BAD WEDDING DJ?

Ausumm

Day Late and a Dollar Short
Oct 21, 2008
10,494
55
Bethlehem PA
www.mikefoxx.com
I think there's a lot of DJ's on this board who identify with the kind of service described in the report, and therefore find it necessary to cast doubt on the reporter, bride, and anyone except the DJ
I think you are full of sh*t.
I think you don't know people as well as you think you do....
especially the people on this board.
Why do you always feel the need to belittle everyone else?
Is that the only way you can "prove" to yourself that you are the consummate professional?
Geez! Just take a side and state your case.

What if YOU were the DJ in this story?
I know, you can go on and on how you are too good to ever find yourself in this situation...
but you honestly don't know the real story.
Maybe the DJ was as professional as you are, and is being railroaded for a refund.
Maybe he WAS a totally lazy, low life jerk, and the bride deserves MORE THAN the $200 she got.
But the truth is....NONE of us (including you) know the DJ's side of the story.
 

Scott Hanna

DJ Extraordinaire
Oct 25, 2006
6,100
53
Cleveland, OH
www.djincleveland.com
I think you are full of sh*t.
I think you don't know people as well as you think you do....
especially the people on this board.
Why do you always feel the need to belittle everyone else?
Is that the only way you can "prove" to yourself that you are the consummate professional?
Geez! Just take a side and state your case.

What if YOU were the DJ in this story?
I know, you can go on and on how you are too good to ever find yourself in this situation...
but you honestly don't know the real story.
Maybe the DJ was as professional as you are, and is being railroaded for a refund.
Maybe he WAS a totally lazy, low life jerk, and the bride deserves MORE THAN the $200 she got.
But the truth is....NONE of us (including you) know the DJ's side of the story.
This puts a black mark on all of us. How dare we question his almighty greatness? We are but just mere DJ's that need validation. We should be thankful that even though he despises us, he uses his incredibly precious time to let us know how terrible we really are.

All hail to the God of sound and proformance reproduction. We are not worthy.
 

MIXMASTERMACHOM

DJ Extraordinaire
Oct 16, 2011
1,151
60
If anything, I over-dressed when starting out. It wasn't until I grossly over-dressed (I was in formal and the groom was in jeans) that I learned to fit the occasion. If the gig was a beach wedding then the shirt might have been just right. Without having more info, it's silly to try and pass judgement on him. You're just buying the B.S. that hack reporter was spewing.
You missed my point and that is I don't know anybody who started out knowing what to do. You learned things over time. I can admit I'm judgmental at times without knowing who the DJ is and that's wrong. Just like others are judgmental when it comes to the price a DJ is charging a client. Some will assume a DJ can't be that good charging such a small amount. That's wrong as well unless you know the DJ personally.
 
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wifedj

DJ Extraordinaire
Mar 20, 2008
1,594
Of course, your cowardly comments ignore the fact that given the chance to release a reply or to comment the DJ didn't just decline, he gave them $200 instead.
In "court" that's called no contest which is a perfunctory admission to the claims.

I stand by the argument that an unwillingness to see the obvious suggests: "there but for the grace of God go I."
All of MY customers are right. I'm can't speak to your own lack customer qualification.
Once you accept the job these are excuses not solutions.
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Proformance

DJ Extraordinaire
Nov 6, 2006
3,329
I think you are full of sh*t.
I think you don't know people as well as you think you do....
especially the people on this board.
Why do you always feel the need to belittle everyone else?
Is that the only way you can "prove" to yourself that you are the consummate professional?
Geez! Just take a side and state your case.

What if YOU were the DJ in this story?
I know, you can go on and on how you are too good to ever find yourself in this situation...
but you honestly don't know the real story.
Maybe the DJ was as professional as you are, and is being railroaded for a refund.
Maybe he WAS a totally lazy, low life jerk, and the bride deserves MORE THAN the $200 she got.
But the truth is....NONE of us (including you) know the DJ's side of the story.
I'm not the DJ in this story but, apparently you have been or at least can imagine yourself to be. Sorry, but I don't share your luckluster views on customer care, or your half hearted commitment to professionalism.

If you want to GET REAL then come to terms with the fact that the story IS NOT ABOUT THE DJ. It's about what can happen when bride's BOOK ONLINE. Apparently, they may end up with a DJ who is unprepared, and ill informed, and under dressed. That so many here share a knee jerk reaction to defend the indefensible DJ speaks a lot to their own mindset and level of customer care.

