Truthfully, the way my Wedding Reception Worksheet was designed enabled the Bride and Groom to select the program and music the way the wanted the flow to go on their special day. From the moment guests entered the Reception area I had complete control over the flow, well that is until the photographer happened to insert "special" group photos at the most unlikely point of the reception program. The photographer and floor captain were provided outlines and timeline when they entered the Reception area. I would explain to the photographer that I would notify him/her prior to making the announcement of the next item of the Program, and then follow-up by alerting the guests of what was about to happen next, like B&G 1st Dance, etc. There were some weddings where I did take a "backseat" to the Wedding Coordinator. On several occasions when SHE (coordinator) was in charge, the Bride would come up to me and ask when the next element of the program would happen. "Sorry, your wedding coordinator has not made me aware of it, but I will gladly find her and let her know that you are ready." I hate it when the Coordinator doesn't have time management skills.
So, I guess aside from just playing good danceable music, I was MC, Wedding Coordinator, and Valet to the Bride/Groom. Of course, I know for a fact that each time there was a coordinator, the Bride had provided her with a "draft" of the finalized version of the Program...and I provided her one as well when she arrived. So, one can see that not all DJ are manual "jukeboxes". And, when you throw Monogram project and Up-lighting into the mix, this single operator (me) seriously earns his money. Hidden cost: Big lighting jobs when time for setup and tear-down are limited, family helpers come into play...and are paid $$$ accordingly. My son often time was my roadie...and would come at the end to help take down lighting and equipment. When you are in you mid-60's or older it is a necessity to have help at the end of the night. He didn't mind coming at 11:00 or 12:00 pm just to help load-out...$50-$100 for 30 minutes of work. At that time of night you want dependability. LOL...and he was always there. Mad" money, he would say and I would counter let your wife know so I don't get backlash.
Hope I didn't de-rail the topic. Maybe this was an eye-opener for the younger DJ. Oh, each Bride and Groom received, at the end of the Reception, a typed copy of Reception Program that included the Special Dance music played and their Must Play and Would Like Played songs.