Bob,
Here in Texas we don't beat around the bush. There might be Rattlers in hiding! We go straight for the throat. They don't know me I don't know them. I have nothing to loose. It will depend on the tone as to whether it would warrant me actually butting in. I was going exactly by the OPs words. No other scenarios were being entered in the equation. No other "if" "and" or "but"!
ahoustondj said:
You have to nip it in the bud! You would be surprised how easily that crap spreads. They go home and tell another prospective newlywed, etc and then the word spreads. DJing is my territory and if I see anyone messing with it I will defend it, including DJs who don't like to spread their speakers! Thats my story and I am sticking to it.
The thing is Canute, DJing is not your territory until someone makes it your territory by employing you to do it. Until then - it is an ability you posses, a personal asset; and not some universal force to be reckoned with.
The playground is changing. New toys and kids with new ideas mean that we are going to be faced with different demands and differnet notions about what is an acceptable source of music for dancing and celebrating. 20 - 25 years ago I had the perrennial adults who would stand by watching the DJ trying to make up their mind whether or not this
"new-fangled" way of playing dance music at weddings was an appropriate substitute for a live band or just a tacky trend.
The DIY wedding is still in it's infancy yet, there are still many more success stories than there are nightmares. I know because what used to be a rental market for the middle-man DJ has turned into a market of end users instead.
DJs no longer have the market cornered on private events and haven't for nearly the last 10 years. No amount of "defense" will reverse that. Everyone's "niche" is much narrower than it used to be.
The notion of "educating" a client is obsolete. The clients are
already fully educated about what it takes to be a DJ - they just don't always agree with our opinions and priorities. The wedding DJ is at least a
30 year old phenomenon and today's bride's have all grown up with DJs as a central figure in entertainment. There is no mystery about what we do and how we do it.
The sales process today hinges entirely upon
need - a value whose prominence also happens to rise in weak economomic times. Unless and until you properly assess someone's individual needs your opinion of a DJ at their wedding is without authority. Thus, sharing it uninvited is often worthless and possibly arrogant.