I agree!
Also, I can see myself getting rid of effect lighting all together for weddings after this year. I offer it complimentary, and most couples want it thrown in since it's free, but I have been considering changing this to "Wash Lighting" and simply setting up a couple of bar lights or par lights to wash the dance floor. I would keep the effect lighting in stock in case I ever book a kids party, or Sweet 16, grad party, or high school prom, or something of that nature in the future.
My brother only sets up effect lighting if the bride/groom ask him about it prior to the wedding. He told me, he has only done one wedding this year so far with effect lighting, and last year he had two. In the past, I have always felt it adds value to my show/presentation, and I think it did IN THE PAST. Today, I don't think the clients, or the guests at weddings in my market care much about the effect lights, and I think perception has changed a bit as well with adults.
SOME place emphasis on the Up Lights though. There is value in Up Lights, AND people pay for that for their weddings when they want the look.