Yes, I am in fact to good to find myself in this situation, EVER. Not in the last 30 years, and not in the next. Sorry - but a lack of self assurance and due diligence on your part does not equate with any risk on my part.

MAYBE this, maybe that, and maybe you should actually pay attention to where the story starts and ends instead of imagining your own fantasy version of the "poor railroaded DJ victim." Yes, I do know the DJ's story - he got busted for being a dumb-ass participant in this fiasco and handed back $200 to save his ass. That's how this sh** goes down in the real world, and I suspect you know that already.
 

Proformance

DJ Extraordinaire
Nov 6, 2006
3,329
If anything, I over-dressed when starting out. It wasn't until I grossly over-dressed (I was in formal and the groom was in jeans) that I learned to fit the occasion. If the gig was a beach wedding then the shirt might have been just right. Without having more info, it's silly to try and pass judgement on him. You're just buying the B.S. that hack reporter was spewing.
WTF?
The booking specified TUXEDO.
What part of that written detail requires more information?
Do you typically promise a formal dress code to your customer and then show up casual?
How often do you mentally downgrade your bookings?
 

Proformance

DJ Extraordinaire
Nov 6, 2006
3,329
You're basing any of your information on what ONE party is stating. That is not enough, in any capacity, to tell you the WHOLE story. Without the WHOLE story, you cannot make a judgement. What you can make are assumptions - and you know what happens if you do that. In any kind of disagreement, no true judgement can be made without hearing the details of both sides.

***
Bride is low on cash and decides to try to get money back
Bride decides to confront DJ with news crew - doesn't even bother talking to him first
Bride gets some money back (not due to her being right)
***

The 'how it happened' listed above is just as accurate with facts as yours is.

What is it about this Bride that you personally identify with and need to defend?
Is it the part about the Bride being an unprepared hack, a Bridezilla or something else? Is it that she wore a tank top and got upset that others didn't dress up? Seriously, how many complaints are you typically fielding? From everyone except you, this truly is a no brainer - and your chosen response is queerly out of place.
You want to believe you're somehow impartial or fair, but you're actually being the worst kind of liar.
You won't "judge" the DJ for blatant abuses but, you don't hesitate at all to judge the bride for wearing (what you think) is a tank top.

It's precisely your inability to make sound judgements rather than practice judgemental-ism that produces the dishonesty of mediocrity.
 

ittigger

Hundred Acre Industry Icon
Feb 1, 2011
13,248
Western Maryland
You want to believe you're somehow impartial or fair, but you're actually being the worst kind of liar.
You won't "judge" the DJ for blatant abuses but, you don't hesitate at all to judge the bride for wearing (what you think) is a tank top.

It's precisely your inability to make sound judgements rather than practice judgemental-ism that produces the dishonesty of mediocrity.
And you want to believe you know more than everyone else somehow, but you're actually being the worst kind of liar. I (and others) won't judge because there isn't enough information to judge. You have taken information from one side of the argument and accepted it as fact. This is not honesty in any way - most importantly to the bride and the DJ. The result of this is your inability to make sound and effective judgements which directly affects your interactions with others, among other things.

I didn't judge her for wearing a tank top. I stated she wore one - is stating that one wore a tank top being judgemental? Are you part of this hyper-sensitive movement with the current generation? Do you need a teddy bear or an award to feel better?
 
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ittigger

Hundred Acre Industry Icon
Feb 1, 2011
13,248
Western Maryland
That so many here share a knee jerk reaction to defend the indefensible DJ speaks a lot to their own mindset and level of customer care.
Reserving judgement until you hear the other side of the story is defending the DJ? That's a real big reach! If you believe it is, then I will agree - and I'll also tell you that if I heard only his side of the story, I would reserve judgement until I heard her side. This is called fairness, this is called honesty and this is exactly how court rooms are run.

'Customer care' is not bowing to a customer just because they claim they were treated poorly or did not get what they wanted. NO business would be in existence under this formula.
 

ittigger

Hundred Acre Industry Icon
Feb 1, 2011
13,248
Western Maryland
WTF?
The booking specified TUXEDO.
What part of that written detail requires more information?
Do you typically promise a formal dress code to your customer and then show up casual?
How often do you mentally downgrade your bookings?
And you have evidence of this information where? Do you also have evidence to provide that this dj did in fact receive this information himself or was it a last minute job from some 'dj farm', which may not have sent him the information he needed to provide the level of service requested. Please share this information with the class.

