn't ruin my day, just altered it a bit.
the only time I have a problem with others is when they are only hired for a specific amount of time, and want to do EVERYTHING within an hour of the intro's. even so, the change in plans usually affects them more than it does me...so no big deal.
I have had to deal with some ego's over the years, but no one's died yet!
 
Ausumm said:
I never put myself above (or below) the other vendors when it comes to a pecking order. we're all getting paid to do our job, we all gotta play the same game...so it's just better to make nice.
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I don't put myself above or below either. But, as an MC, in these parts, I am looked to as the person controlling the flow. Every vendor has an opportunity for input well in advance. Some take the opportunity, some just go with it, and some wait till the stress is through the roof for the bride and groom before suggesting change.


Ausumm said:
telling another vendor that you aren't gonna change your agenda seems a bit selfish to me. much like us, they have a way of doing things that works for them. so why not discuss it and find a happy medium.
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I have no problem working with another vendor if there is a change needed. But don't come at me with an attitude and order me to change. The videographer had an attitude and he ordered me to move the bouquet up. It was not a polite request at all; he was barking at me. Even after I explained why I do it that way, rather calmly and politely, he still came at me with an attitude. It was when he said, "when I DJ" is when I put the clamp down and told him, point blank, that he was not DJing that day and he had received a copy of the agenda more than two weeks before the event and had an opportunity to say something then. I told him that this agenda was the one that we were operating with now and we are now going into the garter toss. I did it with a smile on my face so as not to give anyone a clue that we were having an argument.

I've been approached my many vendors in the past asking me to move activities. Some have asked me to move the bouquet before the garter and when I explain why the garter was placed before the bouquet, that is, to get more participation from the guys, they get it. I've been asked to move the cake cutting, take that to the bride and groom, and if they are cool with it then it is done.

I try to get along with everybody (well, maybe not Ron Auger :sqlaugh:) and, as long as you don't bark orders at me and you are polite to me all will be well.

As an aside a few years back I was in line waiting to get a glass of water for my assistant and I and this couple butts in front of me. The bartender said something to them and the guy said, "Oh, he's just the DJ, he doesn't count." His attitude was that I was low life scum. So, the evening progresses and he comes up to put in a request. I took it and said, "I'll see what I can do" but had no intention of playing it unless someone else requested it. Nobody else did. At the end of the evening he came up and said, "You never played my request." I said to him, "Well, I'm just a DJ."
 
I wasn't necessarily talking about YOU, I was just commenting on my experiences, and how I see things.
You were probably justified in being annoyed. Nothing worse than being the DJ and having to take advice from someone who thinks they do it better.
(but yet has to take videos to pay the bills)

and by the way....

"You never played my request." I said to him, "Well, I'm just a DJ."

revenge can be a beautiful thing, no?
:sqwink:
 
TommyO said:
Also known as the dollar dance, honeymoon dance, or DJ tip dance.:sqlaugh:

It was a Polish tradition that has been Americanized.

In the Polish tradition, the groom is dragged out of the room by the groomsmen and folks pay a dollar or more to dance with the bride. A line is formed and each person in line, one at a time, throws a dollar into an apron worn by the maid/matron of honor or the mother of the bride, takes one whirl around the dance floor with the bride, and then the next person steps in. The person that just departed may get back in line as many times as he/she wants. The object is to keep the bride whirling around the dance floor and constantly changing partners. Eventually the groom breaks free, throws his wallet into the apron, and carries his bride off.

In the Americanized version the people pay to dance with both the bride and the groom. Two lines are formed; one for the bride and one for the groom. The bride and groom dance with each person for a few seconds and then partners are changed. The Americanized version is boring.
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Thanks Tom, I'd never heard it called the "Apron Dance" before....Of course I don't live in your neck of the woods and our Polish population is not very large....:)
 
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