It is a pity that the Client has already rented the place before seeking you out.
AH HA!!!! Now we get to the meat. Being in that mix is where the real separation among professionals occurs.
It doesn't happen every-time, and certainly not without having an established level of trust with an early member of the planning party, but it does happen, and it leads to more of what you want to do than to what you have to do.
Nothing is more humbling and satisfying to me than having a client trust my experience and asking for guidance that is not typically assigned to "just a dj."
That trust facilitates the provision of a level of service that clients deserve and creates a relationship that transcends advertising and yellow-page ads.
The first time I performed at a wedding for a client's adult child for whom I also performed at that child's Sweet 16 or Mitzvah, I received the most valuable tips I could have expected, hugs and acknowledgment from family members that thanked me for doing what I though was simply my duty. I knew these people and cared about them, and that, unbeknownst to me, was clearly broadcast through speakers, throughout my performance. I didn't plan it, or script it, but it happened and they appreciated it.
That can't/won't/ain't likely to happen by making your first appearance
X minutes before the newlyweds arrive. Or by simply making it work and accepting the easy path at the first sign of resistance. I know, I have suffered the folly of that behavior in the past.
I vowed to effort, and I can't and don't always hit it that well, that kind of performance for my clients.
Every bride is some Father's precious daughter, every groom, is some Mom's special boy, I am simply honored to be a part of the effort that results in their special moments.
If that sounded arrogant, or like I think I know everything, follow Thunder's lead and put me on ignore.