Because you seem to know so much about his side of the story, the booking and the written details - I'm wondering if you hired him and failed to give him the info needed to successfully complete the task - and then left him on the hook for the refund.
 
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DJ TJ

DJ Extraordinaire
Oct 20, 2013
1,747
It was obvious to me after less than a minute into the video (and that's all I cared to watch), if what she says is true in the fact that the dj told her that he had a better paying gig and was sending a replacement then I too would be looking for any screw up for retribution. That's one of the most dumbshit things you can say to clients. I would be thinking.....what, you don't value my business enough to warrant showing up yourself? He could have used any other excuse but instead made himself and the industry look bad once again.
 

ittigger

Hundred Acre Industry Icon
Feb 1, 2011
13,248
Western Maryland
It was obvious to me after less than a minute into the video (and that's all I cared to watch), if what she says is true in the fact that the dj told her that he had a better paying gig and was sending a replacement then I too would be looking for any screw up for retribution. That's one of the most dumbshit things you can say to clients. I would be thinking.....what, you don't value my business enough to warrant showing up yourself? He could have used any other excuse but instead made himself and the industry look bad once again.
As pertains to the 2nd video, I agree. The 1st video is on page 1.
 

ittigger

Hundred Acre Industry Icon
Feb 1, 2011
13,248
Western Maryland
Yes, I do know the DJ's story - he got busted for being a dumb-ass participant in this fiasco and handed back $200 to save his ass. That's how this sh** goes down in the real world, and I suspect you know that already.
The only way you could possibly know the DJ's story is:
A: You operate in the same manner
B: You have direct knowledge of this situation

Anything else is an assumption on your part.
 

Ausumm

Day Late and a Dollar Short
Oct 21, 2008
10,494
55
Bethlehem PA
www.mikefoxx.com
I'm not the DJ in this story but, apparently you have been or at least can imagine yourself to be. Sorry, but I don't share your luckluster views on customer care, or your half hearted commitment to professionalism.

If you want to GET REAL then come to terms with the fact that the story IS NOT ABOUT THE DJ. It's about what can happen when bride's BOOK ONLINE. Apparently, they may end up with a DJ who is unprepared, and ill informed, and under dressed. That so many here share a knee jerk reaction to defend the indefensible DJ speaks a lot to their own mindset and level of customer care.

Yes, I am in fact to good to find myself in this situation, EVER. Not in the last 30 years, and not in the next. Sorry - but a lack of self assurance and due diligence on your part does not equate with any risk on my part.

MAYBE this, maybe that, and maybe you should actually pay attention to where the story starts and ends instead of imagining your own fantasy version of the "poor railroaded DJ victim." Yes, I do know the DJ's story - he got busted for being a dumb-ass participant in this fiasco and handed back $200 to save his ass. That's how this sh** goes down in the real world, and I suspect you know that already.
Again, you need to start sh*t with people in order to feel better.
And again....you don't know me as well as you think you.
In fact, you don't know me AT ALL!
Just because I am not rushing to judge this guy until I hear ALL the facts...
doesn't mean I "share his lackluster views"....or have a half-hearted commitment to professionalism.
If you actually comprehended anything I said...you'd see that I did NOT blindly take his side.
(Maybe the DJ was as professional as you are, and is being railroaded for a refund.
Maybe he WAS a totally lazy, low life jerk, and the bride deserves MORE THAN the $200 she got.
)

If this story is not about the DJ...it's because he was not included in the story.
And the reason WHY he is not included doesn't matter...
it only matters that we haven't heard his side...and neither have you.
 

wifedj

DJ Extraordinaire
Mar 20, 2008
1,594
Again, you need to start sh*t with people in order to feel better.
And again....you don't know me as well as you think you.
In fact, you don't know me AT ALL!
Just because I am not rushing to judge this guy until I hear ALL the facts...
doesn't mean I "share his lackluster views"....or have a half-hearted commitment to professionalism.
If you actually comprehended anything I said...you'd see that I did NOT blindly take his side.
(Maybe the DJ was as professional as you are, and is being railroaded for a refund.
Maybe he WAS a totally lazy, low life jerk, and the bride deserves MORE THAN the $200 she got.
)

If this story is not about the DJ...it's because he was not included in the story.
And the reason WHY he is not included doesn't matter...
it only matters that we haven't heard his side...and neither have you.
Listen Mike, if you intend to exchange banter with proformance (or mmm), abandon all common or any sense, for that measure, lest ye be consumed with frustration.