Weddings Wedding Coordinators ... Yeeesh!

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I have a wedding on Saturday and Wednesday I find out there's a WC involved. I asked the bride several times if one was involved and the answer's been no. If I had known I would have included the WC in the finalization.

I hate these vermin. None I've worked with have been worth the price their charging and they all like to justify their existance by changing around established agendas, pushing the the agenda so hard that nobody, including the bride and groom, can enjoy themselves, and getting into an ego fest by making it all about them instead of all about the bride and groom.

The fortunate side is that this one seems to have some experience. She has a certification but all that means is that she passed the tests.

So, Wednesday she drops an e-mail on me with "her" agenda in it. She hadn't even discussed it with the bride and groom yet; that happened yesterday; just 48 hours before the wedding!

So, her agenda is different from the one the bride and groom set with me. I fire off my agenda to her and point out the differences, the fact that this came from them, the fact that I am a low pressure DJ that lets the bride and groom set the tone, the fact that I am the MC and run the flow, and asked how long she's been a WC.

She informed me that she was taken aback by my reply. What do you expect when you jump in my turf so late honey? I simply told her that I was not aware of her involvement and have dealt with many WCs that just don't have a clue and almost ruined weddings because of their clueless approach. If she doesn't like it, tough!

So, she met with the bride and groom yesterday and e-mails me updates to my agenda. It included some introduction changes so, I'm happy for that. I have less people to introduce. But, she also included instructions to scrap the closer I do which includes the DJ Drop that mentions the company name; the only time that really happens. I talked with the bride and that was not discussed at their meeting so this is the WC's bright idea.

I updated the agenda and e-mailed it to the WC with a the following:

Myrna:

Attached please find tomorrow's agenda. I had a phone conversation with Lexi a few moments ago and she informed me that my closer was not discussed yesterday. Please note that the agenda still has it in as my client has approved it.

It would be very much appreciated that you stick to your job tomorrow and let me do mine. As I understand it from Lexi, your job is to take care of their needs for the day. I will handle the agenda and flow as that is part of my job.

Regards,
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She will be told in no uncertain terms to bug off if she tries to push or change anything further.

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Glad to see the two of you are getting off to a great start Tom... :sqerr: :sqlaugh:


I can see the name of the movie screenplay already...

As The Ego's Clash


You'll have to await it's arrival in a theater near you, to find out who is the shooter, and who is the shootee... :D
 
Rick:

My ego won't clash with hers.

Update:

An e-mail from her about a minute or so ago:

I will stay out of your way.
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I honestly have no problems working with WCs and have worked with a few good ones; however, most have not been.

I also found out from the bride that she was hired to be a day-of coordinator and to only be concerned about their needs; basically a paid go-fer. It was not their intention to have her make any changes to the agenda.

I also did receive confermation of the changes to the announcements from the bride late last night via e-mail. That is the only reason why i updated the agenda at all.

Based on what the bride is telling me, this lady has overstepped her authority.
 
Jamie Simpson said:
Tom,

I feel like you lost out on a real opportunity here.
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Jamie:

Yes, I could have done it differently, but in this case I am finding that this is one person I would not want to work with in the future and here's why:

1. She represented herself as the wedding coordinator when she was really hired to take care of the bride and groom's needs; nothing more. So, she misrepresented herself. The bride has told me as such.

2. She overstepped her bounds and she knew it. The bride told me that she had made it clear to her what she was being hired for. The bride told me that the package she picked from this lady was a day-of assistant package and not a coordinator package. She also told me what was included in that package and there was nothing indicating that the assistant would interact with any other vendors unless directed by the bride and groom. She was not authorized to contact me the first time or any subsequent times.

The bride is considering asking her to not show up tomorrow.

My e-mail to the WC was after I had confirmed some things with the bride.

This has made a stressful situation even more stressful for the bride.
 
TommyO said:
I hate these vermin. None I've worked with have been worth the price their charging and they all like to justify their existance by changing around established agendas, pushing the the agenda so hard that nobody, including the bride and groom, can enjoy themselves, and getting into an ego fest by making it all about them instead of all about the bride and groom.
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TommyO said:
I honestly have no problems working with WCs and have worked with a few good ones
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These 2 quotes seem to contradict each other.

I have found WC's to be like any other vendor. Some are good at what they do, some are not.
 
Her excuse on Saturday, "I thought they had picked the last minute, full service package". Apparently the pricing she has for her Last Minute/Full Service package is the same as her Day-Of Assistant package. I could be negative and say, "what ever" but I'll be positive and say, "people make mistakes".

She pretty much stayed in the background and did help when it came time to line folks up. In the end she was a nice lady worthy of being given the benefit of the doubt.

Towards the end of the night she told me that she liked the way I ran things and asked me for some cards for clients that have weddings but no DJ yet in 2010. They are all full service for her but she indicated that if they pick me then she and I will work together with the client to build an agenda for their day. That really does work for me.

I took her card and will post her link in the recommended section.
 
TommyO said:
Her excuse on Saturday, "I thought they had picked the last minute, full service package". Apparently the pricing she has for her Last Minute/Full Service package is the same as her Day-Of Assistant package. I could be negative and say, "what ever" but I'll be positive and say, "people make mistakes".

She pretty much stayed in the background and did help when it came time to line folks up. In the end she was a nice lady worthy of being given the benefit of the doubt.

Towards the end of the night she told me that she liked the way I ran things and asked me for some cards for clients that have weddings but no DJ yet in 2010. They are all full service for her but she indicated that if they pick me then she and I will work together with the client to build an agenda for their day. That really does work for me.

I took her card and will post her link in the recommended section.
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All things being equal I would not post her link in the "Recommended" section till we actually did a full blown event together .. Maybe even (2 or 3)
 
wonder if she was nice and not pushy
because you were firm from the start.
wonder how "involved" she would have been if you didn't set her straight!
 
silver fox said:
All things being equal I would not post her link in the "Recommended" section till we actually did a full blown event together .. Maybe even (2 or 3)
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Or until she posts mine on hers. In that case, I'll take the increase of popularity on Google.

Ausumm said:
wonder if she was nice and not pushy
because you were firm from the start.
wonder how "involved" she would have been if you didn't set her straight!
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That did cross my mind.
 
I've only had to deal with one or two planners over the years...
(thank HEAVEN!)
in all cases, they were simply there to make sure everything ran smoothly, and not to dominate the evening.
in fact, after exchanging some basic info about the night's events, they left me alone. Guess I got lucky.
I seem to have more problems with hall managers than planners...
 
As far as I'm concerned the worst ones are the "wedding ceremony" coordinators at the churches.....talk about having Napoleon complex in a dress....:sqerr:

Try getting pictures when these clueless people are hovering around where they don't need to be and making ridiculous decisions that make no sense....:sqeek:

Most of them make my blood boil.....:sqmad:

Of course, YMMV
 
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