I'm doing a wedding on June 26th and the Groom has ask me to dedicated a song to his dad who passed away four years ago. The groom has already picked the song, but I'm not sure what would be the appropriate time at the reception to do this or what to say as to not bum everyone out. Any suggestions would be appreciated! BTW - The song is Pink Floyd - Money.
Weddings Need Help With An Annoucement
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To me, the first step would be to find out why he chose THAT song.
Then ask the groom about his father - what he meant to him, some of his habits, favorite memories, etc.
Without that kind of knowledge, anything you say may come across as cold and indifferent.
Then ask the groom about his father - what he meant to him, some of his habits, favorite memories, etc.
Without that kind of knowledge, anything you say may come across as cold and indifferent.
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Best time for something like that is right after tyhe cake cutting and/or toast!
Judging from the current ages of people getting married I would say his father was probably a head during the time frame that "Money" came out!
Now in a special dedication to the memory of "groom's" father "Hippie Dave" we present this song!
YouTube- Money - Pink Floyd + Lyrics
Judging from the current ages of people getting married I would say his father was probably a head during the time frame that "Money" came out!
Now in a special dedication to the memory of "groom's" father "Hippie Dave" we present this song!
YouTube- Money - Pink Floyd + Lyrics
DJ PAUL
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Wouldn't it be an honor if the groom personally dedicated the song to his father with a speech, story or best memory?
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Yes it would be an honor but the groom does not want to say anything - he just wants his dad to be a part of his wedding by dedicating a song. The song he chose was his dad's favorite song. He wants me "the MC" to annouce the dedication and play the song. Once again, all I am asking is how can I annouce this dedication and if anyone has ever done this. If not, I will come up with something appropriate - thanks.
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Definitely get some background information from the Groom, write it up and run it by him and get his reaction to what you have written. If you have to go back and tweak it, it's better to do it in advance than wait until the last moment. 
If the song was more of a quiet, reflective song I would have suggested doing this right after the blessing when everyone is quiet and you have their attention.
But since this song has more of an attitude, I would suggest to the Bride and Groom that you use this song for your first song going into open dancing with the dedication being more of a celebration of his dad's life. Get the B&G and the Bridal party on board to get on the dance floor to get things going.
YMMV
If the song was more of a quiet, reflective song I would have suggested doing this right after the blessing when everyone is quiet and you have their attention.
But since this song has more of an attitude, I would suggest to the Bride and Groom that you use this song for your first song going into open dancing with the dedication being more of a celebration of his dad's life. Get the B&G and the Bridal party on board to get on the dance floor to get things going.
YMMV
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Nah, I've always thought of you more as a thick, juicy T-Bone...
I always thought of myself as filet mingon!
Well... I'll give it a try. I have a feeling we'll be facing a similar situation come NYE.
Absolutely, have a convo with the groom to get all the poop on Dad that the groom feels is relevant. Ask when he'd like the dedication done, how long it should be etc. And run your final draft by him, just so he knows what's going on.
It's never easy to stand before an audience and honor a loved one who is no longer with us. But it can be done with tact and reverence.
Just some thoughts... you may wish to let the preceding song end and pause for a few seconds of dead air before continuing. This will get the attention of the audience.
You could begin with something like this: "My friends, (groom's or B&G's names) wish to take a moment to pay tribute to (Dad's name) whom as we know is with us in spirit tonight."
(If details are desired, insert here.)
Close with "This song is played in honor of (Dad's name). We love you and miss you, Dad."
Try to avoid negative words like don't, isn't, wasn't etc. Speak of the man in the present tense as it is his memory that is being honored.
Thoughts?
Absolutely, have a convo with the groom to get all the poop on Dad that the groom feels is relevant. Ask when he'd like the dedication done, how long it should be etc. And run your final draft by him, just so he knows what's going on.
It's never easy to stand before an audience and honor a loved one who is no longer with us. But it can be done with tact and reverence.
Just some thoughts... you may wish to let the preceding song end and pause for a few seconds of dead air before continuing. This will get the attention of the audience.
You could begin with something like this: "My friends, (groom's or B&G's names) wish to take a moment to pay tribute to (Dad's name) whom as we know is with us in spirit tonight."
(If details are desired, insert here.)
Close with "This song is played in honor of (Dad's name). We love you and miss you, Dad."
Try to avoid negative words like don't, isn't, wasn't etc. Speak of the man in the present tense as it is his memory that is being honored.
Thoughts?
Well... I'll give it a try. I have a feeling we'll be facing a similar situation come NYE.
Absolutely, have a convo with the groom to get all the poop on Dad that the groom feels is relevant. Ask when he'd like the dedication done, how long it should be etc. And run your final draft by him, just so he knows what's going on.
It's never easy to stand before an audience and honor a loved one who is no longer with us. But it can be done with tact and reverence.
Just some thoughts... you may wish to let the preceding song end and pause for a few seconds of dead air before continuing. This will get the attention of the audience.
You could begin with something like this: "My friends, (groom's or B&G's names) wish to take a moment to pay tribute to (Dad's name) whom as we know is with us in spirit tonight."
(If details are desired, insert here.)
Close with "This song is played in honor of (Dad's name). We love you and miss you, Dad."
Try to avoid negative words like don't, isn't, wasn't etc. Speak of the man in the present tense as it is his memory that is being honored.
Thoughts?
Fred - Thanks, I like this idea very much and will use this at the wedding. Your help and everyone else that responded to my request is very much appreciated.
Best, DJ Auntie M
Sorry Thunder - I don't think of you as chopped liver. Thanks for the vid and imput. :yoluv4:
I agree with Fred's thoughts. As for timing, I suggest stuff like this to be done as early as possible during dinner. For one thing, during dinner you easily can get everybody's attention and it's already a subdued part of the evening so you are not affecting the energy at all. Then they still have the rest of dinner to move past it via the various conversations at the table.