Any of you get handwritten thank you cards with your tips? This was from 10 years ago. My last card I received along with my the $200.00 tip. Remember this couple like it was yesterday.
Handwritten thank you with tip
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Maybe it’s cause I do weddings primarily, but the overwhelming majority hand me a tip inside of a hand written thank you card. Easily received 25-30 of these in 2025 alone.
Typically I receive a significant tip from either the bride and groom or one or both sets of parents, rarely a card usually an in person handshake hug and handing me folded money directly, which goes directly in my pocket without being looked at until I’m on the way home
I got a hand written card maybe 2-3 times. That's pretty awesome. I think some of it is a generational thing that younger folks just don't do as much of. I'm sure there are exceptions, like Tasco's clients.... I don't know them, but from what I understand of them, they remind me of the old Italian style families that traditions are important to.... so tipping will probably stay strong with them through the generations. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's my theory.
cyberphox
DJ Extraordinaire
Perhaps its tradition... but I also think its the nature of the type of clientele who we develop good relations with, are in direct communication with throughout the process, etc. Not just hiring xyz dj's and having a dj or photographer you never met before. In addition, the wedding culture, for those brides who do use social media to research wedding trends, does encourage tipping vendors who provide exceptional results. Lastly, and perhaps more factual, is that the type of weddings I do revolve around couples who tend to have more discretionary funds available to them to tip, should they want to. On avg, when I do get a tip its $200 per wedding. Sometimes zero, sometimes $500, a couple of times $1000.
As far as handwritten notes go, keep in mind, its not always the couple giving the tip themselves. Sometimes it's a planner, or a bridal party member who hand us an envelope on behalf of the couple... often before the night even ended. Typically the tip is inside of a card so it doesn't feel "empty" and without thought.
On the flip side, there's many reasons not to get a handwritten thank you either. You gotta realize that those handwritten thank you's were done in advance of the wedding... so they may be generic in their words. Many times the couple wants to see the results before giving the tip and in that case, there's no thank you card that comes with it. Often though, I get a hand written thank you in the mail after the event that is quite detailed in their appreciation.no
Many different ways to show thanks... all appreciated.