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I got married last year and we postponed our reception till next year. It will be a small affair (~60ppl) in our back yard. While it will be fairly casual, my wife wants some pomp and circumstance. A big thing for her is the processional so her nieces can be flower girls. The processional involves just 7 people walking about 30-40 feet. Pretty simple, right?

Of course not. My wife wants Iz's Somewhere Over The Rainbow/What a Wonderful World, which runs about 5 minutes, for the processional. Oh sure, I could play the 3.5 minute version (which is still way longer than needed) but she wants the long version. I am trying to explain to her how awkward that will be for both us and the guests if we let the whole song play out. I may not win my point. If so, I need to come up with a "Plan B" to fill all that time. I'm open for suggestions.
 
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Of course not. My wife wants Iz's Somewhere Over The Rainbow/What a Wonderful World, which runs about 5 minutes, for the processional. Oh sure, I could play the 3.5 minute version (which is still way longer than needed) but she wants the long version. I am trying to explain to her how awkward that will be for both us and the guests if we let the whole song play out. I may not win my point. If so, I need to come up with a "Plan B" to fill all that time. I'm open for suggestions.
Have her practice it. Get a few friends and test what it feels like to stand there for the whole 5 minutes and she'll feel it being awkward more than she does you telling her it's awkward.

Or perhaps ask if there is an element of the long version that she wants in particular that you could edit back into a short version.
 

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I got married last year and we postponed our reception till next year. It will be a small affair (~60ppl) in our back yard. While it will be fairly casual, my wife wants some pomp and circumstance. A big thing for her is the processional so her nieces can be flower girls. The processional involves just 7 people walking about 30-40 feet. Pretty simple, right?

Of course not. My wife wants Iz's Somewhere Over The Rainbow/What a Wonderful World, which runs about 5 minutes, for the processional. Oh sure, I could play the 3.5 minute version (which is still way longer than needed) but she wants the long version. I am trying to explain to her how awkward that will be for both us and the guests if we let the whole song play out. I may not win my point. If so, I need to come up with a "Plan B" to fill all that time. I'm open for suggestions.
Plan B - FFWD

Plan C - Start walking from the neighborhood stop sign when we say over the walkie talkie - The Evil Monkeys Have Flown The Coop
 

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Is this really a hill you're willing to die on? I'd voice my concerns then say "Yes dear, we'll do it like you want." I'd rather suffer a couple of uncomfortable minutes than to have the rest of my life with her having something to hold against me.
 

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Yes, they never forget a thing. Luckily, I have a few acts of chivalry to fall back on as rebuttals. In fact, it has become a running joke for us. She reminds me about the time I left her waiting too long and I remind her of the time I got rid of the roaches in her new apt. She keeps telling me I have warn out that rebuttal. I keep telling her that if she can still bring up my lateness, I can still bring up the roaches. Luckily, she doesn't have too much material to draw upon from later in our relationship.
 

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Pick your battles wisely. Is this really that serious? Do remember this is her day and it's not about you. :laugh: Your job is to foot the bill. Make her happy that day so later that evening she can make you happy.
 
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I need to come up with a "Plan B" to fill all that time. I'm open for suggestions.
Take her to the backyard and walk "the aisle" with her while playing the long version of the song.
When she gets to the "altar" and has to sit there for 3 minutes or more while the song plays out...
she will know how it feels when you have more song than needed.
Even better, videotape her doing it, so she can SEE how awkward it will look from the guests' point of view
 

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Here's another suggestion. Once the parties are up in front, just fade the song out whoever is controlling the music.
 

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Here's another suggestion. Once the parties are up in front, just fade the song out whoever is controlling the music.
Great suggestion for someone that didn't read the message. I guess you missed this part

Oh sure, I could play the 3.5 minute version (which is still way longer than needed) but she wants the long version.
 
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Great suggestion for someone that didn't read the message. I guess you missed this part
I read that. He could try to talk her into a compromise if possibe because at some time during the marriage there will be times when both people will need to compromise.
 

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At my niece's wedding, the primary entertainment was a Scottish dance band. There was no DJ to control the music. After the processional finished, the music kept playing. No one thought about having someone stop the music. The officiant couldn't start until the music stopped. It was a pretty awkward moment. My niece and her husband then just looked at each other and started doing a little jig to the music. It was hilarious and right in keeping with their laid back personalities.

And before anyone asks (I'm looking at you Mix) why I wasn't the DJ... The wedding was in England. I am family, not hired help. My primary concern on that trip was to be taking care of my cancer-stricken father, not wedding details.
 

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At my niece's wedding, the primary entertainment was a Scottish dance band. There was no DJ to control the music. After the processional finished, the music kept playing. No one thought about having someone stop the music. The officiant couldn't start until the music stopped. It was a pretty awkward moment. My niece and her husband then just looked at each other and started doing a little jig to the music. It was hilarious and right in keeping with their laid back personalities.

And before anyone asks (I'm looking at you Mix) why I wasn't the DJ... The wedding was in England. I am family, not hired help. My primary concern on that trip was to be taking care of my cancer-stricken father, not wedding details.
No that's fine. I have had events for the family that they decided they didn't want me to be the DJ. I'm fine with that. I get the day off and I get to relax and enjoy the event. Now if the DJ sucks I get to talk smack back to them.:sick: