10 things to not do when you're a wedding guest

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#6 should get its own thread!
 
I think #6 has merit. How many of us have a do not play list and how often do we get nagged to play something off of it? I enjoy playing requests, but as the night goes on those requests become demands.
 
TJtheDJ said:
I think #6 has merit. How many of us have a do not play list and how often do we get nagged to play something off of it? I enjoy playing requests, but as the night goes on those requests become demands.
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Wow, if the requests are becoming demands, and you're having people nag you to play something off the "do not play list" then maybe some classes in people skills are in order. Maybe once a year we have someone who actually turns their request into a demand. As for the "do not play" songs, a simple explanation is all 99.9% of guests need and they won't ask about it again.
 
They forgot about hittin' on the bride :D:D:D:D
 
DJ J Mac said:
Wow, if the requests are becoming demands, and you're having people nag you to play something off the "do not play list" then maybe some classes in people skills are in order. Maybe once a year we have someone who actually turns their request into a demand. As for the "do not play" songs, a simple explanation is all 99.9% of guests need and they won't ask about it again.
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I think miss under stood. I have a do not play list option as part of my contract which states, unless the Bride or groom personally tell me I can play a song off of their chosen Do not play list, the song is not played at all. I generally encourage the couple to give me 10-20 of their favorite songs so when people do request something I can't play, I can suggest an alternative which, if the person knows the couple well, will know they will really enjoy something off the play list.

As people get more intoxicated the "could you please play X" slowly becomes "turn this **** off and play X it will pack the dance floor." when the Dance floor is already looking quite busy. I think we all get those people who think their request will get everyone up dancing and 90% of the time they wont even get up to dance to it.

I have no issues accepting requests, but they are merely suggestions. I am the professional and my job is to entertain the majority of the guests as much as possible and sometimes that means a minority of guests do not get enough of what they like to hear and will not be happy. You need to remember your responsibility is to the bride & groom. It is their day and you work for them.

I see and hear a lot of DJs who dictate to their clients which is 100% wrong. Our role is to consult, suggest, and where possible get a little creative if their choices are not working as intended. They hire us to do a job, like any employer, we are still beholden to them at all times until the completion of the contract. We should never make them feel like their ideas and input doesn't matter and ignore things such as a do not play list.

You should always ask why a song is on the list and encourage some flexibility if you know the song is popular or their reason is no more complex than "we just don't like it." But if their parents got divorced and it was their first song, or someone died and that was the song they memorialized someone with then obviously you don't there.
 
I LOVE this one!!!
I have to say, sorry.... guilty.

10. Fornicating.

I'll leave it at that. Wait until you get home. Please. No area of a wedding is private enough for this.
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Sometimes you can't wait until you get home. Chances are you'll never see that cute cousin of the brides best friend ever again, so..... lol
 
TJtheDJ said:
I think miss under stood. I have a do not play list option as part of my contract which states, unless the Bride or groom personally tell me I can play a song off of their chosen Do not play list, the song is not played at all. I generally encourage the couple to give me 10-20 of their favorite songs so when people do request something I can't play, I can suggest an alternative which, if the person knows the couple well, will know they will really enjoy something off the play list.

As people get more intoxicated the "could you please play X" slowly becomes "turn this **** off and play X it will pack the dance floor." when the Dance floor is already looking quite busy. I think we all get those people who think their request will get everyone up dancing and 90% of the time they wont even get up to dance to it.

I have no issues accepting requests, but they are merely suggestions. I am the professional and my job is to entertain the majority of the guests as much as possible and sometimes that means a minority of guests do not get enough of what they like to hear and will not be happy. You need to remember your responsibility is to the bride & groom. It is their day and you work for them.

I see and hear a lot of DJs who dictate to their clients which is 100% wrong. Our role is to consult, suggest, and where possible get a little creative if their choices are not working as intended. They hire us to do a job, like any employer, we are still beholden to them at all times until the completion of the contract. We should never make them feel like their ideas and input doesn't matter and ignore things such as a do not play list.

You should always ask why a song is on the list and encourage some flexibility if you know the song is popular or their reason is no more complex than "we just don't like it." But if their parents got divorced and it was their first song, or someone died and that was the song they memorialized someone with then obviously you don't there.
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Very well-written and spot-on. Good going!

Best,

Paul
 
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