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Here is another article on what matters most at weddings. This one is aimed at the millennials and it is from the guests perspective. Discuss...

Top 8 Ceremony Details Guests Value Most (and Are Paying the Most Attention To)
  1. Bride’s dress
  2. Bride’s entrance
  3. Couple’s vows
  4. Décor
  5. Ceremony location (setting, area, etc.)
  6. Look on groom's face when partner enters
  7. Bridesmaids’ dresses
  8. Ceremony venue

Top 8 Ceremony Details Guests Value Least (and Are Paying the Least Attention To)
  1. Ceremony language and/or readings
  2. Person officiating the wedding
  3. Recessional
  4. Processional
  5. Groom’s attire
  6. Wedding programs
  7. Other guests (people watching)
  8. Length of ceremony

Top 8 Reception Details Guests Value Most (and Are Paying the Most Attention To)
  1. Food
  2. Music
  3. Décor
  4. Bar/drinks
  5. Dances
  6. Entertainment (photo booth/props/etc.)
  7. Couple’s entrance
  8. Reception location (setting, area)

Top 8 Reception Details Guests Value Least (and Are Paying the Least Attention To)
  1. Escort cards
  2. Extra amenities (flip-flops, toiletries)
  3. Favors
  4. Bouquet or garter toss
  5. Couple’s grand exit
  6. Flowers
  7. Table settings
  8. Dessert

Top 10 Overall Pet Peeves for Guests at Weddings (in Order from Most to Least Obnoxious)
  1. Drunk guests
  2. Not knowing anyone else at the wedding
  3. Bad music and/or DJ
  4. Traveling far or to an inconvenient location
  5. Having to sit and/or mingle with strangers
  6. The cost of travel/accommodations
  7. No open bar and/or dry wedding
  8. Wedding toasts (i.e., too long, bad speech, etc.)
  9. Needing to take time off work (9 percent)
  10. Sitting through all the dances (i.e., first dance, parent-child, etc.)
 

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OK, I am just really curious about this. When did a pair of flip-flops or toiletries become common wedding amenities?
So at every wedding we do it is common... practically expected, that the bathrooms have baskets filled with "necessities" such as gum, body spray, advils, hairspray, breath mints... and yes sometimes if the couple wants to be silly... even condoms. Now I don't know what's in the female side... but i assume much of the same, plus female hygiene products.

As far as flip flops go... every female shows up in heels at the weddings I work at... so to get them comfortable and to not have their feet hurting, there are usually baskets with flip flops by the dj area for girls to swap their heels and wear them, as opposed to walking barefoot. In the future, if you ever see me post photos of my setup, try and spot the baskets with them.
 

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Same here it's not really overly elaborate usually a small basket with a couple of cheap deodorant/body spray, Tylenol, Gum,etc. It's not strange to have a few pair of men's flip flops in there too
 
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Same here it's not really overly elaborate usually a small basket with a couple of cheap deodorant/body spray, Tylenol, Gum,etc. It's not strange to have a few pair of men's flip flops in there too
Well that’s a new one lol I’ve NEVER seen mens flip flops. Oh and lint brush is a common thing in the bathroom baskets
 

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OK, I am just really curious about this. When did a pair of flip-flops or toiletries become common wedding amenities?
Ah, since... forever?
Do you not put fresh hand towels and soap in your baths when having guests over to the house?

If I had you attend my wedding at a warm location with beachfront access, waterfront, open lawn or field, etc., it would also only be common courtesy to provide a way for women to access and walk on those surfaces that may be inhospitable to the shoes they typically wear to a wedding.

Not everyone can afford to do this, and there are many venues that already include this in their fees if it compliments their facilities.
 
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I have seen all sorts of stuff in bathrooms that were provided by the facility. These were not customized to the B&G. I have seen all sorts of favors at weddings too. I just don't recall any of them being flip-flops or toiletries. I have seen mini grooming kits as favors to groomsmen but not to guests in general. Perhaps that has become popular here as well since I stopped doing weddings.
 
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I see the flip flops at many weddings, but I don't see them being used very often. It seems like it probably isn't that expensive, but I agree that they aren't being valued in most cases.
 

