Weddings A guest DJ & other requests?

I dont think anyone "ruined" her dream wedding.
I think she kept getting new ideas, which clouded her original plan
("...OOOH. wouldn't it be cool if we can do THIS????....")

She might have thought shed could save money in the beginning
but I'm pretty sure she realized her "ideas" were actually making it more expensive

the violinist I would have handled. not a lot different than mic-ing an officiant,
the other DJ and a band?
I'd probably ask her when "I" was supposed to find time to play!!!

oh yeah

think about how freakin' awesome you will look if the guest performers do well!