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I just want to comment on the DJ thing. Some DJs will take an event just because the client has money to pay. I know the subject is about weddings. The thing is there are those who might not be the right DJ for the event and just agree to do it because they can make some money. Then the other problem is with the bride/client who will not take their time and look to find the DJ they fill will be the best fit for the event. When it comes to a wedding I say a bride should not go under 90 days to look for a DJ for their wedding. Make it at least 90 days. I say even 6 months is the least amount of time they should be looking to book a DJ. Sometimes it can't be helped because a DJ cancels out on the bride and they have to rush to book another DJ. We did a wedding where the DJ cancelled the day before the wedding. Also some are only concerned with price alone. Yes price is important but what's really important is getting the right DJ for the job. The old saying is usually true. You get what you pay for. My partner says you buy cheap you get cheap. Before I take a beating I will admit I've made that mistake. Thinking I'm saving money when I'm losing money. Spend more money for the right thing and be done with it.
 

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I just want to comment on the DJ thing. Some DJs will take an event just because the client has money to pay. I know the subject is about weddings.
How does any of this relate to the rest of the discussion?
 

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How does any of this relate to the rest of the discussion?
I'm talking about what was stated and what's important to me. I get that food for the guest is above the DJ. I was invited to a wedding that one of my best friend's niece got married. The DJ was great and I also remember the steak I had at that wedding was the best steak I ever had. Even when working being invited to eat the food they have at a wedding, I say no thanks. I'm a very picky eater. So what a lot of people will eat I will wait till we leave and get something somewhere else or go home and eat.

Nothing wrong with being in a high class venue that's very well decorated. That's great. Depending on the venue you know the bride or someone else spent some good money (depending on what you think that is). There was a place that's closed now that was charging $1,800 to have an event there and my partner thought that was a lot of money to spend for a venue. That's peanuts compared to some other venues. They won't even accept that for retainer/deposit to book the venue. We did a class reunion and it cost $90 per person for people attend the event.
 

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I have seen all sorts of stuff in bathrooms that were provided by the facility. These were not customized to the B&G. I have seen all sorts of favors at weddings too. I just don't recall any of them being flip-flops or toiletries. I have seen mini grooming kits as favors to groomsmen but not to guests in general. Perhaps that has become popular here as well since I stopped doing weddings.
These are not "favors." These are inexpensive items that may be as practical to event space as a teaspoon is to the place setting.
 
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We're number two .. We're number two!

We are the shiz-nit!
You said a interesting thing about us being number 2. Some really value a DJ and what they do. Others don't see what we do as a big deal. You're just playing music. Some get to find out after the wedding/event is over how important it is to find the right DJ for that event. If the event was a poor event because the DJ did a poor job it's too late then. No chance for a do over. Normally those who spend some really good money to book a DJ will value the DJ and really do their homework to find a really good DJ to do their event for them. Those who don't usually don't care too much. At least they don't till the DJ ruins the event and them and the guest leave highly upset.
 

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If I told you that 87% of Architectural Digest readers expect to pay at least $800,000 or more as a first time home buyer what does that really mean? Well, I think it means that if I'm a builder who specializes in condominiums from $500K-700K then AD is not the place I want to advertise.

These bridal websites are not really in the wedding business - they are in the advertising business. These surveys reflect the type of advertisers the media outlet seeks. They do not truly reflect consumer preferences in real time and can easily be out of touch with very large segments of the economy.
 

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I saw 3 other things that I would like to discuss. The thing about open bar or a dry wedding being a problem. My feelings are some brides can't afford to have open bar at their wedding. Also open bar can have it's limitations. Depending on how much a bride wants to spend to have open bar some things that people may want to drink might not be on the list that some people may want to drink. With open bar the venues concern is making a profit. So certain things on the list that the venue has may drive the price way up that the bride can't afford to have it on their list of drinks for open bar. As far as a dry wedding some think they can't have a good time unless they are having something to drink. Generally when there is one that's because of a couples religous belief. Now those who don't like a dry wedding can choose 2 things. Either don't come to the wedding or have what they drink in their car. As far as drunks at a wedding for me I hate those who are drunk and keep bugging the DJ to either play all these songs they want them to play, their drunk breath in your face and you have to watch out for those who are so drunk that they may damage some of your gear. A long time ago at an event I was the DJ a drunk that had been drinking came up to me and asked could he take over and play. I told him no I got this.